I'm thinking about telling a secret to a family member?

Question

*Repost due to lack of details*
Okay here it is , What the relative on the bottom was watching
was the same gender kissing when they are that gender aswell.
I have nothing against it , just , i can't let it sink into me.
That relative is just SO close to me and it hurts me just to think they are like that..
It makes me feel like the family can be torn apart by it..I can't truly explain it , its just that.
Adding these details might help now..I found history of these videos and quite an amount of them.
They started watching these videos for five days , they stopped now , its bin three days.
Read the rest if you want to know the rest , it's causing me anxiety to know why they are doing
this , ---I KNOW--- this is non of my buisness , but they are all ready married to someone else.
So i truly don't know what to think of this..
Well.(part of this is a repeat)
For awhile now , my relative has watched excessive videos of something
of their interest which I never thought they would have in.
The person is so close to me .
I've told this secret to my trusted friends , it relieved the pain a little ..
I need to talk to the relative that has bin watching these videos.
I'm afraid of what might happen..
denial (saying they didn't watch those videos) , hatred for each other will happen , family
will be torn apart.
It's difficult for me to sleep because of this secret , i get anxiety and my heart beats faster.
I feel like i need to do this , if i don't it will affect me for life forever !
I need their response , they're love , the truth. (relative with a secret)
*IMPORTANT PART*
When I told my trusted and closest friends , I literately couldn't speak..
When i tried to tell them the start of the secret , I literately broke down and started crying..
I could hardly get through word to word , i gasped for air , a tear came out ,
as im typing this , i can hardly breathe..my heart is beating so fast..
Please , i need help on how to talk with this family member , i have proof on the
computer's history. I think i might cause them to cry.. I truly am lost.
I've gotten anxiety since i found out , i can't go to sleep for awhile cause my
heart beats so fast i can hardly breathe , i feel like i'm about to vomit.
Please tell me how to go about this conversation with this family member..
do i say .. (what i call the relative) I need to talk to you..
I've bin getting anxiety lately because of your secret..(i doubt i can say this without crying..)
They'd probably say :What secret?!
I tell them about the secret
(they possibly reject it)
I begin crying so much.
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What i truly want is the truth , they're comfort , a hug from them.
They stop searching these videos up , so I think it might be a little easier..
I'm holding tears back right now , my heart is just hurting overall because of this secret..
Please help me on how i go about this..


-Thank you to anyone who has read this , i need dear help.
*I need a lot of feedback , even if somebody already stated good help*
again , thank you..

Answer 1

Well, I don't see anything wrong with talking to this person, and instead of saying I know your secret say something like, I happened to notice this and then mention what you saw.

Anyways if it is just you two talking you don't have to worry about a family being torn apart unless who you are talking about is your spouse. Which is what I am gathering from the deep emotional pain and possibility of a home being broken apart, in that case they might have a addiction of some sorts. or a fetish and it's just something they need to talk about. There is no harm in pointing something out to between two people. You don't have to spread the word to Aunt Edna, and Uncle Ted, or Grandma Jones.



You can talk directly one on one with this person and express your feelings and also tell them you don't hold anything against them and am not judging them.

Answer 2

I'm assuming what you're saying is that a particular family member of yours is looking up videos of homosexual or bisexual pornography. Is this correct? If so, don't jump to conclusions. Firstly, it does not necessarily mean that this family member is unhappily married, or hiding their sexual orientation. It is normal for anyone, single or married, to be curious about sex with the same gender. It does not mean that they will take action. Secondly, if this family member IS questioning their sexual preference or having doubts about their marriage, it is not something that they will be able to hide forever. Eventually it will come out. But again, you do not know that this is the case, so it is not something you need to concern yourself over until you have all the facts. If you must find out what the deal is, casually mention that you found something on the computer. Don't overreact, don't call it "gross" or anything of the like, because this will only further embarrass the person. Simply mention that you came across it to either the wife or husband, and ask if they know anything about it. Take it from there.

Whatever the outcome, try to control your anxiety. This kind of thing happens more often than most are aware, and although it can be hard on the family, it is life.

Answer 3

Iam sorry - i have a very short attention span....

What I am gathering is that you caught two men or women in your family, who are both married to other people, kissing each other, right? And in addition to the kissing, you've discovered that this person/people are watching gay pornography as well? Although my opinion on the matter is different from yours, I can understand your grief. This sounds pretty "earth-shattering," an I'm sorry you have to go through this.

My opinion is this: It may break a part of your family apart, but this is really NOT that impossible to wrap my mind around. Worse things have happened in history. If the family member is gay, then so be it. This is not something that should "hurt" you. You did nothing to cause them to be gay and in reality they are doing nothing wrong, outside of cheating on his/her spouse, which is pretty wrong.

I'm guessing that you are rather young --- although this is a serious situation, my advice is this: Forget about it.

I know that seems harsh and "unimaginable," but what would you say? How would you approach the situation without being an emotional and confused WRECK? It's likely that this person will totally reject the claim and possibly break off the relationship.

Again I am sorry that you have to experience this, but I genuinely don't believe it would do you any good to get involved. Let the adults do as they may and life will go on.

Hope I helped.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

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