My husband recorded my 13 year old in the shower?

Question

My husband recorded my 13 year old in the shower?

Answer 1

I'm sorry but you're utterly despicable...Why would you need a second opinion on this? That's like asking "Should I watch out for traffic when crossing the street?"...As a 17-year-old whose been gawked at by creeps in public since she was 12, I can tell you for a fact that if I found out that someone I actually loved and trusted did that to me behind my back AND my own mother KNEW about it but CHOSE to do nothing, not only would I never forgive her but I would press charges against both of them and completely cut them both out of my life. And if they had done anything to me I would blame her for intentionally failing to prevent it...Would you want that to happen to you and your daughter? Do the right thing before he does something to her that's even more irrevocable than what he's already done without her knowledge, if he hasn't already that is (because you've obviously proven to be no super mom XP or any mother at all really) I just hope you realize that you're not only risking her physical, emotional, mental, and psychological safety but your freedom as well- if anything happens to her, the police will find out you knew about it and they'll arrest you for covering it up, you'll be considered an accessory to the crime and wind up going down with him. If not for your daughter then at least for your own sake, save your soul.

P.S. You better pray he hasn't uploaded those videos online or sold them to anyone, which is most likely the case...You're already playing with some serious charges, production of child pornography is bad enough, you don't want distribution added to that list...And FYI the minute the two of you tell a counselor what he did they'll be legally obligated to contact authorities and DCF

Answer 2

With respect.... Curiousity or not, that is sexual intent towards a minor!!! As previous people have stated, he knowingly went to the extent of setting the phone up and catching actual footage of an innocent child, YOUR CHILD. He is indeed a very very sick individual. even with councelling (which, yes that does take alot) it will make no difference. If someone was intent on doing this action then they will not change from a few sessions of "tell me about your mother." Ask yourself the question... what would you have done if you would have not caught him in that moment?? Then it progressed further. Would you still allow that sick twisted creep near your child? By the way a mothers job is to put the safety of their child before any thing or anyone else. If that was my child whether i loved that person or not they would be in a land fill site! Also just to clarify, yes men are human, they are attracted to beauty. BUT there is a limit! There are so many angles to look at this in but the bottom line is that he is a border line peadofile, who you are allowing near your child, knowing that he already has a facination with her. Secondly, how would her actual father feel if he was to find out later if things actually got further? If a friend came to you and told you what you had just written would you react in the same way? This is not a rant just a well deserved wake up call. This is just my opinion, however I would just say put your child first.

Answer 3

It's not even close to fall into the category of a mistake, it is a serious crime. If you compare this act to a murder, it is a first degree murder by comparison, why? because he planned it, and it is only a plan "A" and for sure there are some more plans probably B and C after plan "A" has been successfully executed. The "B" should be to sell the video to people who operated child pornography and the "C" is the price of the video.

The scale of a crime is measured in the basis of "intent", when the intent to do the crime is maximized, the crime committed will be rated as "first degree crime".

In his case there are 3 intentional convictions against him;

1.) intentionally planned to record her.

2.) Intentionally placed the cell phone in the basket and thirdly,

3.) Intentionally press the cell phone's recording

button on.

To support his intentions, the cell phone's recording mode Does Not automatically turn on with out selecting and pressing the specific recording button. therefore he did not make a mistake but he committed a serious crime.

His voluntary action to see a councilor is just a smart drama intended to fool you and everybody as a cover up to promote that he is just being curious. He is old enough to differentiate between curiosity and a crime.

Answer 4

Your husband is upset and distraught because he's been caught.

You have no idea what he has done before?

Exactly what was he curious about?

Counseling is for people with serious problems - not a sudden flash of curiosity.

It's more likely to avoid the consequences of being caught.



And what was your daughters reaction? She must have been told so that she can take precautions - self protection. Or are you waiting for her to get more seriously hurt?



This should be a police matter.

Children must be protected - not sacrificed.



Sometimes people do indeed make a stupid mistake of this nature - about 1 in 10,000

Answer 5

I would take a hard stand on this one. He was upset because you caught him! he must have been freaking out when you went into the bathroom. Now he is having a guilt attack and going to counseling. I would definitely never leave him alone with any child. It should be interesting what the counselor does. She is mandated to report child abuse and assault. I would make sure that you have access to the counselor. I would not trust him again. Heavens only knows what he has recorded in the past. I would separate until this can be sorted out. I understand that you have been through a divorce previously and probably do not want to go through another. But remember it is about the safety of your kids.

Answer 6

If that happened to me personally I would divorce him without another thought. I would never allow my 13 year old daughter to be preyed on by someone who was supposed to be a parent figure. Absolutely never.

Answer 7

I am a very forgiving person if someone hurts me. However, I would draw the line if my husband recorded

my daughter in the shower. There is NO excuse. Of course he feels guilty, he got caught.

If it were my daughter he would be missing his cojones for damn sure, and I would call the police.

Is this marriage worth the risk that he is a child predator? I don't think so. I am glad you had the

sense to send her to her father, and I would leave her there until you kick that man out of your life.

Answer 8

I can't believe this question is even on here! It infuriates me that you as her mother, would hesitate for one minute, to get him out of your/her life forever! He needs to be behind bars! There are laws against this! He's a perverted pedophile! Just playing along in the hopes that you won't file charges! She will never be able to feel comfortable around him again! Unless she has an infatuation with him, as some young girls do. I hope this isn't the case, or you may have deeper problems. Your gut knows the right thing to do!

Answer 9

Being a fifteen year old girl if I personally discovered my step-father was doing this I would hope my mother would turn him into the police. If she didn't I would disown her and never look back while pressing charges on both her and my dad. This is entirely unaccusable. You should be ashamed of the fact you’re doing nothing about this. Why are you on here? You should be at the police station and locking him up behind bars. Have you thought at least once that this could trash your daughter’s mental health? That she’ll never be able to approach another man ever due to what your sick husband did? She is going to be terrified. Put your selfish love aside for your husband and put your child first. They are your soul responsibility, the love and joy you brought into the world. What he did was child-pornography which is illegal. You will be charged with the same if you do nothing as you’ll be accessory after the fact. So get off your butt and turn his *** in. He should never be aloud near your children or any other minor again. Fyi, he was ‘distraught and upset’ because he got caught. Now he’s scared shitless of being in the slammer—which is exactly where he belongs. Don’t let him guilt trip you into thinking otherwise.

Answer 10

If that was me, I would not allow any of my children to be around a potential child predator. Assuming he already isn't one.

