i hate my mom's boyfriend what do i do?

Question

i really dont like my mom's bf. hes nice to her and stuff but i just dont like him. i think its because i think my mom and dad will get back together. i dont like him because he ruins things for me. he ruined my thanksgiving because he had to come over. i had to meet his kids and it was awkward like they were starting to get like more into their relationship. i really cant stand him. him and his kids are going to come with us to new york and now im not going i told my mom that i wont go if he goes and she chose him over me. every since they became a couple my mom and i arent close and i dont talk to her unless its to yell at her and tell her i hate her boyfriend. i know thats mean i just have no other way of saying it. i told her why i dont like him and that i dont want him around but she still insists he comes around. i cant stand him and now that he has to come to new york with us i have to miss it- and we are going for me, but im not going if he goes. so what do i do? how do i tell my mom she needs to decide- me or him? help! please this is really really hard on me.

Answer 1

Cry and get over it. Haven't you seen The Sandlot. Eventually, you'll grow up and like him.

Answer 2

Sit down with her and tell her how you feel. But be nice to her right before that and make sure she is in a good mood. But you should want her to be happy. So ask her how you guys can work something out between each other. Maybe her boyfriend isn't that bad and you are just miss understanding. It's not like he hurts you. So i would just talk to my mom if I were you.

Answer 3

I've been there, done that! You just need to realise that he makes your mum happy, and your parents arent likely to get back together.



Asking your mum to decide between you and him will hurt her so much. Your mum obviously really likes this guy if she has introduced him to you, and he comes around a lot.

All i can say is;

Grow up, toughen up this is just one of the many things in life you're not going to like. You'll get over it.

Answer 4

Easy question.



You do the same thing you do to get rid of YOUR OWN BOYFRIENDS:



Be really nice to him.



"What?!?!" you say! Yes, be nice to him. Your anger towards him and attitude is just a source of contention, and will probably only bring them closer together. It's reverse psychology.



The same thing applies to trying to break up boyfriends/girlfriends of your best friend that you don't like. You just give them a reason to go, "Your friend really isn't a good person. He/she is just jealous of us. You should get rid of that friend."



Trust me, this works.



You don't need to estrange your mother over this crap. If you're just nice (or at least AMBIVALENT about the whole thing), he'll get bored.



If you ignore it, sometimes it DOES go away!!

Answer 5

Ur not alone:( I have the same problem, in fact right now, I am on my laptop at his house! His daughter is a true Bratt! And today I've spent 8 hours with him and my mom, she is ignoring me and likes him more.

Answer 6

well you need to give him a chance i now why you don't like him it's because he is dating your mom because i now he is not mean to you jst kinda do well ask him stuff so you can find stuff in commen because come on your mom is not going to break up with him cause of you but i still not your mom loves you and her bf to because sorry and all but he sounds like a nice guy maybe it's you because your parents broke up if you want to talk to me mail me at [e-mail]

Answer 7

Your parents probably are not going to get together. Being mean to your moms boyfriend only hurts her. Perhaps you can understand she deserves some happiness and try to be as mature as you can around him.

Answer 8

first of all clam down

call your father about that

call the Government about that

or or................

tell your mum polite

ignore your mum's boyfriend

go out with your friends and tell them

relax outside or your bedroom