What do I do? Parents on my case, I am stressed and they are never satisfied.?

Question

I think I just need a counselor honestly.
Okay so here is my story. It's usually me and my dad who don't get along, but this time it's my mom too. Lately she has been on my case a lot always yelling at me. I started school back in August and the same week I started working my first job, and this year I am an editor at school for our newspaper so I have more responsibilities, and my grandpa who has now passed away was still with us when this all began oh yah and I am a senior in high school trying to apply to colleges and meet deadlines.
So my life has been really chaotic since august. My grades have been affected by all the stress but I try hard to keep them up. If I am not at school, I am at work, if I am not at work I am at home doing homework or studying. If I have free time and only if it is a friday or saturday, I try to hang out with friends. Now I haven't been able to hang out with ANYONE outside of school aside from one of my friends. the same one repetitively.
I always try to schedule a day to hang out with other friends but I end up being busy.
My mom has been giving me a hard time lately whenever I want to hang out with my friends. I went to homecoming the rally, and I am surprised she and my dad didn't make it a big deal, because usually they would. Other than that, she always says well stay home you have too much free time. SERIOUSLY? NO. If I ever have free time I have to study because I always have a test coming up, so I always have this burden hanging over me saying STUDY! like now.. so yesterday I ask her to take me and my friend to the mall. She starts saying oh you never stay home, or I dont want to take you, and I am like well YOU WONT LET ME DRIVE. I AM ALWAYS HOME BECAUSE YOU DONT LET ME GO OUT WHAT DO U EXPECT?! Honestly I didn't even yell. So today I wake up and start studying literally. Then take a quick break to eat and shower, then go back to homework. Then I ask my dad to take me to the library becauase I needed some books for homework. I come home, and am ready to continue my long list of things to do. I lay down feeling exhausted, and what do i hear? My mom yelling at me. LETS GO! WERE GOING TO GO EAT. I tell her no I have homework. Then she says YOU had time yesterday to do that lets go. I told her why would i do hw on a friday? thats the one day of the week I have off. She says then why did u try going out yesterday? I was like WOW, i was so speechless, because ONE: I wanted to go early and come back early TWO: I didnt even go. THREE: she really expects me to do hw on a friday?! after a long week of school. She knows how stressed I have been and nothing I do is ever good enough. She said some more things but i've written too much. Honestly when the family left, I broke down crying SO much.
I dont know what to do. I can't please her, I don't even want to, I am just doing this for me. I am a good kid, like no joke. I dont drink smoke or party. Im not allowed to do anything but work and school. They even get mad if I get out of work at 8 ON A SATURDAY!! that's ridiculous.
I cant wait to go to college next yr but I might stay in the same city because the college is in mine, and if I do then they wont let me move out. I NEED TO. I cant stand it here. They dont give me any respect or privacy or privledges. My aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, everyone agrees that they treat me poorly. They don't even know have the things my parents say to me that is emotionally scarring.
If you read this god bless you, that you actually spent your time reading about my pathetic life. If you have any advice I would love to hear it. If your a jackass who is just going to leave some stupid comment, dont even bother Im not in the mood and my school is full of a bunch of people like you, whom make me want graduation to come sooner.

Answer 1

By talking to them, you become and "Enabler". That is like giving booze to a drinker. Dont talk to them at all.



1st of all, maybe you think people/parents can talk anyway they see fit each day. Turns out many parents are abusers. Actually they are not trying to be tough to make you responsible- they are tricking you. This goes for people at school as well. Words are abuse also.



Hurting people control/hurt others. It's not you. They are the ones who have a problem. People/parents do mean things- ignore/abandon to control. They just want the reaction so they can get high feel good from it. You have to look at the agenda. Abuse is anything and words that are not uplifting. So forget what truth is being used right then. Remember -THEY are sick and get high on being mean, and thats why they do it. They are wrong about everything. The abuser is close-minded, self-righteous and was also abused themself.



The parents abuse can make children react with all types of so called mental Illnesses- painful but not a real disease - includes all OCD, BP ETC.



Psychiatrists commit fraud in that there is no medical science in what they do. They do not draw blood to test for imbalances. For chemical imbalances no test exists. There is no conception of what a correct chemical balance would look like to date. People in the FDA agree. I have links for this.



After abuse, drugs or witchcraft, all types mental sickness can be a spiritual problem. Jesus name is needed to banish what is there..



Google- "Inside the Mind of an Abuser" http://www.googobits.com/articles/2446-inside-the-mind-of-an-abuser-what-you-need-to-know.html-See how it works and be free...Google "self righteous"



God wants you to know truth, forgive, and get away from them. Read many many sites under "emotional abuse" and "dealing with bullies".



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Answer 2

I understand what you're going through. After high school, I stayed living at home while I went to the local junior college to save money on tuition and housing. While I would try to do my calculus, differential equation, or physics homework, my mother would constantly interrupt so I could wait on her and my dad while they watched TV after a hard day at work. She had no idea how much focus and time I needed to do my assignments correctly. When I broke down crying, she finally realized how much all the interruptions were stressing me out. Good for her that she did recognize what I was trying to do and they did their best to leave me alone and let me get my homework done.



I think your parents have no idea how stressful your life is. They assume you have the carefree life of a child with some of the freedoms of a teenager. You do need to have an open, non-challenging discussion with your parents what you are trying to accomplish. You might need a counselor or some other third party to mediate that discussion. You could try filling out a weekly or monthly calender that shows all your assignments, classes, work schedule, additional school activities, and social time. You are entitled to social time as downtime from school and work. Your parents may be thinking of your school time as social time. I think if you put it all down on a calender your parents would start to understand your busy schedule. During that discussion, make it clear that you want and need Friday evenings for a break from school and studying.



It could also be that your mom is missing time that she used to spend with you when you were younger. You could consider setting aside one evening a week to do something with your mom. It could be having coffee or ice cream with her after school, away from friends, away from school, away from work. If you take a couple hours to focus on communication and bonding with your mom, I think she'll be more supportive when you try to do other things.



Don't refuse meals at home, when your Mom or Dad have taken the time to prepare that meal. You need balanced nutrition to do all you activities and to use your brain for all that studying. Have that meal with them and thank them for taking the time to make that meal for you. You'll find that gratitude goes a long way to a healthy, nurturing relationship with your parents.



If you have to in order to bring your grades back up, cut back on your hours at work and time spent on extra school activities like the school paper.

Answer 3

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