That's your child. Is it worth the risk of putting her in danger?

Answer 11

I'm gonna go against the grain here.



I don't see a problem. Everyone makes mistakes. He was probably just really horny and curious, and he got caught up in it.



A lot of dads are attracted to their daughters, they'll never admit it though. A couple here and there will do these kinds of things and once in a while get caught.



It's not the end of the world, he's not a predator, he was just curious. Nothing wrong with that. It doesn't take away from all those years of good parenting and being a good husband. Don't let a stupid one-off cloud your judgment.



I mean, he's only human. What if the daughter is a supermodel and everyone else thinks she's hot? The father can't magically be immune to that just because she's a daughter, it can be hard to control.



Nobody was harmed, nobody got hurt. It wasn't physical sexual contact or him saying dirty things to her. Trust me, it coulda been much much worse, but this is nothing. If there was physical contact or him saying dirty things to her, then you should be concerned, but otherwise, no. She's old enough too, it wasn't like she's a 5 year old girl.



Look at all the bright sides of optimism here, don't look at the one negative.



So, it's all good.



In several countries, age of consent and having sex at 13 is normal. Everyone views it fine. Mother nature even agrees (periods). You said she looks 18, so come on, give him a break.



Just ignore what happened, people are taking this way too seriously.





Edit:



Look, just tell the guy to confess to the girl. Then let the girl decide.



If the girl felt uncomfortable before, or reveals things that he did to her instead of this one-off incident, then re-evaluate the situation and lean towards something more drastic.

Answer 12

Oh my god that's horrible! I'm 13 too and if I found out that I was being recorded while I was in the shower, I would kill the whole world. Your daughter will be hurt and disturbed. Your husband is supposed to be a father to your daughter and shouldn't do such a thing. Maybe you should see if he does something like that again and if so, you should have a serious talk with him

Answer 13

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Answer 14

This is not acceptable your husband before your daughter right now and that's totally not acceptable and I can't believe you would actually be on here asking a question instead of going to the cops getting him arrested I don't know what state of mind that you're in that is not acceptable at all you don't just record a 13 year old girl taking a shower that's freaking child pornagraphy if you don't know ma'am you should really be ashamed of yourself if my mom ever did this to me I would be so upset and like I wouldn't forgive her and I'm 16 years old he needs to be in jail!!!!!!

Answer 15

I had a 13 yr old step daughter and I think shes crazy beautiful and she has done sexual stuff around me in the past, even as far as putting her vajingo on my mouth while I was laying down a few times, she is no slut she just liked me. After awhile of me telling her mom and all that... I realised she was in love with me, I'm young and attractive and the age difference is almost the same from mine and hers as it is between mine and her mothers. Even though she feels that way towards me and of course I love her I would never film her in the bathroom nude, that's a bit much, that's shady and disrespectful to her. Even if she is young she is a person with rights. Even if the age of consent was 13 which it was in a few countries as little as 2 years ago.. he shouldnt be videotaping a girl showering and pooping. that's not legal in any country! People need time to be free, I dont care how in love or obsessed or horned out he is.

Answer 16

It is not true that no one was harmed by this. Many people who learned they were spied on in intimate moments were quite emotionally upset by it, for a long time.



In your own life, fears for your child, doubts about your own judgment-- will now be with you for some time to come. You face important decisions.



The first thing to do is take your child to a gentle and experienced child counselor, and give her the chance to express how she feels about what has happened to HER. She should have this support, and opportunity, and you need to know how she feels about this.



I don't know how long you have been married to this guy, or what his personal history is, but this is a serious "mistake". It undermines the emotional safety of the child, and the wife, in their own home.



This is something an immature boy might do, say a 12 year old. Then it MIGHT be considered a juvenile prank. but we are apparently talking about an adult in his 40s, done in his home and violating the privacy of his 13 year old stepdaughter.



One thing that might help clear this up in your mind is a session or 2 with a counselor who treats patients sex offenders. It will help you decide how serious this is in your unique family situation, and what steps you can take to protect your child and restore trust in your home.



I am sorry you are faced with this most distressing incident. It is a very good thing you found this out. In all the fuss and pain, be glad for that.

Answer 17

I sorry that you and your family had to go through that. I am not a professional in a position to tell you what to do, and I am not trying to judge anyone, but my opinion is he has to go. You have your children to think about, and their well being and safety is worth more than any history you and your current husband has had in the past. I sense that you really want to give your husband the benefit of the doubt, and that it was a one time mistake, but you cannot be for certain that this was the first time or that it was a spur of the moment thing. A grown man who doesn't know how inappropriate shouldn't be around minors. I can't imagine what you daughter would have to go through with him around as a constant reminder, should you decide to stay together.

Answer 18

okay, so i'm also going to go against the grain here. before i share my opinion, let me reveal to you that i am a sixteen year old girl with a family that is very conventional and successful and happy and divorce was never involved. i am not attracted to my dad whatsoever, but i AM attracted to older men. by that, i mean like 40 yr old men. if my mom had a hot husband who i wasnt blood related to, i'd probably attempt to do him. this is not normal, and a bit far fetched, BUT what your husband did is not the end of the world. i am also a feminist, my views are very one sided, i will fight for unconsentual sexual activity OF ANY TYPE until i am blue in the face, but i dont know, to be honest i would discuss it with your daughter and let her decide how uncomfortable she feels about it. it isnt really up to you, you're just the one that caught him in the act. he has a right to feel flustered, he might have made a mistake, but the chances are your daughter is already gotten enough attention for her body it might not even surprise her that much. take it easy, i'm sure he is a good man. no harm done.

Answer 19

I have several lady acquaintances that have had similar experiences... they're divorced and they've finally moved on and married or moved in with their new guy... only to find that the guy has been "grooming" their tween-age daughter for sex. This is proof positive that you should contract with a PI to do a background check on any men you plan on getting serious about... you need to know about any criminal background, kids he is supporting (you'd be surprised at how many dudes get married just for help with child support, credit history and bankruptcies. You may have grown up together, but you have a huge gap in between high school and today. Lots of time to do stupid stuff.

You need to have a real conversation with your daughter, both about what has been attempted and about what is and is NOT allowed.

Get ready to call the cops and have this creep arrested. It sounds like he is already on the defensive. At your ages, he has probably tried this same crap already.

Your daughter is NOT an hors d'oeuvres for a pervert.

