What's the best way to handle the death of a loved one?

Question

My brother just died and I really need help finding the best way to handle this situation. Everyone is talking about how because I'm not crying or anything it's just going to hit me and I'll start crying. I don't want it to hit me. So I need to find the best way to handle this.

Answer 1

everyone handles death in a different way. it may hit you later and you just cry uncontrollably for a while but you lost your brother so the pain is going to be there. just try to stay strong and if you are willing to then talk to close family and friends about how you are feeling. sorry about your lost hun. everything will be ok.

Answer 2

First of all, I'm very sorry for your loss. I lost my brother as well and I feel your family's and your pain.

Just because you don't cry doesn't mean that it's just going to hit you all of a sudden.

I do suggest talking to someone though. That's one of the best things you can do right now. I would try talking to a 3rd party because sometimes when you want to be sad it's hard having someone else who's depressed about it. I'd try talking to a good friend, or a boyfiend/girlfriend.

Again I'm really sorry. I know this is hard

Answer 3

There are a couple of motives why individuals consider in God. One of the motives is for the reason that they do not wish to manage their possess mortality, and that of each person they love. With that being stated, I'm an atheist. I have misplaced a few household hence a long way. It is rough. I are not able to think the day I lose my father and mother, or my fiance (assuming all of them cross first). But while, believing in an afterlife for the only motive that wasting my household, and on the idea I am going to die in the future, too, is certainly ridiculous to me. I have come to receive that after any one is long gone, that is it. No extra. It is gloomy, sure, however it is only a side of lifestyles, and also you are not able to battle it.

Answer 4

I think a lot depends on the circumstances of his death. Was he killed suddenly in a car crash or did he die slowly of leukemia? If the death was sudden, it usually takes longer to get through the denial stage of grief. If he had been sick for a long time, you may have already worked through some of the grief process. My dad died of Alzheimer's after a long illness. I was sad, and I cried a little bit once, but I didn't do any extreme grieving, because I had actually lost him a long time ago.



But everybody reacts differently. Just ignore those people who criticize you for not making a public process of your grieving. Tell them, "I'm handling my grief in a private way." And let that be it.

Answer 5

It's a sad situation..I lost my father when I was 5. I was too young to understand at the time and now it seems like it bothers me the most...I'm 22. But the best way to overcome the saddness I think, is to celebrate the life of this person. Dont dwell on the fact that they aren't there anymore, but be happy because of all the lives they changed in the short amount of time they were with us. Try to see the positive, always! They're in a better place and we'll be with them again one day. Good Luck! :)

Answer 6

There is no right or wrong way to mourn. Some people cry some don't. when people say "it will hit you later" they are really saying they don't understand how you mourn.

You will hear people make statements trying to make you feel better but the reality is that they don't know what to say.

Don't put a lot of stress on yourself trying to do the mourning thing the way others want you to. You will be alright.

I am sorry for your loss.

Answer 7

obviously the reality of your brother dying has not hit you yet.

i think that you really do need to get upset and mourn him because its the only way that you can accept this and move on.

don't worry, i'm sure that once things get underway and the funeral comes, it will hit you that he's died and you will mourn him and you will be able to move on.

never worry about what others are saying behind your back, it does not matter

my sincere condolences, make sure you look after yourself in this stressful time in your life.

P.S. i cannot believe you've lost a family member and are blogging on yahoo answers! i think that would be the very last thing in the back of my mind if i were in your shoes!

Answer 8

I am sorry for your loss. I can not imagine loosing my brother. I think you need to just let yourself grieve. Its ok to cry. i think you will feel better if you let it out. Yell, scream, cry, punch a pillow, but don't hold all the hurt and sadness in. It is bad for you.



Good Luck hun!

Answer 9

the best thing to do is to just accept it and let it out. you shouldnt bottle it up, it only gets worse and youll explode whether its next month or next year. trust me, i know. my grandpa was the backbone of my family and he died last year. he is the reason why i am the man i am today, while only at 16 i am shipping to Parris Island for Marine Corps boot camp tomarrow and i have my grandpa to thank, mainly, because he had a huge impact on why i enlisted. it will be tough for you, especially if you were super close to him. just look to your family for comfort and support, and dont bottle it up. im very sorry for your loss and i hope the future is kind to you.

Answer 10

Good, you dont seem to be affected as much cuz your on the internet right now. All the people I know get wasted when something like that happens, and they turn out fine. (but thats not the best way to deal with it)



And just dont think about it.



-prepare to get yelled at by family for being *inconsiderate and *indiffernt about your own brothers death. -just sayin.

Answer 11

I don't know your beliefs, but for me, I trust in God that someday I will see those in my family who have died, in heaven. Ask God to come into you life and give you that peace; if God is real, He will.



Sorry for your loss, take care.

Answer 12

Is dealing with it.