i can't stand hating my parents!?

Question

my parent's are so strict they won't let me date until im sixteen [i have already had abf] and they won't let me get unlimited txting cause omy grades need to be all a's and it's kinda embarrasing admitting that cause all my friends have it. what should I do? whenever i try and talk to my mom about it, she gets mad at me . same with my dad

Answer 1

It's okay. They can take the hate that you throw at them. They aren't here to be your friend. You have enough friends. However, you only get two parents. Their job is to love you, guide you and protect you.



My parents wouldn't let me date until I was 16 too. Did I hate them for it? You bet! Did it make ANY sense to me? Absolutely not. Did it ruin my life? No. It was a rule. The reason behind the rule was that they didn't want me to do something that they didn't think I was old enough to handle. Did I agree? NO! Were they right? I don't know. But I do know they had my best interest at heart. The point is, you are living in their house, under their roof and are expected to follow the rules that they give you. When you are 18 - or when you are living on your own - you are going to be able to do whatever you want. Honestly, it's really a short time when you are under their guidance. It stinks but you follow their rules as a sign of respect.



It sounds like you are pretty smart. Are they expecting A's because you are an "A" student? I'm betting that you are. I would think that if you were a "C" student, they would be unreasonable to expect to see all "A's." They want you to do your best...and your best sounds like "A's." If this is untrue, you may need to seek out the help of a teacher or guidance counselor to back up your claims that you are already doing your best and that for them to expect all A's is totally unreasonable.



As far as being embarrassed in front of your friends....that's one you'll just have to unfortunately live with. But know this....the kind of parent who wants to be their kid's best friend and the kind of parent who is permissive about things that are illegal, immoral or unethical....are not the kind that are going to take you far in life. Those parents are too wrapped up in their own lives and their own dreams to make the effort to teach and guide their children.



Believe me, your parents DO NOT enjoy being in conflict with you. It would be much easier for them to give in to you and let you do the things you want. They don't, though, because they would rather see you mad at them then watch you suffer from the consequences of a fateful decision.



Stay safe.

Answer 2

Kids like you are the reason why terrorists in countries like Afghanistan hate Americans.

Your parents aren't strict for not letting you date until you're sixteen. My parents don't want me to date until I'm out of college. So I'm assuming you're not 16. So what if you can't date? You're just a kid. The chances of you finding your true love or soul mate in like middle school is practically zero. Your parents don't want you to get hurt and they don't want you to get distracted from your academics and they feel that when you're 16 you'll me mature enough to handle school and a boyfriend.

And seriously. You 'hate' your parents because they won't let you have unlimited texting?

Oh no! The world is just OVER isn't it?

Do you know how rich you are?

You are part of the 10% of the WORLD population (percentage might be incorrect but the numbers are about that low) that has electricity, running water, food, shelter, and a chance for an education?

You seriously need to grow up.

If you hate your parents so much move out right now and get a job.

Do it.

Move out because you're parents are just so horrible, horrible, evil people for not letting you get unlimited text. Then by getting a job you can get your own unlimited texting without your parents saying that you can't get it.

Answer 3

Consider yourself lucky. I wasn't allowed to date until I was eighteen and didn't get a cell phone until I was seventeen. Just remember that there's always someone worse off than yourself.

Anyhow, maybe your parents will relent if you show them that you are trying hard in school and putting a lot of effort into your work. When my parents saw me trying hard in school even though I wasn't getting the world's best grades they weren't hard on me because they knew I wasn't slacking off.

You may want to ask them to help you with your homework just so they can see how hard the work you're doing is (this works best with math and science). My parents didn't believe that my homework in hs was hard until they tried doing it themselves.

You may also want to try calmly explaining why you want this and pointing out your good qualities (responsible etc) or offer to pay part of the bill.

And finally don't bug your parents about it. That won't do anything except make them think that you're whiney and a baby. Wait a few weeks and then ask nicely again.

Answer 4

OH NO! This just goes to show you how childish you are if you hate your parents for being parents. Do you understand how many kids are out there that have no one that cares where or what they do.



You need to get out of your soap opera world and get back to reality! Not having unlimited texting and not being able to have a boy friend screw you up is not the end of the world. Evidentally you cant keep your grades up so there you go.

Answer 5

Girl, have you blown a fuse? Do you think it is a right to have anything and every you want? To begin with, your parent's job is to make you the best person they can. Next, your job is to try to be the best you can. Finally, your parents love you very much if you call them strict. If they didn't care about you, they would let you do what ever you desired and give you anything you wanted to shut you up. What is embarrassing is your question. It shows your parents need to work on you more because you sound a bit spoiled. Think about what they do for you every day. They keep a roof over your head, keep you fed, keep you clothed, and keep safe. Now, what do you do for them? What do you do for yourself? God bless.

Answer 6

Just explain to them the benefits of having texting for both you and them. Be like mom, dad if i get texting then i wont be on the phone as much. Just make up some bull like that and for the bf part just explain to them that you like boys and theres nothing they can do to stop you from dating.

Answer 7

I agree with dating, not necessarily with the texting issue, but the texting is such a small issue I just don't care. All A's is a little to much IMO. Sorry I can't help just giving you a perspective.

Answer 8

The dating thing is no prob, my parents tell me i cant date till 18 but im still 13 and i do it. texting isnt all that good cause why not call? if you dont have a cell, its not that hard living without one (i dont have one) and all my friends have it too.

Answer 9

Work on being responsible. Better now than in the real world.

Answer 10

first of all,understand your parents are only doing the best they can....no, they are not perfect tell me who is and for your friends....if you cant be honest and they cant be understanding then why call them friends....your lucky that u even have a phone at all....give them a break and hating your parents is a choice so you dont have to hate them you can LOVE THEM...!