Do you think it's right to cut your family out of your life?

Question

When you have done SO much for them, and all they do is tell you what a no good loser you are? And what a terrible person you are?

I'm not going to go into details of the many things I've sacrificed to give them help and support when they needed it, without them even asking.

I DID put my life on hold for a year by moving closer to them to help my mother when she begged me to so I could help them out. She has turned that completely around to make me look like a horrible person.

Do you think it's right to just cut them out of my life?

Answer 1

It sounds as though you have no family, because families don't treat you like that, do what you wish, live life for yourself it is yours, no-one else's.

Answer 2

I have a small family, and a similar thing happened. My aunt cut off all ties with my mom and I (we are the only family my uncle, her husband,has). She is mental, and blamed us for his health problems, which is ridiculous. I just got married this year, and she would not attend, or let him attend. This is the only family I have. I say good riddance! If she is going to be this way, I can live without the drama. I do not know all about your situation, but why put yourself through all the agony of worrying about something you can't change? Move on with your life, and hopefully they will come around at some point!

Answer 3

You do what you have to do for your own sanity. My husband cut his mother out of our life. We DID everything to try, and get along with her. She became jealous when me and my husband started getting serious with our relationship. When I would hang out with her in the kitchen she said nothing but negative things about her son. Nothing positive. When she found out we wanted to move out and live together, she started telling him that we wouldn't make it, and he wasn't good enough for a job he was trying to get. She even picked up a lysol can and try and throw it at his head just because he wanted to talk to her about her behavior. She's lied and told my mom that he was trying to hit her that day, just lies. He's helped her too and she is unappreciative. All I got to say is we are much happier without that women in our life.

Answer 4

Being "family" does not give them the right to be a part of your life. You have to take care of you. You do not owe anyone anything. If they want to be a positive part of your life then they will prove that and things will work out.

Answer 5

The most important thing is to make YOURSELF happy. And that's it. If that means cutting "toxic" people out of your life, even if that means family, then do it. I have put a great deal of "distance" between me and some of my family, and, man, what a LOAD off!

Answer 6

If you have told them that you don't like how they are treating you and they still haven't made an effort to change. Not everyone is meant to get along with their family. I do believe that you will spend eternity with them, so while I am trying to sympathize with you, I still think you will be seeing them in the afterlife and you might not want to totally kick them out.

Answer 7

YES YES YES Like my Dr says sometime it could be the healthiest thing for you just because there family dont mean there out for your best interest. So move on and make them work for your contact and remember you have one life to live and make yourself happy.

Answer 8

Sometimes you have to but it should always be done as a last resort. And if you have to make it final, you can't swing back and forth. To be honest, you don't sound like you are at that point yet. I hope it never gets that far. Good luck to you.

Answer 9

I think you have to first do what is best for God, then your family (the one you live with), then others. If it effects your life in a negative way, you should forgive them, and live your life positively and let them enjoy their own messes. And you should pray for them.

Answer 10

We all have obligations to our family, but those obligations do not extend to the acceptance of abusive or destructive behavior. If your family is abusive or destructive, you should definitely at least limit contact.

Answer 11

Best thing in this case is what your doing.