Answer 20

Hello,

i cnalt imagine how you must feel att this moment. That is absolutely mterrible. There is NO excuse for something this terrible. Your husband does not regret what he has dodn, so you cna stoip feeling terrible about being angry with him. SO you know aht it is?> He gotcaught and now he feels terrible because he got caught. He said, he was curious?? Of your own daughter. She is a minor and she is most of all your own daughter.

She has exactly what you have. How could he be curious??? and if she had something different, he would be curious to see her in the nude??? DO you know that this could lead to him possibly committing rape to her??? Step fathers rape their wife girls when the mom is asleep and the girl gets to afraid to tell. The mother sometimes doesn't always believe her.That is crazy in itself. If I was her, I would NOT stay there again. I don't care if you are there. I would not trust that man. NOT at all!!! NO way!!! I don't care if he sees 5 therapist and 2 counselors. I could never trust him again. He definitely crossed the line. I would NOT leave her in the house with him. Especially if she is in bed.

I hate to say these things because I know it must hurt you to even hear it, but I am concern for her safety. He's a pervert. There is no other word for it. Any women with daughters should not ever marry anyone except the kids father. Some of these men are really terrible humans. They put their daughters in jeopardy big time!!! Now, if she had come and showed that to you, would you have believe her? You probably would not. I know my mom certainly would believe me. I don't know what to tell you. I am a christian, so I follow the bible there is to be NO divorce. I would not tell you to leave him. Even though he deserves it. I know I would not trust him with any of my girls. Ever!!! Something like that, there is no more trying it again. Not something that horrible to a 13 year old. You love each other sooo much and he knew you soo long, yet he;s trying to see your 13 year old daughter naked and giving you a stupid childish answer like , he was curious. Like he's 9 and trying to look under a girls skirt. What kind if excuse is that??? Maybe you love him so much, but he still has wondering eyes and their on your own daughter. You should not even give your daughter an excuse for him, because you're going to look very stupid as her mother.I'm a female and I really feel sorry for your daughter. She trusted him and to lose that trust is so terrible. This is such a sad story. You take care and please take care of your daughter. Once she is defiled , there's no erasing it. You did the right thing by confronting him. But I hope you know he is not sorry. He is sorry he got caught. This may have happened before and I bet it certainly would happen again. I hope you keep us posted because SOME of us really do care. Bye. Oh, I seen where some stupid person said, he was just feeling horny, well, the next time he may just slip int her room like some step fathers do because he's feeling horny. Than what??? Disgusting!!!!!

Answer 21

It is very clear that the motive behind recording is sexual not child love. Keep an eye on the man whenever your daughter is present. This may not be very practical . Tell your husband what you think about him after the incident. Under the circumstances it is far better for you to allow your daughter to live with her real father rather than taking a risk by allowing her to live with the step father. You can always visit her provided there is no legal barrier .Tell your husband that he has done a dirty thing and worn him.

Answer 22

I fully understand your situation. It's a grey area now really....

No your family will never be the same, and will never work out because in our society we consider it wrong, mistake or not, curiosity or not.... Until she turns into a full grown adult ( not just 18) will you be able to let it go, even then it could still just be a maybe.

It's grey because he didn't physically do anything so it's not on the darkest side.

It's grey because you love this man and yes people can become curious sometimes and curiosity could be a bothersome so we can try to learn discreetly... Now because he got caught, it is possible that he really regrets doing that.



But like I said, it won't workout until this girl has reached adulthood, because that's when you can just start to ease up. By then the anxiety would have probably driven you crazy and you'll resent him for his mistake.

Answer 23

This shitheads a pedo, show this to the cops and get his *** in jail. Dont even bullshit yourself with "oh it was an acident" or he'll change. If he had the idea that this was ok and the only reason he stopped is because he got cought and doesnt want to get in further trouble. ******* hell lady he recorded your 13. Year. Old. Daughter. It shouldnt care if she looks like an adult have some common decency. I dont mean to be so rude, but **** why are you even questioning it. I am very sorry to hear the love pf your live turned put like this. You didnt derseve it but your daughter derserves a safe house

Answer 24

I don't know if this will help or not, but it sounds to me that he might have been trying to secretly record you in the shower as yon had intended to go first. As you were not ready your daughter went in first and so it put your husband in a difficult position. The very fact that he was acting weird and freaked out when she went into the Bathroom suggests to me it was you he was going to taped. I think that he was going to tape you secretly for whatever purpose but got caught out. Because you naturally confronted him straight away he had to think on his feet, and so came up with the fact that he was curious to cover his dirty intentions. That just a theory of my based on how you've explained it to me. Some guys like to do this type of thing for whatever reason without their partners consent. I suppose it adds to their sexual excitement. From your description of your relationship with your husband and the effort that he's made suggests he really hadn't intended to tape your daughter yet was too embarrassed to let you know it was you because you might have considered him a dirty freak, or something like that. I really hope that you can get through this and he comes clean about his sexual fantasy and you can go back to being a regular happy household and a family once more.

Answer 25

I'm way more concerned that you need to ask a bunch of strangers online what you should do than IMMEDIATELY calling the police and having this sick bastard put in jail. This won't end here. He's not upset because of what he did, he's upset that he got caught, and he's worried you're going to have a change of heart and call the police. You don't seem worried at all that he will do worse, or already has! if it were me, I'd call the police and have him put in jail. My mom had a boyfriend when I was a teenager that molested me.. just one time. with the shock of everything, she got him out of the house that night.. within a few months, he was back, and I was told I needed to forgive him because he was drunk and didn't remember it... and he moved back in, and I installed a lock on my bedroom door to protect myself when my mom decided that the boyfriend was more important. Don't be that mother. Don't be the one that's in denial about how crappy your husband is.. and what he is. Don't let your kid get molested then worry about getting him out of the house or if you still love him. Your child SHOULD be your top Priority, but I shouldn't have to tell you that. I'm sure you know what needs to be done.

Answer 26

I understand that you'd feel the way you feel but he made the appointment to see a specialist, he want's to make things right, so I don't think you can punish him for that, but I would also not allow them to be alone together. Personally I'd just see where this counselling takes him. It really might work, and if it doesn't then maybe they need to be separated for a while so that nothing happens again, even though it's not your daughter fault, or your husbands to be fair. He seems innocent and I'd believe him, but just to be on the safe side I would limit their contact.



Hope this helps.

