Should I be upset @ my husbands mom?

Question

This saturday I bought myself my bran new car, and since then my husbands mom has been asking for rides here and there. She could ask her husband or my husband to take her in there car but no she ask my husband to take her in my new car! What should I do? My husband is a huge mommy's boy so i dont want him to get him upset should i allow it to continue?

Answer 1

Whether she asks you directly or your husband, don't even try to deal with the mommy's boy issue, just say "I'm sorry, I'll be busy. Maybe your son/husband can take you." Be polite but firm. You can refuse and you don't have to say why.

Answer 2

You don't HAVE to let it continue- but honestly? She's old, shes decrepit, shes gonna die soon anyway. And plus, i dont think giving her rides her and there is gonna mess up your car =P You could tell her no, or talk to your husband about it, but that would be kind of a d*ck move 2bh with you. Like i agree with you, but it still would appear pretty selfish, just letting you know.



Plus, its not like shes making you waste your TIME driving her, or asking to drive it HERSELF- shes asking your husband to do it. And considering you and your husband are supposed to become one ANYWAY once you are married... if your husband wants to do it, and it makes him happy, why not let him drive your car and drive her around now and then? lol



ON THE OTHER HAND: YES YOU SHOULD LET HIM KNOW IT BOTHERS YOU. husbands and wives ALWAYS need to communicate EVERY little qualm they have. EVERYTHING. That's the #1 thing i tell my girlfriends or just hookups! And i know its not anything like marriage, but believe me- they never wanna leave me! Bcuz not only am i a pretty cool dude but i try my best to work with them!



So yeah, LET HIM KNOW. I'm not saying you have to actually STOP HIM from taking the car (as that would be semi rude), BUT you DEFINITELY should tell him.



That way, he might have a chance of going "idc if you want me to still take the car! if it bothers you, im gonna stop anyway. so your happy." and then its a win win situation!

Answer 3

How on earth did you graduate from high school? Terrible spelling, grammar etc.



Bran? new - do you mean brand new - bran is a grain, often found in muffins, cereals

there - a place - Their - belonging to

saturday - usually has a capital letter, as does "I"



So, if you have this new car, why are you unhappy having to drive it everywhere your mother in law wishes to go?

Answer 4

if she is not giving you gas money then you should tell your husband how you feel... she is just taking advantage of a new car and looking good infront of everyone... talk to your husband tell him you mean no offense by it its just getting annoying... i had problems like that with my mother in law at first and i just told my husband how it was of course we got into fits but we made up because in the end we love each other...

Answer 5

Maybe she is just wanting to get to know you better. Have you thought about that. Perhaps instead of you being just the daughter in law, she wants to befriend you. On the other hand she may well just be expecting to get her own way as per usual. So tell her 'No, can't do that, I am going elsewhere'. Do it enough and she may well get the message.

Answer 6

In the real world, it can be impossible to disagree with mothers in law without starting a riot. I think your only hope is that someone else buys a new car soon.

Answer 7

Just tell you husband that you bought it for yourself and would appreciate it if he could drive his mother around in his own car. There is nothing wrong with what your feeling, just let him know that its bothering you, and he should be fine with it. Hope I helped :)

Answer 8

what is the "it" that your asking continuance about?? what is IT "controlling" you, or "controlling" your husband?;; it's this simple, we ask for pleasure, we say yes for pleasure, we say no for reasons of safety, we say no cuz it's cause we have other things to do;; why don't you just tell her, "I'll take you"....if you're TRYING to find a reason to hate, you'll find it;; just like if you're looking for pain, you'll find it...do you literally think that this woman has nothing to do but play games with you??;; why does everything have to have an ulterior motive??...don't ya think ya MAY be getting a little bent out of shape about nothing??? it's this simple, she's your husband's mother, & if you love your husband, you'll love everyone associated with him, cuz simply, they make him who he is;; live with "it" or find someone else, for all your sake's...

Answer 9

i dont think you should take it too seriously right now. i think shes just trying to have fun in a brand new car if its a nice car then she just wants to go out in style. lol just let it play out then bring it up to him but in a nice way where he wont take it too seriously.



good luck

Answer 10

If you have a problem with it (although I don't understand why you would) just say no and have him take his own car.

Answer 11

you should ask her in a nice way why she wants you to take her places, because if you ask hm to ask her he will ask her wrong been there done that...mine is a mommas boy too! its just best if you get to the bottom of your question?

Answer 12

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Answer 13

Should I be upset @ my husbands mom?

Answer 14

if you don't like it just tell him straightforward. i would if i were you. i would discuss everything with him concerning about anything. so yeah...





he might not be happy with it but rite now you are not happy as well. make a compromise or something



hope things goin well for your family :D

Answer 15

Tell her you are not a chauffeur and do not have time to drive her everywhere.

Answer 16

it's not the car she wants...it's you.

Answer 17

talk to them

Answer 18

i agree..sure

Answer 19

sure, why not?

Answer 20

yes be mad!.