Why are the bio moms always jealous of the stepmom?

Question

I'm 14, a girl and my bio mom is very jealous of my relationship with my stepmom. She always says bad things about my stepmom and dad infront of me. My stepmom and me get along very well. My dad and stepmom have been married for about a year. I'm closer to my stepmom then my real mom. She's so much nicer and actually cares about me.Why is my mom jealous of her so much?

Answer 1

It could be control issues?



She might be mad that her and your dad are not together



She might feel left out



She might just be an anger bitter person



Just a few thoughts, good luck

Answer 2

I understand your frustration. I'm coping with a identical problem however my Boys are 11 and 10 w/BM being bi-polar. It is tough to get full custody. The BM I need to handle has been in & out of the mental hospitals for the 3.5 years i've known my boys. This year she has spent a total of 3 weeks out of the intellectual medical institution. She was caught in a excessive pace chase w/child in the auto 2.5 yrs ago. But, they're nonetheless inclined to let the boys see her. My H and that i will not be glad, in view that we live in another state, we have decided that any visitation with the boys might be supervised on my own, my husband, or with the grandparents (we have now a pleasant relationship with). The boys ask about when they may be able to see their mom..It has been over two years because of her in/out of hospital. We will now not allow them to be with her if she is not taking her meds or has not too long ago had an episode. A just right legal professional and documentation of the whole thing she does and says. I want you the great.

Answer 3

That's too bad that your mom is feeling that way. I bet that is hard on you too. My opinion on jealous people is that they are just so miserable inside. They are not happy. So, if you just realize that she isn't happy, maybe that will help you to have some compassion for her and help you to deal with the situation better. Also, try to help her see what is good about her life, because maybe she doesn't see it. Maybe she is looking around at how "happy" other people are and not realizing how good she has it. Compliment her on what you see her doing well. Don't gush about how much you like your step mom. Help her out of her bad mood/jealousy issues and maybe she will be more caring too. Wouldn't that be nice? Unfortunately, the jealous people in my life never really changed so I can't really tell you how to handle that. Maybe read up on how to help jealous people? And see if there is something you can do to help her. For you to take the time to ask this question means that you are concerned. So, maybe this is a good challenge for you. But, let go of the outcome because I have learned that you can't change people. Only how you deal with them. So, try to help if you can. But also, understand that her jealousy comes from her unhappiness so maybe just not let her moodiness bother you so much. I hope things get better for you and your mom.

Answer 4

As a step mom I can tell you what I tell my son. No matter what your mom says about me I will never talk bad about her. You live with me and I love you as much as I love my own daughter. I will always be here for you. Some mom's don't know how to deal with another woman raising their own kids. But my case is different his mom abandoned him to move w another man. And years later when I came around she decided she wanted what she left behind. My son is now a grown man and calls me for anything. I know every injury he's had, every allergy, I've been the one at the ER w him , surgeries. She is supposed to pay half of his medical and sports. But yet I never sent her a bill. She hates me, I was there during graduation and she flipped out calling him and yelling at him. I know who I am and what he means to me. I don't care if his bio mom talks bad about me . I just hope one day she sees that. I advised him not to judge her. Or say anything that upsets her

Answer 5

It is simple-mom is jealous. She sees the step mom as taking over HER old life, taking care of HER family, has HER old man. Making her feel like step mom is better and that hurts feelings. Even though mom and dad are not together anymore your mom still has feelings for him that will never totally go away. And on top of all that to see that step mom has a good relationship with you, hurts feelings even more.

Answer 6

You are just 14. may be your bio mom is not jealous. She just needs an attention, your attention. You need to give equal time to your both moms. She had you 9 months in her womb. She needs your love. Sometimes we want others to change but if we can change ourselves we can see things getting better. Remember one thing, we always owe our parents respect, specially to our moms. If we cant keep our moms happy we can never keep god happy. So just give respect and time to your both moms. Talk your bio mom and ask if there is anything she wants to share with you. we can never change someone's nature. its just all about Love. i hope you will have same loving relationship with your both moms :-)

Answer 7

your entire life ur bio-mom has protected, raised and taken care of u your whole life (wether she has been nice about it or not) and then some woman comes out of no where and takes her spot that she HAS EARNED THROUGH YEARS OF MOTHERHOOD. don't u think that it makes sense she would be a bit upset?

Answer 8

Maybe because you tell her that you are closer to your step-mother than her