My father seems to have lust for me help?

Question

My father has a very hideouse past of pervertedness,rape and even child molestation. I just reunited with my father about 1 year ago after 10 years i didn't know a thing about him. He was trying to hugg me too close pulling my body to his and rubbing the small of my back and my waist, and he tried to kiss me on the lips, twice I am 27 years old i am not a little girl i felt like he violated me and it made me uncomfortable, i sat down with him and his wife and i told him that i didnt feel right hugging him like i would hug my boyfriend or my lover because that is how he hugged me and it hurt me that he wanted to kiss me on my mouth,after the talk he got mad and told me he would never hug me again, he told me he didn't want to hug me anymore period. he started to mistreat me, he called me an ungreatful b$#^*( and one thing led to another and i called him a perverted MF r. I think that i was wrong but i got tired of him degrading me and started fighting back for myself. I would tell what other evil things he did to me but that would make the story longer. and it is too hurtful,I feel like i don't ever want to see him again, i don't even want to call him DAD, I pity the day that i met him. I was adopted because he wasn't a real man or father that he was suppose to be and he denied me. He disrespected me and I disrespected him back. Am I wrong for having a grudge against my father i don't like him and he don't like me, I do want to forgive him but it's gonna take some TIME.,

Answer 1

He was a jerk. You should stay away from him. People like that usually don't change. No, you are not wrong for having a grudge against him. What he did was inappropriate.

Answer 2

Your father was probably abused as a child, as he is trying to continue the cycle of abuse of his family history, Your father is trying to sexually abuse you, that is if he didn't already, and your 27 so your a big girl now, and can make your own decisions so you should probably go into therapy, because if anything ever happened to you as a child from him; you'll be scarred for life, You should cut your connections from him until he gets HELP.

Its not normal to try and kiss your 27 year old girl! That's just creeeeeeppyyy!

What the hell does his wife feel about THAT? She should BE the one putting him into therapy, and you should take an action NOW, you never know what will happen in the future that maybe even you'll end up in the news like other abused People. So as I said, do something NOW, before its too late.. And Maybe you'll forgive him.

Answer 3

No you are not wrong. As a matter of fact people who allow other people in their lives when they know about such injustices they have done to others, such as rape and child molestation are telling the predators that it is OK for them to do these things. You can not forgive for these actions. The doubt of weather or not they will do it again is always going to be in your mind. You will always feel unsafe and at some point they will let you down. Keep him out of your life and out of your families life. Protect the people you love from monsters like him.

People will say there are monsters like him all over and how can you protect yourself from them all. Well you start with the ones you know for a fact are a danger to you and yours.

He never did anything for you. Keep it that way.

Answer 4

I don't believe that you are in the wrong at all. I am glad you said something. Do you know many women at the age of 27 or older do not use their voice to speak up when something is wrong..when they need to defend themselves. ..so good for you! I think you should cut ties. Sweetheart..he is not your father..ya know? He didn't accept that honor..and thank God for your sake he didn't and that he was not in your life. You may have always felt bad that your "father" wasn't in your life..but you see it was God's way of protecting you. Please do not let this man..nor anyone who can poison your life..in to be a part of your life..please. Holding a grudge will only poison your soul. You will go through phases of different feelings..but in the end...let it go..do not hold on to it...it will only hurt you. You don't deserve to have any joy or blessing stolen from you because of this sick & disturbed individual.



I'm truely sorry that you had to go through what you did.

Answer 5

OMFG. girl stay as far away from him as possible. He sounds dangerous.

Answer 6

sad