Question:
Should I feel guilty that my mom is buying me stuff?
anonymous
2007-04-22 16:00:11 UTC
The reason I ask is because she doesn't much money so she bought me a bunch of clothes on her credit cards for my birthday. I feel so bad but it makes her feel good since she hardly buys me stuff. She wanted to buy me some stuff for my birthday & I can't help but to feel bad...
Fifteen answers:
dydasgirl
2007-04-22 16:51:51 UTC
You shouldnt feel bad unless you begged for it or made her feel bad to get her to buy it. A mothers happiness comes from the happiness of her children, even when they are grown.I have come to the conclusion that every average American lives almost their entire adult life owing money to someone, and as a mom I can say owing a little money to make my kids happy is more fulfilling than owing the gas company or a car payment. She did a kind thing without selfishness and that just tells me she is a good loving mom.I hope you appreciate her because alot of peoples moms are not, they just dont put someone elses best interest at heart anymore. I am sure that she hasnt put herself so far under with one credit card purchase that she will lose any of the basic neccessities life requires. Im sure your mom will be okay and she probably feels good about helping you out.
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2016-10-28 21:26:52 UTC
If it wasn't each and every of the time and if she presented and if it wasn't lots of funds then i think of it extremely is okay. possibly your mom has the money and needs to smash you slightly. My mom reported she continuously needed to help me get by college (yet, I moved out very own motives). specifically circumstances as quickly as we pass paying for she'll grant to purchase me something. it extremely isn't any longer everytime and that i do no longer ask her to...I verify she is okay w/ it. Your mom possibly is happy with you and needs to smash you slightly. as long because it extremely isn't any longer each and every time or a ton of funds it extremely is possibly ok. I comprehend your thoughts nonetheless. it extremely is an akward time b/c you're installation your individual independence. reliable good fortune!
susie
2007-04-22 17:02:58 UTC
That is so sweet of you to think about Mom's finances. You must be a very good son and she must love you a lot to do stuff like that for you. Next time...tell her that a good home cooked meal and a homemade cake would be nice...and that is what you would like to have the most from her. Always be good to your mother.
anonymous
2007-04-22 19:37:14 UTC
You shouldn't really feel bad if she wants to get you gifts for you birthday. It is her choice,it sounds like she is just trying to make up for past birthdays. So cheer up!
Choqs
2007-04-22 16:07:58 UTC
You sound very mature, recognizing your Mom's financial situations. Next time she wants to buy you something you know she can't really afford suggest you just go window shopping as spending time with her is more important and would mean more to you than stuff.

Make her day!
amazingly intelligent
2007-04-22 16:22:57 UTC
I assume you are working and living independently? Mother's day is coming up. Write her a check. Save up for it if you have to do so. Let her keep her pride. Make this a yearly tradition.
ash4823
2007-04-22 16:08:43 UTC
Hey there. I say you should'nt feel guilty. Just let her know your concern and let her know that you would love her even if she gave you dirt for your birthday! She's your mother and she'll love you no matter what so you wont hurt her feelings
anonymous
2007-04-22 16:03:55 UTC
You shouldnt feel guilty ur mom loves you an is willing to do anything for you its obvious..
Rhonda B
2007-04-22 16:14:28 UTC
Don't feel bad, let her enjoy being able to give you gifts, do something nice for her in return!!



Good luck! ;)
anonymous
2007-04-22 16:09:19 UTC
Surprise her with help on her bills. If she has a difficult time accepting assistance, just do it and don't tell her :)
class act
2007-04-22 16:03:14 UTC
Need more details: How old are you? With whom do you live? Do you work?
anonymous
2007-04-22 16:04:51 UTC
im so deeply touch with your mom, dude.. dont think bout it.. your mom just really loves you. dont give her a problem, dude.. just be a good son with her..
skcs11
2007-04-22 16:03:48 UTC
that is what parents do, sacrafice for thier children. happy b-day
anonymous
2007-04-22 16:02:47 UTC
awwww so sweet. do something nice for her
anonymous
2007-04-22 16:49:08 UTC
its simple a.be honest b.tell her how you feel


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