joint custody issue of ear piercing?

Question

my b/f's x wants to give 9yr old a 3rd piercing in her ear. He is against it and says when she is at his place she can't wear it. X says the hole will close. The issue is he feels she is too young and he didn't even want the 2nd one but x did it anyways. Should he hold his ground? He's thinking what's next, belly, nose, tongue????

Answer 1

Piercing just as other body art is an expression of one self....

Perhaps he should remind this X that it might be nice

and certainly more acceptable by the body art society, to allow the Child to decide what she wants on HER

BODY when she is old enough to start knowing who she is and expressing it.

(Having ones mother express themself on your body, does not comply with the attitude or belief of that culture)

Answer 2

Tell him to stick to his guns! The child shouldn't get any more piercings, and I wouldn't let her wear the second one.

Good for him! He sounds like a very considerate dad.

I live with my husband and he would KILL me if I got a 2nd piercing on my 9 year old's ears. What is that stupid mother thinking?

Answer 3

OMG lol. Little girls have their ears pierced when they are really little sometimes, there is nothing wrong with it.



I have my nose and lip pierced, but geez LOL it didn't get them pierced because I got my ears pierced, and I got my ears pierced when I was 13 and a second time when I was 17. Doesn't matter the age.



I think he's overreacting, but he does however have a say about his child as well. I just thought it was a huge contrast you just made there between getting your ears pierced leading to getting body piercings. In that case about 2/3 or more of the female population should have more drastic piercings because that's about how many have their ears pierced.



But if he firmly wants her to wait till she gets older for her ears to be pierced, that's understandable. I just think it's being made more an issue then it really is.



Good luck.

Answer 4

She shouldn't even have gotten the first one without wanting it and a nine yr old is not old enough to decide if she wants her ears pierced or not. My brothers gf wanted to pierce his daughter's ears (she is not the mom) and he said no let her make the decision and come to them if she wants them when she is old enough to ask for them. Moms that get their child's ears pierced at six months is riduculous let them make that decision when they are old enough. Tell him to hold to his guns she is his daughter also he does have a say.

Answer 5

yes he should most deffinetly hold his ground and maybe he could consider seeing a solicitor about getting an order preventing his ex from letting her have anymore as i to think she is to young for that many peircings

Answer 6

I agree with your b/f she is way too young

Answer 7

yes.. tel him to stand his ground.. that is a Lil much for a nine yr old...