Tips for bra shopping?

Question

I am a single father. My wife passed away several years ago. My daugher has begun to develop and has been telling me that she needs to get bras, but without her mom around neither of us have any idea what we're doing. Any advice appreciated

Answer 1

A lady friend of yours could take her, or you could take her to a store at the mall.

Answer 2

Take her to the mall and let her go into a bra shop and choose one. The assistant will help her re measurements and best fit. While she is there you go to a coffee shop and have a coffee.

Answer 3

Obviously a question from a 14 year old boy or older troll.  A single father in this situation would have a female family member help his daughter; if the daughter even needs help.  Most girls that age talk to each other.  A girl that age is going to get all the information she needs from her peers long before things start to develop.  Come on people, use your brains.

Answer 4

Take her to a ladie's shop that sells undies and let the sales woman measure her and suggest what size is best.

Answer 5

Measuring is essential. You can't just buy one you THINK will fit. You  have to buy the correct sizes. Try the online website here:  https://www.thirdlove.com/ They will have a fitting guide and show how you measure to get the best fit. 





If this isn't helpful for some reason, see about getting a female relative who is not much older than your daughter--an older cousin or maybe an aunt--to help her measure and get her fitted. 





If you don't have a relative, maybe asking a female co-worker?  Since department stores are pretty much closed, it's a lot harder to find help for this. And the first bra is SOOOO important. Don't ask someone who is not up on the newer styles or fitting techniques--it's not the same bra your granny wore anymore. 





And for crying out loud, dad---BE DISCREET. Be sensitive. This is a really sensitive topic for most girls. :D  Don't blab anything around the office or workplace. Don't ask EVERYONE. Just quietly try to find a woman or young lady who can help you. After you do it once, it's a lot easier. 





And another thing: a good bra costs money. Don't try buying cheap. Good luck, dad!!

Answer 6

Is there a sister or aunt who can go along with you two?

Answer 7

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Answer 8

maybe she should ask one of her friends to show her what to get

Answer 9

You can search on the net for bra size and she can measure herself to figure out what bra size she needs. However, since she just begun to develop I think she might need an A cup, small B tops. Later on when the stores open there are some that can help with sizes, just look up store that measures bra size in your area and that's about it.

Answer 10

i would say go to a department store.  they might have associates that can help.  but with covid going on, that might be difficult if they're willing or open at all. 



i would ask a female friend she knows and trusts to help assist.  or family member.  

Answer 11

Some lingerie stores have sales people that can help. But if not, here’s how it works:



Bra sizes are determined by 2 things, the number and the letter. The number represents the size of the band that goes around the chest, under the breasts. The letter is the size of the cups. You can go online to get a bra size chart but it’s best if she just tries on bras till she finds a good fit. 



The band should be snug but not too tight. It should sit securely without riding up the back. It should fit comfortably on the middle hook. If it digs in or leaves red marks, go up a size. If it rides up the back, go down a size. Band sizes have a huge range but most brands start at 32. The band size is related to the measurement of the chest but is not equal to the number of inches. If she’s a small girl, she will likely be a 32 or 34. If she’s a little bigger, she may need a larger size. 



The cups should fit but not too tight. She is growing, so definitely don’t get anything too tight. If the cups collapse around the sides or there’s a lot of extra room inside, it’s too big. It should be tight enough to hold breasts in place, but loose enough not to squash them. Cup sizes range from AA to DD and bigger. She is most likely a AA or A since she’s just starting to develop.



She should be able to move comfortably in the bra without any pinching or digging. If the band slips or the cups are loose, it’s too big. Since she’s just starting to need a bra, I suggest looking at training bras. I suggest bringing a female to help her pick out a good fitting bra. That way she can go in the dressing room and make sure it really fits. Some nicer department stores have helpful sales staff as well. 



