My love and I VS. my whole family ((((I need advice))) PLEASE!!!?

Question

The love of my life and I are 18 and 17 years old. We understand that we are young but now are having family related issues. I live in VA. She lives in TX. I am a senior graduating in 2 months and have applied to 3 colleges where i'm accepted into all of them. Now I want to be with my love in Texas in college where i have applied to. I will apply for independent status and want to be with her. My parents and family are totally not going to for it. She's my everything and we have everything we need when the other is around. My dad is the most agressive one in our family and is willing to do all that he has to do to stop me from going there. I need advice for what i can do. I know how to support myself. Go there, under independent status and do work study, to the point where i can support myself. Now i'm having issues with my parents. They won't allow any of this to happen. I need advice please what to do. I think my family just needs time to cool off after evrything is to happen.advice!

Answer 1

I don't understand. Maybe they feel that if you are in TX in school that the relationship you have with her will interfere with your studies. You should stay calm and maturely discuss this with your Father and Mother. Ask them why they feel this way and reassure them.

Maybe you haven't given their reasons a chance. Parents usually do know best. Really listen to their reasons and discuss the reality of why they don't want you to go, or where they do want you to go to college.

If your love is meant to be she will still be there through it all. Even if your not together through school. Don't forget there is always summer vacation and breaks.

Answer 2

If you feel your family is wrong, no amount of advise is going to sway you! Your mind is made up, so why ask?



But since you did ask >



A love as intense as yours WILL interfere with your education as well as hers - can you honestly say being together doesn't effect everything else (life beyond holding hands and gazing into each other's eye's)? Of course it does! Go to the best college for your desired field, not the one that gets you closest to this young lady. If your love is real and forever, it will wait and won't die. You will both be glad you put a solid foundation under your feet before leaping into the unknown!

Answer 3

You are right. If you decision truly is one that is well planned and is a mature life choice then you should just wait for your family to see this or at least wait until they are calm enough for you and your partner to calmly explain to them that you have thought through everything and this is a decision that you realize could possibly affect the rest of your life. Also even though you and your partner believe that you both will love each other forever, your family most likely believes the exact opposite and this is the main source of their contention. It would probably help greatly if you let them know that you too have considered the possibility that you and your love may not love each other as much in the future.

Answer 4

Your family loves you unconditionally. Of COURSE they are concerned. You are about to rearrange your life for a girl you just met! You may think you KNOW her, but trust me, you won't KNOW her until you spend more than a few days with her! Internet chatting is one thing, and actually spending time with someone is completely different. Listen, your family wants only the best for you. If they didn't they wouldn't give a damn. Consider yourself lucky. I would really listen to what your family has to say, and remember that they know you better than you know yourself. If this girl truly is the love of your life, she will be there with you through college, and many years after. No need to rush love, it happens all by itself. Take care, and best of luck.

Answer 5

be very careful with this one. think about the following before you make this decision: how long have you known her, 2nd how do her parents feel about u and their daughter, 3rd you've been in a long distance relationship so things will be completely different if you seen her everyday...being that you'll have to adjust to her situation such as friends and things that she likes to do... But being that you 2 are so young you'll make your own decision anyways. Another thing is will you have enough time to be able to focus on your academics and your work study and her at the same time....even if its meant to be it will all work out.. GOOD LUCK WITH THAT

Answer 6

You need to listen to ure parents. I really dont think that girl who could end up dumping u is worth all of ure family hateing u later. Think about it.

Answer 7

wow, you sound like you really like her a ton. Well do whatever makes you happy but be sure to think before you act. And don't put her before everyone in your family, you need them too. Good Luck!

Answer 8

man this sounds like something from romeo and juliet, i say you tell your family that it's your life and they have no say in the matter, if this doesn't work i then suggest you go to lender or a close friend for money or you could just suggest she go to another college. its your life not theirs.

Answer 9

Listen to your parents. They have experience and know what is best for you. Finish college and then go with your gf.