My dad's really mean?

Question

Hey, i'm a 15 year old female. And ive had enough with my dad.. he constantly calls me a pig and filthy, lazy etc. (I'm 5"7, 96 pounds) Im not lazy.. And, anyhow last night i was up late because i have no school today. i was on the phone with my friend, she's also female. but i am gay (My dads homophobic and doesn't know) me and this girl kind have a thing but yea. AND he kept yelling at me to get off the phone but i didn't. and early this morning around 7:00 he comes in my room, Rips off all my blankets while im sleeping. starts screaming calling me lazy, ungrateful, telling me he's disgusted, and he asks where my cell is so i don't tell him. and he freaked out even more, and then told me not to talk to this girl anymore. It was hurtful, because i told him not to and he just gets mad when i tell him. and the whole reason he was doing this was because i guess during the night i knocked over my glass of water. My dad's never hit me, but he makes me feel so shitty about myself.. and when ever i go to leave to go to my moms house he makes me feel bad for leaving and i end up staying.. i don't know how to handle this. im tired of him being like this.

Answer 1

1st of all, maybe you think people/parents can talk anyway they see fit each day. Turns out many parents are abusers. Actually they are not trying to be tough to make you better or help- they are tricking you. This goes for people at school as well. Words are abuse also.



There are many types of abusive people/parents. Some ignore you. Some hit the bottle. Some hit you. And some run their mouths and put you down. THEY are sick and feel great by being mean, and thats the only reason they do it. They are wrong about everything. The typical abuser is close-minded, self-righteous and was also abused themself. Use defense and read many sites on verbal abuse etc. People tear you down to build themselves up. Youre being abused - Its their problem. Knowledge is power.



Abuse causes pain mistaken as Mental Problems. BP OCD etc. Psychiatrists commit fraud and all disorders are a hoax. For chemical imbalances NO test exists. You dont have what shrinks say you have. Dont tell anyone about your so called disorder. They will only drug you.



Jesus name and forgiving others who are wrong is important along with avoiding them.



Call or I can- Child Protective Services- Transitional help to age 21- tell your teacher. Dont tell your parents they wont listen.



Learn the truth, forgive, and Get Away from them. Read many many sites under "emotional abuse" and "dealing with bullies".



I have some questions for you if want to talk about it.

Answer 2

Your Dad sounds like alot of Fathers who feel that they are messing up as parents because of their children's behavior. He is trying to correct your behavior, but in the totally wrong way. My Dad tried to correct me by insulting and belittling me, which he learned from his Dad. It is too bad that he is handling this in this way because he is defining the relationship that you will have with men for the rest of your life. He may also already have figured out that the girl you were talking to is easing you into a homosexual lifestyle. It's not usually the emotionally/mentally healthy people who are already engaging in homosexuality in high school. You may find it hard to believe, but love for you may be the motivation behind his extreme behavior.

Love makes people behave poorly, sometimes. I talked to a professional counselor once who, when I told her about my Dad, she said, "If you love him, you have to love him for both his bad traits and his good traits. If you love someone, you have to love the whole person." It's tough to love a person that you cannot relate to, who has authority over you that he has obviously abused, in some ways. You need to consider; however, that he will always be your Dad and that he will die a LONG time before you do.



Try to do the domestic things that please him. Imagine the look on his face if he opened the door to your room and it was spotless. Imagine his surprise the next time he asks you to do something (no matter how mean he asks) if you smiled and said, "Sure, Dad." A relationship takes work and often one person does the majority. The only thing powerful enough to change any person's heart, is love. Show him your love. Not because of who he is, but because of who YOU are and the sort of woman that you want to become. If you show him humility and love, you will watch him soften and change.

Answer 3

I feel so sorry for you :(



Your dad sounds like a complete idiot and I wouldn't have anything to do with him if I was you. He's taking all his anger out on you and you're only 15! You shouldn't have to deal with that sort of abuse.



Do you like your mom? if so go and stay with her.



And there's nothing wrong with being gay it's completely natural. Just be yourself, I'm sure things will work out for you in the end.

Answer 4

He wants you to listen to him. Try it. Don't be on the phone late. I am sure you do not pay the bill so he has the right. Maybe if you did stuff around the house instead of chatting and laying around, he would be less uptight.

Answer 5

I think you should go and stay at your mum's house and tell her what he's been doing, ask her to have a word with him, if nothing changes then go and live with your mum.

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Answer 6

Leave him for a couple of weeks. Make him really regret. You'll see, if he really loves you he will come crawling back

Answer 7

Maybe you should stay somewhere else for a while.