I'm thinking about telling a secret to a family member?

Question

Well.
For awhile now , my relative has watched excessive videos of something
of their interest which I never thought they would have in.
The person is so close to me .
I've told this secret to my trusted friends , it relieved the pain a little ..
I need to talk to the relative that has bin watching these videos.
I'm afraid of what might happen..
denial (saying they didn't watch those videos) , hatred for each other will happen , family
will be torn apart.
It's difficult for me to sleep because of this secret , i get anxiety and my heart beats faster.
I feel like i need to do this , if i don't it will affect me for life forever !
I need their response , they're love , the truth. (relative with a secret)
*IMPORTANT PART*
When I told my trusted and closest friends , I literately couldn't speak..
When i tried to tell them the start of the secret , I literately broke down and started crying..
I could hardly get through word to word , i gasped for air , a tear came out ,
as im typing this , i can hardly breathe..my heart is beating so fast..
Please , i need help on how to talk with this family member , i have proof on the
computer's history. I think i might cause them to cry.. I truly am lost.
I've gotten anxiety since i found out , i can't go to sleep for awhile cause my
heart beats so fast i can hardly breathe , i feel like i'm about to vomit.
Please tell me how to go about this conversation with this family member..
do i say .. (what i call the relative) I need to talk to you..
I've bin getting anxiety lately because of your secret..(i doubt i can say this without crying..)
They'd probably say :What secret?!
I tell them about the secret
(they possibly reject it)
I begin crying so much.
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What i truly want is the truth , they're comfort , a hug from them.
They stop searching these videos up , so I think it might be a little easier..
I'm holding tears back right now , my heart is just hurting overall because of this secret..
Please help me on how i go about this..


-Thank you to anyone who has read this , i need dear help.
*I need a lot of feedback , even if somebody already stated good help*
again , thank you..

Answer 1

If your talking about porn, it isn't really that big of a deal and it will be really awkward not hateful. So if you really feel you must bring it up. Then do it, but he/she will probably be pretty uncomfortable talking about it

Answer 2

i'm assuming what you're asserting is that a undeniable kin member of yours is calling up video clips of gay or bisexual pornography. is this superb? if so, do not leap to conclusions. at the beginning, it would not unavoidably advise that this kin member is unhappily married, or hiding their sexual orientation. that's usual for absolutely everyone, single or married, to have an interest by intercourse with an identical gender. It would not advise that they are going to take action. Secondly, if this kin member IS questioning their sexual selection or having doubts approximately their marriage, it incredibly is not some thing that they may be able to conceal consistently. finally it is going to pop out. yet lower back, you don't be attentive to that that's the case, so it incredibly is not some thing you will possibly desire to project your self over till you have each and all of the information. in case you will possibly desire to locate out what the deal is, casually point out which you got here upon some thing on the computing gadget. do not overreact, do not call it "gross" or something of the like, because of the fact this might basically further embarrass the guy. only point out which you got here upon it to the two the spouse or husband, and ask in the event that they be attentive to something approximately it. Take it from there. regardless of the consequence, attempt to regulate your stress. the form of element occurs extra oftentimes than maximum are conscious, and in spite of the actuality that it incredibly is troublesome on the kin, that's existence.

Answer 3

I mean it'd be helpful to know what the videos were specifically of.... It's hard for me to tell you what to do without that information.

Answer 4

I'm guessing you mean porn? O3o well could you please add information to this as to what relation you have to them (uncle, aunt, big sister, little brother?) I'll come back to this question... I just need to know because it could totally chamge the situation. Wil come back and revise my answer.... or just email me. Whatever you prefer

Answer 5

Well, what's the secret exactly?

because it could be something normal, however if it does bother you then i see no reason why you should not talk to them about it. just ask if you can talk to them in private.



Best of luck.

Answer 6

I'm sorry, but I can't really help without knowing what type of videos.



But it sounds like you have anxiety issues.

Answer 7

well honestly, i find it hard for anyone to answer your question without knowing what they are watching...

Answer 8

What is it they have been watching



just hint