Just get your daughter what she needs and try not to embarrass her in the process. It was probably really difficult for her to even ask you for a bra. I suggest you find a trusted female friend she’s comfortable with to talk to her about her changing body. It’s not just bras. She will need to know how to handle things like tampons and menstrual cramps, shaving, and later, boys and birth control. It’s hard enough for girls to talk to their mothers about this, it’s even harder to talk to fathers. It’s always best to teach these things outside of school. I applaud you for being a good father but there’s certain things that are best handled by a woman. 

Answer 12

She should go with her friends..

Answer 13

Give her a variety of 'back sizes' They go on the Loosest hook. To check for back she puts them on at the appropriate height (strap at the underside of the breast, band level), but this is easiest with the cups in the back. 2-3 of her fingers should fit under the strap, but not more. It holds most of the weight off the shoulders once she has support needs.





With the correct back size, select a variety of cup sizes (she is likely to start with AAA, AA, or A), and fit with the cup in the front. Different brands will have different spacing and shape of the cup, but the volume is "supposed" to be similar.





A 30B is a similar size to a 28C or a 32A.





When putting on the bra she should lean forward (and when relevant 'scoop' the breast tissue into the cup). Initially this won't be a problem.





Most women (and most high street shops) have no idea about fit of bras, even those which claim to offer a fitting. The end result should be a tight band which just allows her to place 2-3 fingers under it on her ribs, with a cup without excess volume, but without it cutting the upper edge of the breast into 2 or 3 volumes.





Different styles, or manufacturers will give different fits from the same nominal sizes, so she has to try each on and select only those which fit - comfortably and without obvious gaping or bulging.





High street stores may have limited ranges. Online stores such as "Her Room" may give a wider range of styles.





Initially, she may not need much beyond a 'training bra' or 'sports bra' in a suitable band - this is more what she should look for in adult sizes once her breasts develop to the point she needs more.

Answer 14

my wife asked me to tell you to take her to Victoria's secret {whenever virus issues allow for somewhat normal human contact again} ...

They have a professional bra fitter on hand who will assist her personally. Good luck.

Answer 15

If I were you I would just buy some for her online. I wouldn't embarrass myself going to the store to by stuff like that.

Answer 16

Take her to a local shop that sells underwear and offers a measuring service.  That way the sales assistant can measure her and provide her with the best fit possible.  I’m 23 and made the mistake of wearing bras that had the wrong back size to the straps would hang down- not a good look!  Best bet is to take her somewhere to get measured 

Answer 17

SHE CAN GO HERSELF AND ASK A SALES ASSISTANT

Answer 18

Ideally,all ladies should try to get  sized about  once a year,or after going through any  bodilly changes.It's always smart to know how to  measure your  own bra size,but if you are getting measured for the first time in a while,leave this task  up to a  pro.

Answer 19

maybe she can go with a friend

Answer 20

Get a lingerie store female employee to fit her.  A department store lingerie section will work.  You will have to wait until the virus is past. She shouldn't try to order anything online until she's fitted by someone experienced.



You could ask a female relative or the mother of a friend of hers to take her.

Answer 21

Take your daughter to one of the better, large department stores.  In the "Bra Department", there will be a lady who will take your daughter into a fitting room, and measure her and fit her with the bra that she needs.  

The proper "size" of a bra is no great mystery. Let's say your daughter is going to be wearing a 32A bra. The '32" measurement is the width around her chest, just below her breasts. The "A" or "B" measurement is the cup size that her breasts will fit into comfortably.  

If her breasts themselves are larger then an "A" cup, she probably needs a 32B bra.  A larger cup, but her chest measurement will remain the same - 32 inches.  

Answer 22

I'm so sorry to hear about what happened to your wife. I think it's great you're going to try to be there for your daughter in a time that is--for her--strange, confusing, unpleasant, and embarrassing. 