Answer 27

If your daughter is under the age of 16 years old, this is an act of paedophilia. I am non-judgemental and it is clear that you love your husband very much, but you know what he has done is wrong. It is fair that he has arranged to go to counselling as this is not right, but imagine how your daughter would feel if she knew the truth, imagine what her father would be thinking. The most important thing is the safety of your children and this is what you need to think about, sometimes no matter how much you love someone, you can not excuse their actions. This must be very difficult for you, but if this was to happen to a friend what would you tell them to do?

Answer 28

It s disgusting that you are not going to the police station RIGHT NOW and putting charges on this sick pervert! This it your daughter and if you don t love her more than anyone, even your second husband there is something seriously wrong with you, this is PEDOPHILIA, woman! PEDOPHILIA! And how do you know this is the first time this pedophile spied on your own child? You can t and you don t. If your first husband finds out, you probably will lose custody of your kid with no hope of ever gaining it back. You are an evil, heartless monster if you let this kind of sexual abuse go on for one minute longer. And for your perverted husband? He s only sorry he got caught, not for what he did, so there!

Answer 29

I don't think I have had enough experience on this topic to really voice out a mere opinion, but what he did was kind of out of the line, there was one that he just crossed, I'm curious on a lot of things, but I never let it get the better of me since once I know I've crossed it, I can never uncross it and go back to the way things were, and he risked that. Personally, I don't think I'd be able to forgive him, then again, I don't have a husband, but I do have a boyfriend, and if he were to do that to anyone that I care about, not to mention my own daughter, no matter how much I love him, not only would I freak out, I'd break up with him and might even get him arrested if I'm mad enough.



That's just me, I'm pretty young so my lack of maturity might be a factor of my insight, so just ignore this if you don't see my view to be mellow enough.

Answer 30

Its really hard to not judge this and stay open minded. I don't know anything about being a parent because I'm only 18 myself but I just imagine that if that was my child I would do whatever it takes to protect them. She is not safe - love of your life or not that should never come before protecting your child. From my point of view if my mother ever kept this from me I would hate her. I would hate her even more for keeping this man in the same roof as me even if she had an idea that he could be a danger. I think its disgusting that you're even considering giving him another chance. DOES IT NOT BOTHER YOU THAT HE THINKS OF HER NAKED AND HAD EVERY INTENTION OF RECORDING HER. HE WOULD HAVE HAD THAT FOOTAGE IF YOU DIDN'T FIND OUT. HE WOULD HAVE HAD FOOTAGE OF YOUR 13 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER IN THE SHOWER. THAT IS ABSOLUTELY SICK AND DISGUSTING. YOU ARE IN NO POSITION OF LOOKING AFTER CHILDREN IF YOU STILL 'LOVE' THIS MAN AND ARE LETTING HIM STAY IN YOUR HOUSE. HOW WOULD YOUR EX FEEL - SOMEONE INTRUDED ON HIS DAUGHTERS PRIVACY. SEND HIM TO THE POLICE OR YOU DON'T KNOW HOW FAR HE MAY GO.

Answer 31

What your husband did is not acceptable it is despicable and not the behavior of a man who loves his wife. It is the action of a pedophile pervert. It is an invasion of you daughter's privacy, it is a treason to you, it is illegal, immoral, it is a sexual offense towards a minor. You as a mother have a responsibility towards your daughter. At the very least throw the bum out and consider making a report and if you still want to stay with him then you should not allow your daughter to move back and have her stay with her dad. And what do you think will happen if your daughter informs your ex? If you do not do anything you risk being charged with any number of offenses depending on where you live.

Answer 32

Look, I am a 50-year-old woman, and I am telling you to seek professional counseling yourself on this situation. If you want my opinion on what I would do, your husband would be out of the house, but since you are writing here, and soliciting advice on a teen board, I will at least try to get you to seek the counsel of people smarter than the average bear.



I know you are shocked and hurt and angry. But you need to also be terrified for your daughter. I have not read that you are terrified for the safety of your daughter. Her safety is what is most important here.



This man is the 2nd love of your life. Their father was certainly the first, your current husband the 2nd. Don t sell yourself short by thinking you will never fall in love again. Be the strong woman you want your daughter to be. Be the mother you want your daughter to be. Take care of your children first, BEFORE the man. That is the rule of life. Doing otherwise may result in a lifetime of regret for yourself and a fractured relationship with your daughter, not to mention the scars after what *might* happen.



Take care of your children first. You are their mother. It is your responsibility. You will fall in love again.

Answer 33

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Answer 34

Not a big deal. He had been w/ her since BIRTH! In fact he helped create her. You do NOT know what kind of family lifestyle they live! They may be completely "Normal". It's too bad that society has put restraints & moal righteousness above a fathers LOVE! What's the difference between that & the recording of a childs Birth!

Answer 35

Why are you trying to cover up the fact he is a perv?

Answer 36

Are you kidding me? You should be on the phone with the police or talking to your damn daughter. Why are you asking questions like this on yahoo?

Answer 37

Your a horrible women to even consider that sick bastard over your daughter...eventually he will try her..end it now before something happens that you'll regret for the rest your life you awful women you how dare u even second guess staying with that bastard

Answer 38

thats a little off but give him a chance

Answer 39

You did the right thing by confronting him. He is a sexual predator and is sorry he got caught. Tell him to move out and report him to the police. If you don't he will continue to bother your daughter and most likely be sneakier about it. I also suggest you get counseling yourself to get help in deciding on what to do.

Answer 40

Personally I would do something about it. Out of respect to your daughter I know I wouldnt want my stepfather or father recording me in the shower even if he was just curious it's disgusting and also child pornography. Just my opinion

Answer 41

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Answer 42

gotta get away from him....talk to the daughter....call the cops

Answer 43

no

Answer 44

You should go with him to that counseling appointment.

Answer 45

that's nasty. divorce him!

Answer 46

Ewww he is a creeper get him out of your house! That's your baby girl **** him that is sick I don't care he was recording your daughter I'd be beating his head with a bat that is siiiiiick he crossed the line on that he needs to be gone there are many more men out there not spying on kids in the shower barf tell him to go and call the cops remember your kids are always your kids and that guy u married isn't part of you get him out of there seriously

Answer 47

i wouldve kicked him out for doing that

Answer 48

This is disgusting and unforgiveable. You responsible first is as a MOTHER. Toss this loser out of your life NOW.

Answer 49

if you really love him give him one last chance to see the counselor but to make sure hes not making that up go with him to make sure you know he is acually getting help and i do agree i woudnt leave him at home with her alone either

Answer 50

I get that these people are saying " divorce him" . I get that it isnt that easy.You love him.

