I wanna make a drastic decision to start my life, advice?

Question

Okay, this is kind of a long story, but I'll try to put it in a nutshell. A year ago in the middle of my first year of college I had a falling out with my overly strict Korean father and left home. Ever since I've been moving from home to home (first one of my friends', then my aunt and uncle's, now one of my mom's friends and her family). I'm tired of the school I go to, my town, my job, and being tossed from home to home every few months. On top of that, last week I found out my boyfriend of 3 years is moving back to his hometown of Denver, CO. This is motivating me not only to finally decide on what I'm studying in school (I've been undeclared since I started), but to start my life. Before I even found out he was moving, I had been interested in transferring to a school in Denver for my last year of college. I have been there twice and fell in love with it. Honestly, it's where I've felt at home the most out of anywhere in my life. As for here in my town, I've never been fond of it and I've lived here all my life. I find it boring and I feel as if I have nothing here to motivate me to stay. I have a few close friends and my mother, but other than that I'm not compelled to be here at all.
I've started planning a moving process out in my head. My boyfriend is welcoming me with open arms to wherever he will live once he is established as long as I pay my half. He is moving sometime in February or March, and my ideal moving time would be next fall after I finish my spring semester and work all summer to earn extra money. I have almost $5,000 saved in the bank that I could use as a fallback until I find a job and am established. I am also fortunate that my job is corporate (I work as a server in a chain restaurant) and I could easily transfer stores and already have a job lined up before I move. The 2 schools I've found in the area are exactly what I'm looking for, and I have a great GPA and would probably easily transfer to either one and maybe get a scholarship or 2 in the process. The problem is, I haven't spoken to my father since I left home. He is the one in charge of everything financially, and it's highly doubtful he'd support me in this even though it concerns my education. He hates my boyfriend basically cause he's my boyfriend (like I said, overly strict Korean father). I have prepaid tuition, but it only covers in-state schools and I don't know how much it would cover as far as out-of-state (the organization is supposed to give me a call sometime soon so I can find out).
How do I approach my father about this, especially since I haven't spoken to him in a year, and because I know he's going to be outraged no matter what? I've decided to myself this is what I want to do, I want to be in a new city that I love with my best friend/boyfriend and be able to start clean with my life, but I don't want to sacrifice my education. Help?

Answer 1

well i think you should save your money up more. Hopefully maybe you will get more money until feb. or march rolls along. And then if you have ALL the money to pay for your rent and everything like food and maybe doctor if you need one and insurance, gas, etc. MAKE Sure its EVEN A LITTLE OVER than you need because if its not then i garantee you, you will run out and will have nobody to lean on.



And tell your dad calmy that you are now in colledge, you are an adult and it is YOUR life, not his. Tell him you decide your life and ask him if he can help. If he says no then try find a job that pays more and get the money you need for your move.



Take care.

Answer 2

If you move to a different city, it would be like running away from your dad. you have to talk to him. Ask your dad to meet you at his favorite place to eat to talk to him. Tell him what's going on maybe he'll understand. If your boyfriend does move don't move with him. Education comes first no matter what. I can't make you do anything but just do whats right. Trust your heart. If you move and you get a phone call that your dad is dead would you be able to live with your self for not talking to him even when you had the chance. What ever you do I hope you make the right decision. Good luck!

Answer 3

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