If she has never worn a bra before, it is time for a training bra. I would suggest to try to go to a store very soon after opening, so there will be fewer shoppers there (hopefully) in case you are (or she is) embarrassed. and from what I remember, I think they come in packs of multiples, kind of like underwear. They should be easy to find in the underwear section of stores like walmart and target. If she is developing more, and a training bra is too small or restrictive now, it might be difficult for her to find something that fits perfectly for a while. The COVID-19 virus has many stores closed right now, and has social distancing being enforced. Normally, I would suggest you both to go to a store (soon after they open, again, just for privacy) that can measure her cup size and help her select a bra that will be most comfortable for her. Victoria's Secret is an expensive store, but they are experienced in bra fitting. You don't have to buy a bra from them, once she knows her bra size, she can find a cheaper one in another store. Just have her try it on, if possible, before buying--because sometimes sizes can vary between stores. If she thinks the bra size they measured her for doesn't feel right, maybe go back there another day to be measured again, or a different store that can measure (because sometimes people can be incorrectly measured--it has happened to me).



Also, be aware that she may not want you to accompany her to get a bra (since you are a man, she may feel uncomfortable, even if you are her father). She may want to go with a friends' mother, or an older female member of the family. If this is the case, please do not be offended--just try to understand, she might have a hard time discussing the changes in her body with someone who isn't a woman.



Good luck to you, dad, and I hope she finds what she needs.

Answer 23

There are dept. stores (the better ones) who have people in the ladies' dept. who can help her with the correct fit.  That would be difficult with the shelter-in-place order in effect.  There is a website called ThirdLove that has a fitting guide.  You will need to get her a cloth tape measure (available at Jo Ann's fabrics or Hancock's Fabrics) so she can measure herself correctly.  If she is not too shy, she might ask one of her friend's mom to help her get the measurement correct..

Answer 24

You are making this more complex than it needs to be



If she's just begun to develop, her breasts are too small for an actual padded bra! She needs a 28aa training bra (standard), most clothing stores sell them in the girls section of the store, if you can't find them ask the clerk to show you where they are. They have change rooms at the store, let your daughter pick out several, and on her own she can try them on in the change room, and she can pick out the one she likes the best. 

Answer 25

I had to do this with my niece since her mother was a wreck at the time. Not really my idea of fun, but we got through it because she informed me that "you bought lingerie for your girlfriend- I saw the bag in your car so you know where to go". We set a budget prior to going shopping, and I probably said "this is my niece" a few hundred times.



If retail stores are open, a specialty women's store (Victoria's Secret) or upscale department stores will have someone who can take measurements (check online to see if you can schedule a bra fitting). Go with her, and have someone take measurements so she will know what size she needs (doesn't take that long). If stores aren't open, there are online tutorials (I would imagine) on this (YouTube/Google are your friend like everything else) on how to take measurements. Once she knows her size she should be able to find something. Couple other things:

1) Giving her a budget is perfectly normal.

2) Unless specified, just wash them in your regular laundry (cold water) and hang to dry (do not put in the dryer).

3) If she's just starting to develop they sell training bras for this purpose (less than A cup).



Good luck.

Answer 26

Take her to a woman's wear shop and ask a clerk to fit her properly. You can't get that type of service very well at big department stores.

Answer 27

Does she have any good friends whose mothers could give you some input or would be willing to let her join a shopping trip? Any aunts or female cousins? If there is no one else supporting you both, the next option is to go to a place that has a staffed clothing department and asked a staff member for assistance. My personal opinion is that the pull over sports-style/bralette is the best to start with... heck I'm 34 and that's still my go to.

Answer 28

If she's still in the early stages of developing, you can swing by Walmart (or Target or wherever) and pick up a pack or two of training bras. I would suggest getting a few different types and sizes, maybe some with and without pads, and different types of straps. Just grab the same size as her t-shirts, I'm guessing small or medium. Have her try them on, and return any that don't fit. Ideally, the bra should sit smoothly under the shirt, and not be too lose or tight around the chest and shoulders - it shouldn't leave a red mark and it shouldn't fall off when moving. These should be good to start, and those are the type of bra that I still like to wear on a regular basis. However, eventually you'll have to take her to someplace like a Victoria's Secret, and have one of the associates there fit her for her actual bra size. She can probably do this herself at home with a tape measure - there are some great guides online on how to size and find and wear a bra correctly. 