Its goo dyou are taking cautions but are you going to always be able to be around? Whos to say he hasnt done this many times and you only found out this once. Im sure he isnt just curios. He is probably using the video for his " alone times" This makes me sad. The fact that she does love him would hurt her more if he ever made comments or worse.



My mother married her first love. he built her a house. they had three daughters. he was the best husband you could ever ask for. My sister saw him one day touch a mentally challenged 18 year old girl who came over to play with our horses. My mother did research and found that he had been a preditor in the past. Confused she finally ended their marriage. The girls had visitation. He touched one of my sisters. He lost visitation but wasnt locked up because she was half awake and "must have been dreaming"

Years later he remarried to a woman with a 14 year old. He later on went to jail for molesting. He dodged jail many times because he knew what to say, They will not be upfront because it is such a wrong thing and are so embarrassed. Studies say there are many pedophiles out there..but only few will act apon it. thats why they are dangerous and hard to trust. because if they act then that means it was strong enough to break their morals.



You say she looks like an 18 year old, and maybe he was just being a creep. but HE KNOWS she isnt 18. HE KNOWS that is your daughter. HE KNOWS that is wrong. If it was just for an "18 year old body" there is pornography easily accessed. Most people dont film their 13 year old daughter in law. Thats why it sounds way more pedophile then anything. its good he is going to counseling...but its probably out of such embarrassment and fear of losing you. If you forgive him, it may work out...or he may not have learned and feel like he could just keep getting away with things . And you have to ask yourself , Is that chance worth it? Is it worth risking living with someone who could easily hurt your daughter? i have two daughters , one is a step daughter to my husband. She is 5 . but if she was 13.... and i caught him... i would make him leave . because i dont know that i could ever see him the same way after knowing he was probably getting off to my child. When he wasnt the loving father i thought he was. Its so difficult to see when you love someone and know your child loves them too. but it is unacceptable as a parent. or for anyone.

Answer 51

Maybe you can reconcile with him and maybe you can't, but he needs to get out of the house and away from your kid before you find out. Don't give him any opportunity to prey on her any more. Get him out of the house, and maybe then you can work with a counselor on rebuilding your trust.

Answer 52

You need to get him away from your daughter before she is sexually abused.

Answer 53

First of all, everyone makes mistakes.



He might actually be a good guy and might honestly feel guilty.



But he MIGHT also continue this. Say your daughter was aline at home with him and what if he raped her or something?? Because guys can get pretty horny. I mean I'm a 17 year old girl and I get EXTREMELY horny all the time.



In saying that, he might also change after the session with the counsellor though. Hopefully.



Good luck! And pray that the session helps him :) xo

Answer 54

Leave him

Answer 55

o, sure you will be fine, just pretend that it didn't happen, and just carry on as normal, just make sure that it doesn't happen again, and im sure you guys can work it out.

Answer 56

How hard is it to just imagine in your mind? If you give a single **** about your children at all you'll pick them over all else.

Answer 57

is it possible that your daughter filmed herself? she probably did it on his phone so he can have a "surprise" later when he found his phone.

Answer 58

creepy.

Answer 59

people make mistakes how ether how do you know or sure that wont happen again I mean if your going to live with someone you want to trust them right, how can you trust him after this. you have got to think what could happen one of these days and if he is safe for her to be around. im not expert but that is my personal thoughts yes people do deserve a second chance but you have to think about your child swell

Answer 60

I have a 15 year old daughter and if anyone ever made child pornography (which is what this is,) of her, that person would be behind bars; I would definitely not be married to this person!

Your husband is suppose to protect your daughter, not prey on her. I am sorry that you can't see the importance of protecting your daughter

Answer 61

I honestly cannot even believe you are asking this question.

He CONFESSED to being curious about seeing your 13 year old daughter naked which obviously means he has some type of sexual desires/thoughts towards her.



I would NEVER in a million years put my daughter in that type of situation just because "I love him, we're soul-mates and I want to make this family work".You are beyond selfish and I hope your ex-husband some how finds out, takes you to court and gets custody of your children. Anyone who even has to consider between choosing the safety of their child over the "love" they have for their husband, doesn't deserve them.

Answer 62

"My daughter is 13 but built like an 18 yr old." but she is 13 so that statement doesn't mean anything. He only felt bad after you brought it to his attention. If you hadn't caught him he probably wouldn't have said anything.



You should sit your children ( if you have more than her) down and ask them if anyone has ever touched them inappropriately, let them know that they won't be in trouble and that if someone is abusing them and threatened to hurt you that it was just a lie." Then you will see if it has ever gotten further than just video taping. But yeah if a grown man is taping a child take a shower, that is not a good sign.

Answer 63

Pedophile. Why are you on yahoo answers instead of phoning the police? If something happens to her like he rapes her or molests her,youre also gonna face charges cause you knew what he did. Youre an accesory right now. Youve become one of those women who stand by and watch.

Answer 64

I'm a 13 year old girl and it would make me very uncomfortable to be recorded naked especially if it was my dad! I know she wouldn't like it either so I think your husband just needs a break from seeing his daughter for a little bit. It's your choice if you want to tell your daughter she was recorded though so I don't know I'm sorry

Answer 65

I think as a mother you know what the answer is . If social services found out and he was still there , they would take all your children away as you have failed to protect them from predation .

People do not do these type of actions unless there is intent behind them , He us understandable upset, he has been caught and is a cm away from prison and being on a paedophile register.

ASK yourself , how can I love someone who has looked at a child with sexual intent. And if you do , then perhaps you are the one with issues .

Why have you not told you Ex ? because he would go ballistic ? And attack your husband ?

You need to walk away with dignity and your children safe and intact.

Answer 66

Im guessing she reminded him of you back when the two of you first hit it off. He knows and knew it was wrong but chose to go thru with filming anyway. I feel so badly for you and your daughter, this is a terrible betrayal. I want to advise you to break off the relationship but I know that is a lot easier coming from someone, anyone but you so will you take the next step and seek out some (free) professional help? Please do that as soon as possible- no waiting for your daughters sake. Talk to people online, research comparable situations, get answers. Stand your ground, do not, ever, allow your insecurities to outweigh your child's needs. Best of luck.

