What should I do if my older brother touched me. I don't want to break up the family.?

Question

(My age as I write this is 15)
I was about 11 and My brother and I were home alone and we were both pretty bored. My brother suggested we play dares. So I started thinking up some dares and he told me that those ones were really stupid so he dared me to strip, I laughed and refused thinking it was a joke. He told me not to be boring and backed me in to the corner of the living room and got out his penis. He then dared me to touch it, and once again I refused and climbed over him.

A few months later I was playing a game on the computer when my brother comes in to watch. He sits really close to me and starts wanking. (At this age I didn't have a clue what any of this is.) He made comments about touching it and spunks all over the desk. I was horrified! But all he said was "I'm only joking, it's just spit." I ran to the bathroom thinking I was going to be sick.

By this stage I'm about 12. And I am playing in my Nintendo and he starts showing a big interest so I ask if he wants to play. He started to get randy again so I move to sit in the kitchen. However, he follows me. He blocks me in where I sat in the corner and reaches down my pants. He pushes his fingers in to my vagina and tries to finger me. He asked me "doesn't that feel nice". I replied, "no!" And ran upstairs. I tries to come in my room but I block the door. He begs me not to tell mum.

Answer 1

My guess is that you are a little envious of your sister that she's getting so much attention for speaking up about a situation wich seems to pale compared to yours, and you want to tell someone about what has been going on between you and your brother, but you lack the courage, which is why you are writing it on Yahoo Answers, and this is okay. However, Yahoo Answers is not a substitute for an adult you can trust, such as your parents or school counselors, who can actually influence the behavior and attitudes of your brother. What he's doing is called sexual assault - which are acts of a sexual nature done without the victim's consent. Since this has been ongoing, it seems he has built a habit out of it and thinks it's okay to do as long as you don't tell anyone. You would be doing you and your brother a lot of good if you talked to someone about it, because otherwise, this is going to continue, and he might do it to other people. What he is doing is disrespectful. You shouldn't handle this on your own, especially since you are still a child. If it is hard to talk to someone, you can copy what you've written here and show it to them. You've already done most of the explaining.

Answer 2

So, you are angry at your sister for doing the right thing, and jelaous of her flowers and chocolates?!

Before you tell your parents about the sexual abuse from your brother, you need proof. Other wise combined with your obvious jealousy of your sister it is going to look like you are accusing your brother to get some flowers and chocolates of your own. Use some sort of camera, or audio recording device. Your phone, webcam, even a video camera hidden in your room.

Do not treat your sister badly just because she did the right thing and reported her abuse. Stop acting like you are somehow special or the only person who "really knows what abuse is". Because it really does look like you are just jealous over those chocolates.

Answer 3

It kind of depends how old your brother is. If he is/was mature enough to know about real sex, you should probably tell someone. Then, you would possibly receive therapy to help get over what happened and he would receive help about his sex addiction. If he isn't mature enough (under the age of 18), you should talk to him about it. It could help.

Answer 4

Tell your parents and the police.