Should we pay my sister?

Question

OK, In 2003 my sis signed a bedroom set for me & hubby, that same year she added $800 to that balance for a bed for her & her hubbie. She mentioned her credit was very bad, I offered to give her $1K to cover bankrupcy and a little extra, that would of took care of the bedroom set too. Well in 2006 we find that she never did bankrupcy yet used the $1K. Now she's in collections for the bedroom set and wants us to pay for the settlement fees the collection agency is offering, which is $2260 and she is willing to give us our $1K back. My hubby says NO because that's the deal we made and why did she bring this up years later, I say let's just pay because I don't want to ruin my family relationship like other families.
What should I do? Be in good standards with my sister and all family or obey my husband and not have any problems with him? Thanks for your advice and God bless.

Answer 1

see if you could pay half and make both parties happy?!?!?!?!

Answer 2

Paying her teaches her nothing. It enables her bad judgment when it comes to spending. Sometimes tough love is the best answer. You can think about what is easiest for right now which is to pay, in which case a year or so down the road she comes back to you for more money. Or you can think about what's best for her in five years time and not pay.



The only way I would give her money is if she was committed to changing her destructive spending habits. That means written budget she swears to stick to. A budget she shows you every month.



Here's what doesn't make sense. The C.A. is offering a 2260 settlement. She doesn't have 2260 or she wouldn't be coming to you. So how is she going to give you 1000 dollars. Maybe you tell her to keep the 1000 as a gift but she's responsible for the other 1160.

Answer 3

Why should you pay the bill, you gave her amount of $1k. Well sometime you can't worry about ruin a family relationship, when they are trying to get over on your. Listen to your husband advice. Pray on it.

Answer 4

I personally would say no because you paid her for it with a little extra. She was irresponsible with the money and with her finances so she has to settle that. As for ruining a family relationship, it doesn't sound like she is so concerned with that at this point or she wouldn't expect you to pay for something twice. Go with your husband on this one.

Answer 5

Why should you have to pay even more to help her out again when she lied to you in the first place when you tried to help her out? How do you know for sure that she's not lying again and wont end up using the money for something else?



I'd go with your husband on this one. Your family should stick up for you too cause she's in the wrong and she's need to realise it in order to do something about it and help herself.

Answer 6

She bought something for you two right? You did not make her pay for it? She took the 1K and did not use it for what she was supposed to. She did not pay on the loan. That is her fault.



Tell your sister that you did not get her in this situation, she did.

Answer 7

I think you should stand by your husband. You paid what you were supposed to. She did what she did to her self.. Let her get her self out of it.. Thats not your problem... When is comes to marriage to stick with your husband because thats who your family is... I understand you have sisters and parents and all that good stuff... but the only thing that matters before the rest of the family is your husband... thats your family... I love my family to dealth...but no one will come in between me and my husband... He is my family and I live for him.... I love my family too but my husband is number 1.

Answer 8

you already paid her, its not your fault she didnt use it correctly. do you think she will pay off this debt now, or use it to do whatever she wishes with again. how much money was the bedroom set you bought on her card?

Answer 9

your sister is trying to con you. tell her its her problem and she has to deal with it. they cant take the b-room set away

from you it is now your property. let her be mad she will get over it.