Answer 67

He is not your daughters father, and it seems to me no matter what you say he is a pervert, and a child molester he crossed the line and has no excuse and distraught at his self ! he was distraught cause he was caught, I hope your daughter has a decent dad and she tells him and he either kicks stepdad"s butt or goes to the court and asks for full custody of his children, and has him charged as well, and you need to see what your connection who you have been apart from 20 yrs was doing in that time, you have suspected him of something anyway, One thing I do know he would never be in my daughter presence again, you need to check the files on your computer to see what other child he has on there. he is one to let go of,and you may not like my answer but i could not take chance that he could do something like this to my child and what if you did not find that recording the thought that he is somewhere looking at my kid, sheer intentional lust and a true game changer and he would be on the curb waiting on the trash man to be dumped, he has done this before.

Answer 68

Hi! It must have broke your heart, to actually catch him out . But there is no knowing what he has done before? Sorry he is sick and sexually perverted. No amount of counseling will change him . Off course he is sorry and begs forgiveness. most people do when court out. He might be a nice man in every other way, but this is something not only concerns your trust in him but your daughters safety and wellbeing.

I would tell him to go if he does not threaten him with child welfare and indecent conduct with your daughter. Keep the mobile as evidence. Do not listen to his pleading he is not worth it. If possible try to keep this all in your family . You know what gossips are.

I wish you luck . I have five grown up children of my own.

Answer 69

Your husband is a child porn film/video maker and watcher. Face it. Your husband has sexual intent towards your daughter. Take your kids and leave. Do you have any idea how many children are raped by their own kin everyday. people that they love and trust. You are HER MOTHER. it is your god given right to protect your child from a predator like him. He is only upset because you caught him! How many other kids outside of your home is he doing this to? And you say he said he was curious?? Curious about what??? What would a grown *** man be curious about when it comes to a 13 year old childs body?? wake up and smell the coffee. please woman! protect your child.

Answer 70

That is seriously creepy behavior!! He did that without her consent, and she's a minor!! That is not okay!!! This might not be the first time he has done something like this, just the first time he was caught. You should protect your daughter by keeping him away from her. I'm so sorry this is happening to your family, this is such an awful situation but he should not be allowed around her.

Answer 71

That's never the right way for a father to behave. He has his chance to explore sexually, (having split up with you he's now released into the dating pool). He should ABSOLUTELY NEVER lust after his own daughter, especially not using a recording device. What if you hadn't caught him? What would he have done with the video? Would he send it out to people? Would he keep it to himself and beat off every night to it? What would eventually happen? Would it increase his sexual appetite and lust for his daughter? Dump his ***. Call the police. Have his *** thrown in jail. Even fi it wasn't his daughter, recording someone nude without their permission is a CRIME, let alone recording a MINOR (child porn), let alone HIS OWN DAUGHTER. Unquestionably wrong. What a scumbag.

Answer 72

This is disgusting. Your daughter should be sent to live with her real father. You are as bad as her step dad because you are actually condoning it in a way. If you loved your daughter you would have kicked his *** straight out of the house. If, God forbid, something happens to your daughter you only have yourself to blame as you already know the risks. In my opinion you are not a fit mother and he definitely should never be around your daughter. Stop thinking about yourself and the so called love you have for this pervert and start thinking about your 13 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER.

Answer 73

Your daughter is not HIS daughter. His thoughts towards her are not those of a father, they are those of a man for a woman, only in this case the "woman" is not yet legally a woman, but is still a child That makes him a paedophile. If she had been over 16 this would have been a nasty incident but not a crime.



I tend to read "real life" magazines. And I have read of cases of men marrying women with the sole motive of sexually abusing their children. Because this man is not your daughter's biological father he is clearly having issues with "categorising" her as sexually unavailable. But far from controlling his urges he committed a horrible breach of trust and care which he probably would have repeated had you not caught him. How do you know this is the first time he did it? It may only be the first time he got caught. If your ex husband's new wife had filmed your son in the shower what would have been your reaction? You'd want her out of their lives. If your ex finds out will he seek full custody of your kids? This man has to go if you want to keep your kids, their trust, and your own self respect. Paedophiles may receive counselling but the basic urge towards children can't be completely eliminated.

Answer 74

Okay, So first of all whether he just happened to be aroused there is no way on earth he should be recording his daughter in the shower? imagine if your dad recorded you in the shower? Its no way for a father to act. He shouldn't be seeing a counsellor about this. He should be talking to social services and being imprisoned for paedophilic behaviour. Have you asked your daughter about this? Maybe you should ask her how she feels and see what she wants to doo about this situation.

Answer 75

There is nothing to wonder about. This is a grown man, what he did was child Pornography. As the child's mother, you should be looking out for the child. Your response to this situation speaks volumes, and I am very concerned for the child,. Child Services should be called on the both of you. I hope the daughter told her father Shame on YOU.

Answer 76

Sorry, but it is one thing to think about someone but it is entirely different to act upon those feelings. Sure being curious is normal, sure sometimes we have attractions to people we shouldn't, but as I said, when you act upon those types of attractions is when it becomes a serious problem. My trust in him would be totally broken. I would not feel comfortable having my children around him at all and would probably take immediate measures to make sure they are safe until I know exactly how far he would actually go and the extent of his mental stability.

Answer 77

A lot of things are overlooked in a family. You might have to overlook this, too.

Answer 78

This happened to me but within my whole family. My mom let things happen to me from family members because she "trusted" them not to make the mistake. Bull ****, I am now 21, and at least attempted suicide, I don't know maybe once every year.

Answer 79

Well if he wanted to look at naked girls, he could have looked on the internet. Instead, he chose to creep on your underage daughter. That's a red flag, dear. It will probably eat away at you to see them interacting and that may strain your relationship with your daughter. I realize you love him, but your children are the true loves of your life. They are the priority. So do what's best for you and your children; get away.



I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 80

OMG!! You are married to a pedo woman!! Kick him the **** outta there before CPS grabs your daughter! Seriously, how can you be confused? Kick the trash to the curb! That is about the sickest most depraved thing I have ever heard. If someone had done that to my 13 year old daughter they would be lucky to still have a pulse!! WTF is wrong with you?

Answer 81

I'm sorry but your husband is horny retarded mentally handicapped unbelievable how stupid he is to record his daughter while showering for just ( curiosity)) !! What a shame on him !!!

Answer 82

Busted, he got caught. He's a man and this was totally wrong. You want to keep your eyes on him and his hidden/recording phone. Bad boy!

Answer 83

You choose a child molester for a husband and should report him to the police before he hurts your daughter!

Answer 84

Your precious child needs to be protected from him... and if you don't get him out of your house NOW, from you.



Just what do you think your daughter's father will do WHEN (not if) he finds out what that SOB did?

