My girlfriend hates my mom?

Question

my girlfriend hates my mom and does not care about working things out with my mom, and she finds it fun being rude to my mom. it has been like this for some time now. i love my mom very much and i get hurt when my girlfriend hates her. But she loves me and I love her too. What should I do?
Like sometimes my mom and i would be talking and she just comes in and starts making out with me randomly so that mom and I can't even have a proper conversation.

We're both 21 years old by the way.....

Answer 1

Wow. I am sorry that you "love" any person who finds it "fun" to be rude to any other human being - especially to your mom. Please rethink this. It is like spitting in your mother's face every day. I am amazed that your mom puts up with it. Shame, shame on you! It should be entirely unacceptable to YOU that anyone you love should be mistreated by someone else you love. Time to put your foot down and GROW UP, please. Your girlfriend does not need to "LOVE" your mom; you cannot make that happen - but gratuitous rudeness is just flatly unacceptable. There is something really not right about your GF, my dear - that is a serious, serious character flaw. And you, as well - you need to grow a spine - the fact that your GF has the rudeness to just start making out with you in the middle of a convo with your mom shows that you are a complete doormat, since you will tolerate being used this way as a tool to be rude to your mom. I sincerely hope you grow a spine and put an end to this sickening behavior.

Answer 2

Right off the bat I see that she is the dominate and you are the submissive in this relationship. Her goal actually is to disrespect and humiliate you because apparently you like it. There is nothing wrong with being the submissive in a relationship, if that's what you enjoy. She doesn't have to love or even like your mom, but she should respect her. You allowed her to disrespect your mother and you even participated, (she didn't make out in front of your mom by herself). If you had stood up and set a boundary in the first place things wouldn't be where they are. Being submissive does not mean you are weak. Grow a pair and stand up for your mother.

Answer 3

she's probably jealous because she wants to be the only woman in your life, and she wants your mom to know that your her boy now. she's not a ***** for being that way, she's just protective.



i hate my boyfriends mom (not for the same reason) but i don't act ridiculous when she's around, even though i have no desire to work things out with her. some people just can't along with others, i'm sure you've met somebody in your life that you just don't want to try to get along with.



you could try to ask her to chill out a little bit, at least be civil around her. tell her if she doesn't start changing her actions then you won't take her to your mothers house or she can't be around you and your mom while you two are together. let her know that you're serious and that it really hurts your feelings when she does stuff like that.

Answer 4

I'm sorry to say, but your gf is a full-fledged ******.



She does not "care about working things out with your mom, and she finds it FUN being rude to my mom".



Who in their right minds finds being rude fun?? She is immature and her priorities are messed up. She's going out of her way to make your moms life miserable, and you like this girl??



tell her to grow the hell up or get out of your life. You deserve so much better than that!!

Answer 5

If she is not willing to love you enough to at LEAST show some respect you guys will never work out.

It will cause excessive stress in you, your mom and your relationship. Sometimes women become very possesive and even jealous over the guys mom, not a good sign. I am a women who had the same issue over my mother in law, I never am disrespectful of her due to the fact that she gave my husband life and without her there would be no him. Good luck

Answer 6

Tell your girlfriend and Mom separately, that until you get married, that your Mom is number #1 girl and after marriage your GF becomes your #1 girl. Make it clear to both of them.



If your GF can't handle waiting for that, she likely doesn't see the long term with you. If Mom can't handle that, she will meddle in your marriage.

Answer 7

I don't know why your girlfriend hates your mom so it's difficult to judge the situation but... You are loving someone who takes joy in being rude to another person. Surely there are better people out there.

Answer 8

Keep them apart, and if someday you decide to marry this girl, u better get those 2 to get along, or it's going to be a rough road for YOU.

Answer 9

she will only get worse as she gains more control over you dump her

Answer 10

the b&tch is disrespectful- she has to go