Question:
How do I convince or get my grandmas trust back?
MommysGirl
2010-12-02 21:05:11 UTC
okay im going to try and keep this short .. there is this guy (lets call him BOB lol) i have been dating for 3 years now im 15 and he is 17 we both go to the same school & everything .. I met his mom and step dad when i was 13, okay so the day i was going to meet BOBs parents .. I had this plan to ask my grandparents ( I LIVE WITH MY DADS PARENTS, MY GRANDPARENTS) I had this plan to ask them could i go spend some time with my time with my other grandpa ( MY MOMs DAD) they of course said yes . so when i got to my grandpas i spent like 2 hours with him then said i was going to my cousins down the street ( HIS NIECE) i lied, i was really going to meet BOB in the park and we were going back to his Parents house . so i spent the rest of the Day with BOB and i wasn't keeping up with the time it was 10pm! i didn't want to blow my cover, so BOB asked his mom could I stay overnight till the morning and he would walk me home .. MY HOUSE . she said yes but the thing is before she said yes , i ACTED like i was calling my family members to come & get me and i told her they weren't answering the telephone, I PURPOSELY DIALED THE WRONG NUMBERS LOL BECAUSE I WANTED TO STAY WITH BOB . mind you I WAS 13 when this was going on and he was 15 .. so i told her they weren't answering and she said okay. Bob and I slept on separate couches of course .. but when his parents went to sleep ,, we had sex in his room then went back to the couch and fell asleep ,, not together though.. so in the morning Bob walked me to my actual house around 9am or so. When i got inside my grandma asked me what was I doing there at that time and how i got there i told her I was at my friend destiny house ( no friend named destiny lol) and that her mom tasha said that I could stay with her that night ( i lied no mom named tasha) and how i got home was i walked because destiny lives down the street ( these people don't really exist lol destiny & tasha) so i was thinking that my grandma believed the story i told her .. we went to the doctor a couple days later for some shots and the doctor asked me was i sexually active i said yes she told me she wouldn't tell my grandma and she didn't but she eventually had to because the nurse at my school said to my doctor that she couldn't give me the birth control pills at school . & there was no other adult that would be okay with me being sexually active at 13.. so she told my grandma ,, my grandma picked me up from school and asked me what had really happened that weekend and I told her she wasn't mad just disappointed .. okay that's the background storyy !

NOWWW..... till this day my grandma doesn't trust me to be with Bob at his house even with his mom and step dad there .. I have told her several times that it wasn't Bobs mom fault it was MY FAULT for the lying and everything ,,, she still says that Bobs mom is not a responsible parent ,, so she says the only way I can hang out with Bob is if he comes over our house or we go out somewhere like the movies or something .. now I think this is totally unfair to Bob when he has to walk over to my house every time to see me and im not doing anything for him :( also I want to get to know and get used to Bobs family a little better and I think that has a part to do with why we are slowlyyy growing apart :( How do I convince or get my grandmas trust back??? with all of this old stuff haunting me ! AND if she doesn't let me see him without being at my house all the time after I have tried my best and hardest to convince her and get her trust back . I will eventually rebel and sneak out and not care what anybody thinks :p im 15 again by the way if u have forgotten ...

sorry i thought it was going to be short lol

no rude answers, you will regret it :) thanks
Four answers:
JaneDoe
2010-12-02 21:32:51 UTC
Try to explain to her that you really like 'Bob' and in order for you two to have a future together you need to get to know his parents better. Tell her that you will go over there at a decent hour and come home at a decent hour. For example from 5PM-8PM or whatever. Don't do anything sexual with 'Bob' again until your a bit older, maybe she will trust you more. See if you can invite 'Bob's' parents over for dinner for your grandparents to meet them. Tell her that you are willing to do anything to regain her trust and you have grown up and realized your mistakes but you do not want to ruin your relationship with 'Bob'. Good luck..
pancoast
2016-12-04 01:09:06 UTC
I understand the place she is coming from. She would not desire to lose each and every thing she has grown to renowned and love. could desire to you carry her some thing to consume it is pre-cooked each and every couple days and all she has to do is pop it interior the microwave? Can she sign in for nutrients on wheels? She probably would not bathe with out help in case she falls. could desire to you get her an help or somebody that could desire to do stay in care? could desire to you're taking her on an day out as quickly as in step with week to get her some social interplay? Are you looking relatively greater in the direction of assisted dwelling or nursing domicile? because of the fact, for my section, assisted dwelling is greater helpful... yet i could desire to stay in my very own residence, too. My heart is going out to this undesirable female.
Mr Warrior
2010-12-02 21:26:59 UTC
You call that short. I dont think so.
2010-12-02 21:35:21 UTC
I will regret it??...


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