Answer 85

your husband is very sick man, i am sorry.

Answer 86

He is a perve and clearly likes "18" looking girls, even if shes 13 ...(built like 18) . He lied to you about missing his phone that he plant perfectly to record.



This could have easliy lead to rape honey or molestation. Can u imagine how many times he has undressed her in his mind before this everytime he sees her?! Gross! You need to get over the fear of being alone and kick his *** out. Is your self esteem that low? your kids deserve a better mom and you deserve a better more mature man... Ugh stupid.

Answer 87

Report your husband to the police. Your daughter's safety is more important than protecting him.



At the very least he needs to move out when she visits. If you let him be around her, then you are an accessory to his crimes.

Answer 88

One day he is gonna get caught up in the mix, and when he does he will chained and hit prison. People in prison DO NOT play with pedophiles and they will make it a living hell in there for him.

Answer 89

He attempted to record child pornagraphy....do you really need an answer to this?

Answer 90

Call the D.C.F.S. and he will be arrested for child endangerment or child exploitation !!!

Answer 91

Call the police and file charges....... end of story!

Answer 92

if you keep him at home he might elevate to the next step. Get your daughter out of their. This isn't normal. Counseling won't do anything. If he is in fact a pedophile, he will offend again.

Answer 93

Uh oh, sex offender alert. Call the police!

Answer 94

He's was making child porn..........Vary dangerous man!

Answer 95

I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU ARE HERE LOOKING FOR ANSWERS RATHER THAN GOING TO THE POLICE! HOW MANY TIMES HAVE YOU THE STORY WHERE MOTHERS LOOK THE OTHER WAY WHILE THEIR HUSBAND MOLEST THEIR DAUGHTERS. ARE YOU AFRAID OF BEING WITHOUT HIM? OBVIOUSLY YOU ARE.

THE MAN IS A FREAKING PERVERT. STOP THINKING ABOUT YOURSELF.. YOU MAKE ME SICK LADY!!

Answer 96

hello there, good gracious me this is not good what on earth did you see in this man - taking pictures of your daughter in the shower this is abuse he is only going in to a panic because he got found out get rid of this pervert before he does some real damage to your daughter - your child,s life is worth more and you will be better off with out him he needs Help and don,t say that he will change because it,s just a word nothing else.

Answer 97

VERY IMPORTANT: What IF you're husband didn't actually mean to record her in the shower. What if he meant to record YOU. You clearly stated that you and your daughter were deciding who would shower first. What if he didn't mean to record her. Did you ask him about it??

Answer 98

Your guy is a pedo. Get a restraining order now.

Answer 99

My question is, why on earth would he do that. It makes no sense at all.





You guys all would have to see a consular for help.

Answer 100

He is a pervert and I would press charges against him. He knows what he did his wrong.

I cannot believe you as a mother are taking this so calming and he is still in your home!!!!

This is all so wrong. This is your little girl and she should come first.

Open your eyes to what is going on!!!

Answer 101

you need to speak with him

Answer 102

Lady, you are in denial. Your new husband is a scumbag. Your ex-husband should pay him a visit and accidentally run him over with a truck, backs it up and runs it over on him again.

Answer 103

Rude

Answer 104

You need to separate from him immediately, and divorce him. He needs to move out asap, or you need to. If I was your ex-husband, and I found out that you had not immediately separated from this new husband of yours, I would insist on full custody of my children. I would certainly never let you see your children again until you had separated from this new husband for good.

Answer 105

WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU!!!!!



If that happened to my daughter I would call the police, and you still should call them. He is a child predator, OPEN YOUR EYES. You caught him this time, HOW MANY TIMES HAS THIS HAPPENED???? Please protect your daughter, put her first. Do you really want a man who would exploit your child. Also, file for divorce, why share your body and life with scum.

Answer 106

I don't think he loves you any more, he wanted to see your own daughter naked, and you are still trying to work things out? what you gonna do, wait until he rape her, or worst she tells you he is being harassing her, and you never believe her and start feeling jealous toward your own daughter .. I am sorry this happened to you, I am really sorry, but this guy is not to be trusted!



and your daughter is 13!!!!!

Answer 107

Your daughter has to come first, and he knew exactly what he was doing. Curiosity, or not, his behavior is that of a teenage boy , and he isn't. If he was willing to record a child of yours, naked, it wasn't because he likes baby pictures. He planned to use this for his own satisfaction or possibly to share with his friends. That makes him someone you will never be able to trust, and that is NOT what a happy marriage is about.

Answer 108

What do you mean "you don't know what to do"? Are you serious? This man as caught spying on your daughter! Leave that man! That is what you should do! Do not put him before your daughter.

Answer 109

I'm sorry but your husband is a pedo and needs to be locked up ASAP. Inform child's services/ the police

Answer 110

He is a pervert and you would never know if he does this again or not. Maybe he does the worse to her. Keep your daughter away from him if you even can't leave him and don't let her stay alone with him. If anything happens, you can't forgive yourself and she won't too as she trusted you as an adult who suppose to take care of her.

Answer 111

No normal man is "curious" about a 13 year old girl. He can make up all the excuses he wants to but the bottom line is you are living with someone who s turned on by underage girls and has gone so far as to record her naked. Naked, your little girl was naked and this guy took pictures of it. You can t keep him in the house because this will not stop. Stop deluding yourself, he isn t worth it.

Answer 112

It was confusing when you wrote it, but this isn't his daughter, he is your "new" husband, If this is correct, the guy will try to get into your daughters pants, probably threaten her if she tells, he will beat the **** out of her, or promise her a "gift" of some sort, meanwhile, he will be ******* you and your daughter. I would get out before you end up having a daughter that will end up living like a homeless bum because of being raised around a loser (your soon to be ex.)



Maybe it is shocking, sometimes the heart can't keep up with the brain.

But seriously boot this guy off the pedestal you made for him, because the man you created in your mind isn't true. The man standing in front of you is a child molester and one way or another he will get to your daughter unless you both RUN!

Answer 113

Take it from someone who has been that 13 year old. My mom put herself first. She stayed with the guy and I got raped repeatedly. If you don't protect her and put her first, then you shouldn't have her in your life. Kids are put here for us to protect. Doesn't sound like you are trying to protect her, sounds like you want justification for staying with a pedophile. Ill hate my mom for the rest of my life and I am 40.

Answer 114

I understand why you feel confused about this. But your confusion is just as wrong.

This needs to be CLEAR.

This is not about you and your high school "sweetheart".

