Question:
Why are they still trying to get me to talk to my racist mother? (Sorry it's so long)?
2017-12-21 00:09:29 UTC
My boyfriend and his son are African American and I'm Asian.

When we began dating in '16 my mom told me that she was okay with it because according to her 'it was a phase I was going through' when she met his son and realized how serious we were getting she told me that I should end it, because "African Americans and Asians don't belong together romantically" After telling her how racist she was being we left.

My mom and I haven't spoken to one another since that convo, we blocked my mom from everything and since we have done that my sister is now telling me that since I chose love over family that I'm no longer apart of the family (I could care less though)

My other brother tells me that I didn't do the right thing by blocking her from my life, and that since my bf is black "he'll leave me as soon as I'm pregnant" which I find stereotypical and racist & my other brother is telling me that I shouldn't be so stupid and in love with someone outside of my race and that I should reconnect with our mother because "she knows best"

Even my father is trying to get me talk to her again and they're divorced! According to him I should honor my mother's wishes and leave my boyfriend which is so not happening because I love him and he loves me.

I'm scared to announce that I'm pregnant to my friends because they know my brothers and sister and I have no desire to tell my family I'm pregnant because they'll want me to abort the baby because of who I'm pregnant by.
Seventeen answers:
2017-12-27 19:45:38 UTC
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2017-12-22 01:04:16 UTC
Yeah that's racist
?
2017-12-21 20:20:56 UTC
Although it's not right of your mother... It's probably just the culture she was brought up in. Asian cultures can be strict. I'd talk to her again and give her and ultimatum on the matter. I would guess she just doesn't want mixed grandchildren. Its important too some people.
Ms. Bou
2017-12-21 14:23:10 UTC
I am so sorry that you are going through this when it should be one of the most happy moments in your life. Congratulations on the upcoming event. A new baby is something to celebrate. It's too bad that your family is so supportive of your mother's beliefs. She is definitely racist and for your siblings to side with her is just wrong. Your mother is so wrong and is missing out on enjoying a relationship with her son-in-law and in celebrating that there is a baby on the way. The fact that your family are all rallying around your mother and her attitude is just sad. They should be thinking for themselves and embracing you and your beau. Don't let their beliefs upset you and potentially harm your baby. Stay calm and shut them out of your life. Blocking them and their nonsense out of your life is the wisest way to proceed. Eventually, they will get the idea that you don't want to deal with them and that they have a choice to make. If they want you and your boyfriend in their lives, then they have to accept that the two of you are a couple and that they have to accept that he is black. If they cannot accept that, then there is no other option and you will not be a part of their lives. Take care of yourself and try not to stress too much. Keep yourself in a good place mentally and physically. I hope your boyfriend understands how this stress can be upsetting to you at this time, especially with you being pregnant and takes good care of you.
?
2017-12-21 02:35:36 UTC
I say screw what your family thinks. You don't owe them anything, live your life and be a happy family with your bf and his son while enjoying being pregnant.



Don't give your mom, dad and siblings a second thought. If they can't accept your boyfriend then they don't need to be in your life
Ownerof3pitbullsandakitty
2017-12-21 01:19:37 UTC
Screw what they say, stick with your decision to keep the toxic people out of your life.
Pearl L
2017-12-21 00:43:30 UTC
i would date whoever you want to and if your family dont like it thats their problem
Jane
2017-12-21 00:20:47 UTC
Your challenge is to stay strong with your values while establishing a network of friends and 'family' (family does not have to be blood related).

I wish you the very best in achieving this!
?
2017-12-21 00:11:45 UTC
Yeah that's racist. And she's wrong but you should keep in contact with your mom for your own sake. So if anything ever happens between u and ur bf, you have your family for support.
ping
2017-12-21 00:09:50 UTC
sorry
?
2017-12-22 16:49:49 UTC
Some people live believe you should make allowances for 'family'. Some people are wrong. Racism should not be tolerated under any circumstance. Don't announce your pregnancy to anyone who would not be thrilled for you. Fvck those people. Make your own life with your NEW family.
?
2017-12-22 03:48:07 UTC
you are the only one that can change their attitudes by presenting a man you love to them. They have been raised to believe a lie and they will not see it as such without proof. Only you can provide that.
2017-12-22 01:11:11 UTC
Pearl L is always here. I'm Asian and have a black girlfriend. What's wrong with that?
marisa
2017-12-21 22:48:09 UTC
If your family really love you they should be able to except who you are. If they don’t, be thankful to get that negativity out of your life and even play a joke on them and say that you’re gay, then, you can call them racist and sexist and even charge them for discrimination. (Ok reading that just realised how far fetched that is but yeah) Date who you want to. Just because you’re biologically realated doesn’t mean you have to love her. Besides; it’s 21st century now she needs to get over it.
2017-12-21 02:48:21 UTC
There's nothing wrong with having a boyfriend and being pregnant, we don't know you personally so we can't say anything about your views on marriage.



My mom and dad are not married, but they're still together and have my siblings and I. They're also very happy with just being in a relationship and they don't need a piece of paper to showcase their love for one another. My sister and her boyfriend are also uninterested in marriage and they're expecting their second child together and also very happy together.



As for your family, I'd just block them out of your life permanently because they're not going to change their views of your boyfriend nor will they accept your child with said boyfriend.
Fate
2017-12-21 02:01:47 UTC
Cut them out of your life and never speak with them again, about telling people your pregnant tell a trusted friend who you trust not to tell your family about your joyous news.



If you haven't already block your siblings from all your social media
?
2017-12-21 00:28:54 UTC
Ask yourself this; if your mother died tomorrow, would you feel like you won by letting her go to the grave without the two of you having reconciled?


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