I just found out my sister-in-law hates me! Am I in the wrong or is she?

Question

I recently used my sister-in-law's email address (with her permission) to post a Craigslist ad. She gave me her password so I could check her email for any responses to the ad. So I was checking it one day and found an AWFUL email from her to her brother (my brother-in-law) basically saying that they can't wait for the divorce and that me and my kids are white trash and that we're a drain on my husband's resources, and a lot of other very nasty things! This broke my heart. She lived with my husband and I for a year and I always considered her to be a friend, a GOOD friend. We bonded quite a bit when she lived with us, or so I thought, and to find out this is how she truly feels about me......well, I'm just dumbfounded.

I confronted her about it and her retort was basically "I have a right to have my opinion and I have a right to have a private conversation with my brother." So she's not sorry at all, and she blames me for reading her email, which I'll admit, I shouldn't have done, but it still doesn't take away the awful, awful things she said about me and my children.

So my question is.....who's in the wrong? Me, for reading her private email, or her, for being two-faced?

Answer 1

You both are wrong... you should of created your own email account like you did making this yahoo id to go on yahoo answers and she should not be two-faced.. while I am not defending her she is entitled to her opinion and you are entitled to be mad.. but maybe you need to step back and really look at your life and see if you are living up to who you can and should be as a woman, mother , friend and sister and sister-in-law....and a wife.. are you your husband help mate or just a body in his home who cares for the kids and does not do much else. sometimes as woman we need to step back look in the mirror and reflect on ourselves.. and judge ourselves and not others.. no one is perfect but that is not an excuse to not be all you can and should be.....good luck

Answer 2

I would agree with you when you say she is in the wrong, but its just in the end you have to know in yourself how you truly are, that you are the the description that she depicted you as in the email. Someone is always going to say something bad about something they see is real and true. I think she vented out in that email out of jealously because she experienced how you and your children are with your husband as a family and she wants the same. Don't let what other people say get to you. She is wrong for writing it but in a way i think she wanted you to see it otherwise she would have deleted the email before she gave you her permission to use it. You can't help but to read it especially when its out in the open like that so you are not wrong for reading it i know i would have done the same, its her that knew you would so its her thats wrong she is trying to stir up a bad image for you and make your life hell by spreading these opinions she has of you and enjoying seeing you break down as you watch her. Its better to just go on and ignore her for misery loves company and she looking for that company in you.

Answer 3

It's a jealousy thing. She may or may not have done it on purpouse, but if she didn't want you to read her e-mail she shouldn't have given you her password. My mother gave me her password to check something for her and I found out she was having 3 different affairs at the same time while still living with my father. My dad suspected, but didn't have proof, I did because I re-e-mailed them to myself as proof in case she decided to fight hard in court for her kids, who all never wanted to live with her. It's something your sister in law should have thought about.



It is her right to like you or not, and her brother's right to talk to her about that via e-mail. She's right, she ahs the right to have an opinion. So do you. You also have the right to keep your children away from her, but don't pit your hubby against her and his other brother because that coudl cause marital problems which you don't want. Make sure you tell your husband though you are heartbroken, that you want a healthy happy marriage and that you never want to get in him and his family's way. Tell him he doens't ahve to feel anything because of what you feel, but that you are uncomfortable with your kids being around her, and you feel unwelcome in her company. Make sure he knows you love him, and that you will always.

Answer 4

Hmm, Good question! I don't think it was right of you to read the e-mails but then again what a b*itch! What did your husband think of the things she said about you and your children? If she isn't sorry and does think those things i guess it better you know now so you don't waste anymore time on her! And you also have to think she would have known those emails where there when she let you use her account, maybe she did it on purpose...

Answer 5

if she thinks it has anything to do along with her being iranian and the entire household now not being capable to realize i can danger a bet and that i might be fallacious. Does her household hate Iran, did they flee after the revolution in 1979? I've met cubans who hate castro and cuba since thier grandfather left there. So even as they're iranians they are going to very good had been westernized and hate Iran themselves. she might be the atypical one out. probably she has many iranian or muslim peers, wherein she bought it from now not from the familys beliefs. that being stated do you hate iran, do you disagree with them? certain you prefer iranian humans simply now not what they are doing in thier possess nation as should you think them to all be slaves of ahmenijead. i guarantee you there are conservative iranians who consider iran and the ayatollah they usually pass alongside willingly. So are you just like the cuban who left cuba and has not anything however unhealthy matters to mention approximately it now? If you pass round and uncover expatriated american citizens residing god is aware of wherein, possibilities are they bought not anything high-quality to mention approximately the us or george bush. It's the one factor i will believe of and i am not iranian. lengthy tale quick, do you and the leisure of the household dislike ahmenijead, do you aid revolution in Iran. you believe they will have to stand up and switch iran right into a western variety nation. certain you prefer to fulfill humans however do you recognize thier tradition or do you desire to difference thier tradition in a few faulty attempt to support them?

Answer 6

firstly you should not have read another persons email (but you know that now)

secondly yes she does have the right to her own opinion

finally

yo obviouls are making the right decision to leave this family

you deserve better

i wish you the best

i would stay away (far away) from them as possible

put this sad chapter in your life away and never open it again

Answer 7

I can imagine.

ure lucky u have a husband who stood up 4 u

Answer 8

You are not actually wrong. What she did was awful. It's very bad of her. Well however from now onward be careful of her.