Ernie Baker
2011-05-07 20:08:35 UTC
I am about to turn 29 years old and have been forced to move back in with my parents because I lost my job. I have been living with them for about 4 months now, and I FINALLY got a new job that doesn't start until June, but I am happy none the less I can move out and do this (it's a travel job, hence why I can move out). I have a degree and have had plenty of successes, but my Mom is a total bytch to me and it boggles my mind. I will give you a crucial example:
On the eve of my 29th birthday, I came in the kitchen to ask her what time I should be up in the morning because she is inviting family over to celebrate my birthday and Mother's day together, since they fall on the same day.
She was putting dishes away and rudely snapped: "I don't really care WHEN you get up. WE will eat breakfast around 10am. You can sleep in if you want, or join us."
"Why would you say that to me knowing this is my birthday?" I asked, very hurt at this point. But she did not listen. Instead she told me she was in a crabby mood and that she didn't want to talk about it. Regardless of her ******* crabby mood, she had no right to talk to me like that, especially when this was an important day coming up.
To add insult to injury, she told me she had already baked my cake and that she got German Chocolate frosting. I said "Oh thanks, I'm glad you know it's my favorite." She snapped "NO I don't know if it's your favorite, but it's what I made." Wow what a bytch! I was complimenting her for doing something nice, and she just yelled at me.
Now to add extra info in case you need it, my aloof father just had mild surgery on his ear for skin cancer and had to have part of his ear removed. I know its a sensitive subject, but this could be hindering her kindness. But even before this incident happened (which was about three days ago), she was snapping at me. I also have a younger brother who is mid 20s living at home, and she does not treat him nearly as hostile.
Why is she doing this to me? I know this sounds shallow and weird, but do not judge me for living at home- I lost my job and had no choice. Now I have a new one and will be out soon. But she has done nothing but said cruel things to me and she does not realize it not only hurts me, it is pushing me away. I fear that when I do leave, I will tell her flat out "Do not call me. Do not write. I want nothing to do with you until you take responsibility for your awful treatment of me."
Thoughts on this? (And Please do not come at me saying I'm selfish, I'm wrong, I'm being inconsiderate to her feelings. I am not! I do nothing but go out of my way to be nice and thoughtful to her. She always is snapping at me).