Should I stay with him or just let go?

Question

There is this guy that I am dating for months now. He's 42-yr old he's 10 yrs older than me and he holds a very high position in one of the biggest company in the philippines. He's a good person who is always willing to help other people and that's one of the traits that I admire from him. We are always happy everytime we are together. Despite of his busy schedule I know that he makes an effort to find time seeing me.

Part of his job is to check the integrity of their employees and he found out so many anomalies that some managers are doing just to get money from the company. So he terminated some people including the managers and other personnels. January this year he started receiving death threats telling him that he has to resign otherwise he will no longer see the light and something like that. One day I just got a text from him telling me that his job is taking so much of his time and that his health is not okay and he is receiving death threat so it is best for me that we should not go on. I got so hurt because I really love him so much and I want to be with him during this time that he needs someone to be there for him. I told him that whatever the situation is we have to face this together and that I will never leave him no matter what will happen. I texted him that I couldnt eat and its hard to swallow food. I got a text from him saying "please eat, let's forget what I said I'm sorry. So I finally felt relieved.

When we were together last tuesday we talked about his problems and who he thinks are the people behind that threats to him. He told me that he dont want them to get me and harass me. That I should be careful all the time. I noticed that he lost weights and he really looks stress. I hugged him and told him that everything will be ok soon. He was very sweet to me that night and I really feel that he truly loves me. On the following day, early in the morning I got a text from him asking how I was but a few minutes later he texted me again saying that he is so stress because he got calls and messages again from those ppl. He said that for my safety we should stop seeing each other for the time being. I know that he is just protecting me but I am hurting because I feel like he is pushing me away. I want to help him and tell him that I want to be there for him and never leave him. I still remember when he asked me not to stop loving him. I really love him that much.

Three days had passed I never got any texts from him. He ignores my texts now. It hurts me everytime i send him messages I got no reply from him. I am so worried that maybe he is sick or doesnt feel well because of his high blood, maybe he is super busy with works or maybe he is really ignoring me.

I also think that maybe he thinks that I am just after his money because he earns more than anybody does but I told him that I am not after his money or whatever material things that he can give. I told him that I love him not because of what he is and what he has but I love him because of who he is and his great character. He knows that I am a single mom and I dont earn much but despite of all the hardship in life I never come to him to ask for money and I will never ever do that. I asked him before if that is what he thinks of me but he said he never think that way. He keeps on telling me before that he loves me and that he will never leave me. He also told me that he is always happy with me that's why he loves me for that. He even asked me not to stop loving him. I know he's a good man and he doesnt want to hurt me. I am sure that he's not seeing any lady except me.

Maybe the problem is the death threat and he just doesnt want those people to get me and harrass me. But I told him that I am here for him but I just really feel that he doesnt need me in times like this.

I dont know, I am confused. I love him so much and I dont want to let go. What should I do to help me him? and obviously I dont want to let go. Please help me.

Answer 1

now that's a MAN! i don't want to tell you what to do in case it does any damage. but it would be great if he could see this post of yours. i am a complete stranger off the internet and i feel how much you truly love this man. you can leave him a message saying you will wait for him, for this hard time to be over, that you respect his decision to protect you, etc. he is ignoring you, but not in a rude way. it's out of love. ask him if you wait for him, will he return to you. i really feel for you, and i'm very sorry about your situation. but you'll be okay no matter what happens. you're a very kind-hearted woman.

Answer 2

My dear this is a complicated issue cz for sure ths guy is kind of hvn a rltship wit sm1 else,he knws u love hm an threfre he is playn wit ur mind,jst textn u or evn calln u wont make u die,he has smthn fishy, if u try investigatin hm, u wl discvr so much,especially if he has sch status,he is tryn to gt u off by tlng u that he is rcvng death threats inorder bt it sims u r nt,an cz u lv hm u cnt c all ths,open up ur eyes gal,an face hm,its bttr late thn nvr. All the best.

Answer 3

He could be confused as what he needs to do.

Pressure from a job can make him sick and depressed worrying about being killed.and doesn't want you to have you so attached to him in case it happens.

Forget the texting and call him. It would be actually better to talk to him face to face. Tell him that you are confuse about how he is feeling about you and would like to clear things up.

Depending on his reply will depend on what you should do.

You could be asking for trouble if you stick with him. So, just stop looking for trouble and move on.

Answer 4

SIMPLE he wants to move on. Has it occurred to u that maybe, he is interested in someone else. maybe he feels u r too young for him. if he was looking for a stable relationship and is not married then he should have taken this to next level.these r all excuses to eliminate u from his current life without any bitterness and at the same time making u feel he has sacrificed himself for u. pls move on and focus on ur job so that u can earn more money for urself and ur kid. u cannot force someone to love u back the way u do.

Answer 5

i think you shouldnt stay with him because of the things he has done to you