Caught my son masturbating into my heels?

Question

i'm a single mum my son is 16. I want to talk to him about it but don't no how

Answer 1

This is not normal for a teenager boy, hes only a couple years younger then me, however no guy i know will ever do that, some people get the motive by watching porn, take away his computer/laptop for a week or so, and dont let him play on his console i.e. xbox, tell him this ur punishment for what u did, dont let this one go off easily otherwise hes more likely to do it again, cuz he got away easily the first time, block the porn websites off the laptop/computer, put a proxy on ur computer, if u got sky digital type ur pin in on the settings option and disable the 900 porn channels. btw eres a link below on how to block porn, ect.. and yes its porn that temps ur kid to do this, im actually angry how someone can actually do that to their mom, he shud kno better.



http://www.ehow.com/how_4466699_block-porn-completely-computer.html



ur sons likely to have porn stashed away i.e. magazines, on his hdd, pictures and vidz, look for it delete it, get rid of it, and then block the porn websites, and apply the proxy, get a computer/laptop monitor to monitor activity on the computer, u can also warn ur son, uve put a monitor software on his computer therefore if he does anything hes not supposed to be doing on the computer, u will take away his privilege to use the computer.



http://www.microsoft.com/en-us/download/details.aspx?displaylang=en&id=4865

http://download.cnet.com/windows/monitoring-software/

Answer 2

It is dependent. A number of boys and men have panty fetishes. But if it has to do with the girl being younger then it definitely is a problem. I consider he wants to speak to a counseler who has some skills in this discipline to get an thought of what's going on. I would now not reach a conclusion except you might have extra expertise.

Answer 3

What do you want to say to him? About the only thing you should say to him is "I don't want my shoes ruined." Masturbation is normal and healthy. He may stop when he's getting sex regularly, or maybe he'll stop about five minutes after he dies. Boys his age will masturbate WITH and TO anything.



There's a chance he has a shoe fetish, which isn't all that rare. There is also a smaller chance this is Oedipal and it is as much about it being YOUR shoe as it being a shoe. But the greater chance is that it is about the shoe, and it was your shoe that was available,



Consider letting him have a pair and replacing them with a new purchase.



Whatever you do, do NOT indicate it is wrong to masturbate. At the very least, that will hurt your relationship with him and it could also cause him needless additional problems.

Answer 4

I would say that is normal for a teenage boy. They have a high sex drive so they need to satisfy that often. They can find some strange ways to go about doing it. At least if he is doing it in your shoes it is one less time that he is getting his satisfaction from putting it in a girl. Honestly, you might be better off not talking to him about it. It might have some emotional stigma for him if he finds out his mom seen him masturbating. If you do want to talk to him about it then maybe you could bring it up by asking him if he knows why are favorite pair of heels are sticky.

Answer 5

Although this may be normal and ok...



Get real and he needs to pay for the shoes.



Simple as, there is something wrong with my shoes and it is not mine. So, you have to pay me for them.



Watch his reaction. You are not saying anything about the behavior that should freak him out. You should be able to talk about this.



To be a real parent we have to deal with ALL aspects. I was a single mom and if I didn't understand something, I read a book about the behavior. Now, I would search the internet.



Go search the internet on how to talk to your son about this.

Answer 6

Presumably, you said something when you caught him? Perhaps you were both too embarrassed.

Masturbation is very common (well, mandatory!) with teenagers, so I wouldn't worry too much about it.

Perhaps just say some thing like " When I saw you masturbating into my shoes the other day, it was very embarrassing. Please do that sort of thing in private and please don't ever use my shoes or any of my stuff to do it"

Answer 7

It's embarrassing enough to get caught, and twice as embarrassing if you talk to him about it. He probably has a shoe fetish. Nothing wrong with that. We all have fantasies and things that turn us on. Just let it go and keep your shoes put up. Chances are he will either grow out of it.

Answer 8

I would give it a few days before you confront him. Don't make him feel bad about because at 16 you are still growing and your habits can change. If he feels shunned he may internalize this and it can have negative impacts. Speaking to a counselor before having a conversation with your child is not a bad idea either. Best of luck to you both.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

i wouldnt talk to him about it. its bad enough being caught doing that, but to then have to talk to you about it. i wouldnt be able to look at you or be around you for a long time, and would imagine that you would think bad and horrible things about me everytime you see me or see me with the door closed. hes a teenager, you do and try different and sometimes weird and crazy stuff. dont make him feel any worse about it then he already does.

Answer 11

Were you asleep? Did he sneek up on you? How the heck did you not wonder what he was doing behind you before it got that far? Calves I can understand, but not heels.



Disgusting.

Answer 12

Do not say anything to him, that will cause him much mental anguish. instead leave him some of you worn and smelly pantyhose to masturbate with, HE MAY REQUIRE SOME OF YOUR WORN AND SMELLY PANTIES ALSO.

Answer 13

Don't approach your son on this matter, hide your shoes i a different place to subtly show you know that they've been moved.



Approaching your son on this matter will only knock his confidence and comfort between you two.

Answer 14

I dont think you even need to talk to him, He is masterbating, for a 16 year old this is healthy, dont act like anything is wrong because it isnt and it will hurt him if you think he is in the wrong. He will be very embaressed. Trust me it is highly highly unlikely he was thinking about you.

Answer 15

in teenager boys do strange things. i masturbated more than once in mom pants and she never talk to me about it.

Answer 16

Eh just a foot fetish, don't worry! Once he has a girlfriend or whatever he will have satisfaction. Seriously its no big deal, a lot of people may find it strange or peculiar, but everyone has their own fixes.

Answer 17

Maybe it was payback for something you did? Must've been squishy when you used them! What can you say to him except please don't relieve yourself into my footwear? It's a phrase, it'll pass.

Answer 18

Wow lol no don't approach him with it. Just let it be. I would hide my shoes from him though.

Answer 19

Give him a foot job, thatll make him happy.

Answer 20

thats definitely strange, even with the sexual appetite of youngsters...i would have a chat and try persuade him to see a medical doctor or psychiatrist, your son is weird, sorry.

Answer 21

Maybe he wants to be a girl

Answer 22

thats really wierd!!

someone elses heels, fine, but not his moms!!

Answer 23

this is kinda turning me on :P

Answer 24

mmmmmmmmmmm

Answer 25

Blahahahaha........that's just too weird, this can't be real!!!!

Answer 26

LOL.