Another option you have is to ask one of her friend's moms to take her bra shopping, or to help you take her. Definitely a key thing is to ask people for help. Don't be nervous, this is a normal part of growing up, and even though it's not your territory, you're doing great by learning for her, and it's not as scary as it seems. Ask anyone around you for advice and recommendations, and you might be surprised by how helpful they will be. Make sure your daughter is comfortable talking to you, and be comfortable talking to her. Bras are necessary, don't make her feel uncomfortable about her or what she's wearing. There's basically two types of bras, sexy bras, and ugly ones. She's going to want/get a pretty/sexy/lacy bra. It will make her feel a little better about herself for having to wear such an uncomfortable contraption on her chest. Please don't say anything to her that will make her feel uncomfortable shopping with you. 



Also, bras are expensive. So it's nice to know ahead of time that you can expect to pay $30-$50 on a good bra. I try to get my sports bras around $5-10, but I have to shop around at some cheaper stores. 



Anyway, you got this. Just do your best, make sure everything fits, and don't worry, eventually she won't need your help shopping for bras anymore. 

Answer 29

You can take her to a shop where they take her measures to know what's her correct size so she can buy a few bras.

Answer 30

Same place you get everything else -- Amazon

Answer 31

Most women's stores that sell bras have someone there that will measure and fit your daughter to the best bra for her.  Don't be embarrassed. They are there to help.

Answer 32

You got it all wrong. Your wife didn't pass away several years ago. She's imaginary. That's why you don't see her anymore. And naturally, if your wife didn't exist, your daughter doesn't exist either. 

Answer 33

Major department stores often have clerks in the lingerie department who know how to measure and recommend the right bras for the right people. Might you have a female relative or friend that could take her "shopping" for "intimates"?



You can also order bras on line, and even learn how to determine the right size and shape, if you prefer.  It might be safer to do this right now, and even if you have to make a few mistakes, so what.  



Size includes the circular measurement of inches around the chest, just below the breasts, and since she is just beginning to develop, she won't need a large cup size or any big support . 



Good wishes, good luck!

Answer 34

hehe , I think you can take her to the bra department of the store and ask a nice female worker to help your daughter out with measurements and different bras she might like. Then maybe she will jot her size down, and buy her a couple  she picks in that size. Then next time around she would be able to do it more easier herself. 

Answer 35

First do a internet search on how to find the right size bra and show it to your daughter but let her check it out alone. Then call a bra store and ask them if they have employees that could help you daughter or go there and try on several that might fit.





  

Answer 36

Easy. Go to the lingerie department in any department store. All will offer a bra fitting service.



All you need do is take her there.  The female bra fitter will do the rest 

Answer 37

There are training bras available at many stores including Walmart, Sears and JC Penney. They are usually in the children's clothing section. You could either go there yourself and ask a salesperson to help you find one - or you could take your daughter to the store and she could try one on herself in the dressing room. (p.s. I'm sorry for the loss of your wife - you seem like a terrific dad).

Answer 38

Easy.



First, get out your wife's tape measure....it's in her sewing box or basket.

Have your daughter measure herself around her upper rib cage.  This is the size of bra she needs, 32?  34?



Then, she measures her breast from under neath her rib cage to the nipple.  If the breast is 2 inches away from her rib cage, then she needs a b cup.  Smaller or larger from a double AA to a size G or larger, depending on the breast size.



Take her to a department store that has a room to try on the garments.  This way she will get the best fit.  And as she grows, so will her need to get another size up.



It's easy.

Answer 39

Get your daughter training bras for right now and make sure that she gets a bra size fitting in the future. You can find training bras in any department store too (Like Kohls, Target, etc.).

Answer 40

is there another family member (aunt, etc) who might be able to help?