I'm 18 and my mom won't let me go to sleepovers?

Question

SO I'm 18 years old I have a part-time job during the school year and a summer full-time job. I am able to drive myself, try my best to be responsible for my own things and I am going to college in the Fall.

A lot of the times my group of my friends get together they have sleepovers, and every time i ask to go to the sleepovers my mom says no and it turns into this big thing. I have tried to make her feel comfortable by getting to her meet the parents and my friends and giving her their information, but she never goes for it and says yes. It's really annoying because I am a young adult now and I hate being treated like a young child. Am i just being crazy or am i right to be annoyed with my mother. how can I get my mom to stop doing this? Please help me I'm sick of this

Answer 1

You are 18 years old and obviously work your *** off, if you can drive yourself there and get yourself back, it shouldn't be an issue

Answer 2

Well she is your mother and puts a roof over your head so she gets to make the rules. However, I can relate to how you feel. My parents aren't as strict, I mean they let me go to sleep overs, but if I am hanging out with friends they don't like it if I stay out until 2 or 3 AM, which I think isn't fair just because all my friends seem to be allowed to do whatever they want. I think that once people are as old as we are, parents should loosen the reigns and give their children the freedom to make their own choices, because otherwise how will you ever become your own person? What is the true reason your mom won't let you have sleepovers? I know my dad doesn't like me to go out late because he's afraid I'd be with boys, drink, etc, and he is always going to feel that way. I think if our parents accept that we have our own lives, that we are individuals not just their children, and if they respect us enough to give us the freedom to make our own choices, then they'd be more understanding. Uhm I don't really know what you could do, as I said, I'm kind of in the same situation. I'm graduating in 2 years though so I'll be able to move out soon and do whatever I want. If you're not going to be dorming in the fall, you could consider renting a cheap room near your school if you can afford it if it really bothers you that much. If you already tried taking to her, I don't think there's really anything else you could do. The decision to let you go a little bit has to come from her.

Answer 3

why dont you have the sleepover at your house? that way your mom will be able to keep an eye on you guys and see how harmless sleepovers are.

Answer 4

So I obviously don't know you or your mom but I wouldn't say that your mom not letting you go to sleepovers is that bad of an idea. I'm not just being on your mom's side and saying do whatever she says. Like you're 18 you should be able to stay out late at night or date whoever you want or go shopping whenever you want and if she says no to that then you should be mad. However, Sleepovers when you are 18 is not like sleepovers when you are 14 since you can drive, drink, do drugs, have sex. Its really just another word for staying up all night and when you're 18 and thats when you hear about people who die from drunk driving or get raped when they are out doing things at 3AM. When I was 18 I was able to stay out say 11 or 12 on a weekend but my parents never wanted me to be gone the entire night and I did this once and this upset them a lot. It's not really like you should have a strict curfew its just that you should be able to tell your mom you will be home sometime before midnight because she probably can't sleep if she knows you are gone all night. And if you're going to college in the fall that's like a month away so why are you even asking this question because in college you can do whatever you want. Have fun!

Answer 5

You are living in your mom's house so you are still under that house rules. Even if you are an adult.

If you do not like the house rules of your mom use the resources for your job and go get your own place. Then you can make your own rule and be responsible for yourself.

It is not really all that difficult to figure out.

Answer 6

Respectfully tell her that since you are legally an adult you should have more freedom. I mean she lets you drive around but not go to a sleepover?! I'm 13 and I go to sleepovers.. Wtf? Tell her to stop treating you like a child.

Answer 7

Shes crazy.

Answer 8

Your 18 you can legally do it without your mums consent

Answer 9

Sorry, you can't change the way your mom takes care of you. Sometimes moms cant let go of the fact that you are getting older and are turning into an adult. Don't push the issue with her. When you go off to college, you can do things you want to.

Answer 10

You don't have to listen to her anymore. You are a free soul now.

Answer 11

you are 18, she cant tell you what to do anymore, yes you are under her roof, but this is just ridiculous she wont let you...its not hurting anyone..all kids and teens go to sleepovers, they are no big deal ! maybe she is scared something will happen? your mom is the crazy one...what i would do is try to explain to her nothing bad will happen and no need to worry, all you are going to do is watch movies, order pizza and talk ( even if you dont do that lol ) if she still doesnt agree, i would just go anways, you are 18 and an adult! explain you are 18 and an adult now and she cant control you anymore

Answer 12

you are an adult now so I suggest you sit down with your mum and explain to her that things are gonna be different around here from now on and that she better start getting used to it !