please help about my brother ???????????????????? abit long?

Question

its a kind of long story but i think all info is needed to understand :
my mother died when my brother was a month away of being 9
and he had to come and live with me .
when she died my mums breast care nurse and care agencys decided
to prepare my bro months before she did die and his then school was great
with him and helped ALOT i.e councilling and support from his favorite teacher

i understand this was hard for him as he was a young boy and it was only him and my
mum at home so it was a major change for him .
the school and professionals what the school got in for him said he has coped very well
and said what a great job im doing etc etc ,he settled in well to my home life as he always had to come to me when my mum went into hospice etc as she was ill for many years with cancer when in fact my bro was 6mths old.
so he adapted very and then moved to senior school i knew this would be a great chAnged and shock to his system and i did explain in the nicess possible way that his senior school will not wrap him in cotton wool like his primary school and wont be so much sympathy for him also told him i doubt he be the only one that has a dead mum or dad etc he said he understood this and seemed to settle in ok i made sure he had all the latest school ware shoes ,bag etc etc as i do with his clothes and brlongings xbox etc ...so his nw nearly 13 and has changed ..i know your going to say oh his a teenager well actually no he does forget a hell of ALOT last year i could send him down the shop to get i.e some bread and tuna he ould get fine now if i send him he will get me a diff kind of tuna i never have bought before and no bread or he say no i couldnt see it come back empty handed!
IDK y he is doing this i even got his eyes checked and he has to have reading glasses but wont wear them and makes excuses tbh he walks around like his half dead not intrested in girls or hanging out with mates @ the weekend he rather stay with me and do what im doing instead of going out with mates ,in the whole summer hols he didnt go out once ith his friends but tells me he has friends and isnt being bullied ,his always been a sensitve boy kind and caring never rude and he isnt rude now he dare swear or be rude to me but i cant explain it he keeps telling me he has ear pain and forgets aload of stuff or if i ask him to do something he will do it but something completetly diff and he was never like it before he isnt changing just like a teenager i dont know why he is doing this ppl tell me take him to the docs maybe his develop autism but is this the case could this happen ? he sometimes speaks to himself i hear him ,if i ask him oh could you get me a drink (while his in the kitchen)i hear him saying i need to get her a drink dum dde dum i better get her a drink ?????? werid he does this all the time i tell him about it and says i DUNNO I DUNNO
please help im sorry its long and my keypad is broken the keys dont type grrrr

Answer 1

I feel so sorry for him, seems like a nice lad who wants to spend time with you maybe hes scared of losing you like he lost his mother and lots of kids talk to themselves like that it don't mean there's anything wrong with him, your lucky he's not out smashing windows and stuff. I don't know how old you are but sounds like your doing a good job looking after a troubled young man and if he's forgetting stuff take him the doctors better safe then sorry. Good luck :-)

Answer 2

If your brother hasn't been to a doctor in a couple of years perhaps you should make an appointment and take him. He could have an ear infection. He is under going physical changes due to male hormones also. How are his grades? How does he dress, meaning slovenly or neat? Observe his demeanor and apperance and make notes on it. These could come in handy for a doctors appointment. I lost my mom when i was nine also. I know how difficult of a time this can be for both of you. I wish you and your brother all the best.

Answer 3

Persistent ear pain should require a trip to the doctor in any case. Ask the doc about all your other worries at the same time. It would be very hard to make guesses based on your description here and the doctor is in a better position to help you than the people on here.

Answer 4

I would take him to see a Doctor but explain to him carefully why. Also speak to his school and his teachers they may also have noticed similar patterns and see what they recommend. Schools will have a large list of people who can help, they can give you and him support on so many levels. He may just need someone outside of the family to speak to. Autistic Children find change difficult and do need help and emotional support through the time, if you think this is the problem your doctor can help.