I am hurt as a young woman to read that a mother would even need a second opinion.

I have dear loved friends who have SUFFERED beyond words from step fathers ABUSE (yes, filming a 13 in the shower naked is ABUSE) and are struggling with the pain and hate they feel for not only their abuser but their bystanding mother who did not defend the honor and beauty of their daughter.



I am a gentle being.

But **** with my daughter, you are lucky to be gone fully intact.



That is what a mother is.

Protect your child.

She is a child.

A CHILD.



This is not about you and a sick connection you have to a pedophile.



You both need counseling.



As harsh as I may sound, I am actually saying this with love.



Healthy love can be assertive when it needs to be.

Answer 115

your husband the perv could face some serious consequences for what he did. why do u even love him he doesn't respect women or their privacy. was he trying to record you cuz i guess that's a little understandable but if he was trying to record your daughter thats really disgusting and shame on him and he needs to seek mental help. i feel really sorry for you and your daughter. i still however dont understand this story. if he was trying to record you, i guess it's ok an its up to you to forgive him but the daughter tho thats just nasty.

Answer 116

It is simple. Return the child to her father if he is available and willing to be a real father. Then you continue to enjoy with the love of your life a "suspect paedophile" you will also have nothing to worry about because your 13 year old is safe.



It is a shame you even have second thought of what to do next.

Answer 117

It's a no brainer! He has perverted intentions and should not be trusted. For god sakes it was his own flesh and blood and it didnt stop him from doing it.? Get the hell out and find a real man. One with morals and a brain. I have my own kids and i would give my life for them for there well being and security. Do the right thing and get away from him. If not for you then for your daughter. I hope you see this as an early wake up call and do the right thing. God be with you!

Answer 118

That's a big red flag considering her age and physical development. You better make sure that he seeks professional help even though he said he already did. You need to go with him and both of you need counseling. It may be that you might have to choose between he and your daughter, so you better get prepared.

Answer 119

Please put your child first. Your husband might have done more but only got caught this time. Your daughter should be your TOP PRIORITY. If you don't do something about this now, you may loose your child if your husband tries something else. You don't want her scarred for life. He needs to go.

Answer 120

Your new husband is messed up!!! You should leave him.

Answer 121

its one of those situations where you basically have to choose between your daughter or your husband????? your daughter comes first and what your husband has done is against the law and he is a phedophile. if you stay with him do not be shocked if he ends up raping your daughter. leave him now and do not let your daughter anywhere near him call the police.

Answer 122

He suffers from a chemical imbalace. The only known cure is rapid and repeated lead infusion to the brain stem.

Answer 123

Wow , this is Bad. Good thing you caught it before it got out of hand.

Answer 124

Kick him to the Kerb....

Children are to be cherished , I would seriously castrate any person man , woman or child that done that to my baby girl ... Love of your life or not ..... Your daughters safety & innocence should be your number 1 priority !!!!!!!!

Answer 125

Lowlife scumbag - get rid of him or regret it for the rest of your entire life. What kind of Mother ARE you. Do your parental job and stop asking questions on Yahoo. Have some common goddamn sense.

Answer 126

I would call the cops and divorce this man. He is a pervert.

Answer 127

someone was horny

Answer 128

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Answer 129

take a strict action

Answer 130

He is sorry that he got caught. You need to get a handle on this before he acts out on his fantasy and molests her. This is not good...

Answer 131

you need to leave him.he doing wrong.and he didn't doing mistakely he did it wishly.may it's his hobby.

Answer 132

You need to report him to the police or find someone else to beat him silly.

Your children are your first, second and last priority. Focus on them and quit worrying about your happiness. That's what a good parent does.

Answer 133

1- Protect your girl ,make sure she is ok

2- Call the police

Answer 134

Go to the police and see if they think a crime has been committed.............i cant make any more comment on this because i would get blocked on Y/A.

Answer 135

PERFECT reason why you should put your love relationships on back burner if you have kids until they're 18.



I wouldn't be in this situation, but if I was, he would have been gone that night. Curious? Bull$h1t. And you believe him.

Answer 136

That is just a textbook case of a creep. GET RID OF HIM. That is pure incest. If I were you, I would get rid of him. Just run for your life.

Answer 137

Next time he may rape her, so make sure never to leave him alone with her.

Answer 138

he crossed the line plane and simple, theres some things that are forgivable and sme that are not this is something you'll have to work out together

Answer 139

this is a felony in the eyes of the law dont forget that,he would have to go under the sex offender list, therefor you are living with a sex offender, KIDS FIRST men are replaceable your kids are not, i would never never be able to trust a person if they did that, nor leave your kids home with him, a relationship is built of trust, and who knows what else has he done in the past? who could be selling these videos perverts will pay alot of money to see videos of children

Answer 140

I'm going to keep this short and simple: LEAVE HIM!

Answer 141

Who does that i mean if your husband is recording your daughter in the shower that inprovit

Answer 142

i know its hard but the reality is he's probably only sorry he got caught. you cant stay with a man who has done that its not safe for your daughter. he could go to jail for what he's done. you have to think of whats best for your daughter shes the victim in all of this

Answer 143

Report him

Answer 144

I understand that he's curious but that's like silent rape!! DIVORIVE HIM!! Don't put your daughter through that!!!

Answer 145

Stand up

Answer 146

this is a very serious matter. there shouldn't even be a question about what to do. your daughter's safety and wellbeing comes first. call the cops or child's services.

Answer 147

He sounds distraught at being discovered.

He will be even more distraught if your daughter reports the crime,

which is what it was

Answer 148

This is NOT a good idea because it would make both of them mad-one is a pervert (your husband) and your daughter needs help if you two would agree with this

Answer 149

that is just weird.

Answer 150

if i was her real dad and i found out well he would be dead...... just sayin

Answer 151

Wathing her is wrong, recording her is VERY wrong.

Answer 152

that's gross

Answer 153

You need to report it to the police. If he does it once, he will do it again and possibly escalate to more such as molesting her. Her life will be ruined. You need to protect your daughter from possible horrible memories or worse. Report him now...do not wait! He is sick. Don't try to fool yourself or make excuses for him. Protect your daughter.

Answer 154

You do not know what to do ? YES you do and do it soon...the guy is a pervert..and is a danger to YOUR Daughter ( she is not his )........there is NO EXCUSE for his actions absolutely None...



and if you keep him around after that...YOU get what you asked for..and sadly it will be at your daughters expense....ask yourself if he is worth Her innocence and life?!!