Most disappointing Father's Day ever?

Question

My wife works on Sunday nights in the Emergency Room of a local hospital. As such, she was asleep until about 1 o'clock yesterday. As usual, I got up to care for our four year old daughter around 9am. To save money, we agreed (her idea, and I thought it was a good one) not to buy presents for Mother's or Father's Day, though I did cook her quiche and served it to her in bed on Mother's Day.

The dinner we had planned took a lot of preparation, so I worked on the necessary prep until about 12:30. My wife gets up around 1:00 and I like to make her breakfast, so I got to work on that. Wife gets up and we all eat breakfast and my wife plops down into the recliner.

Around 2:30, I drop the Father's Day hint and my wife looks aghast. We had hosted her family to celebrate her father's Father's Day and our niece's birthday the day before and she apparently forgot in the ensuing chaos that I was kind of left out. Regardless, I would have liked something other than an awkward and emarassed, "Ummm...happy Father's Day?"

So, she went to work. I got our daughter bathed and in bed. After a while, I went to bed and was awoken this morning by my wife yelling at me because the back door was unlocked. We have a kid and she's in and out playing with her friends...sometimes a door gets unlocked.

Anyway...I guess I just felt the need to vent. Am I expecting too much?

Answer 1

I tend to agree. We had my father's day on Saturday due to my wife's high school reunion (I'm a year older, same school, so know most of the people). Anyway, a few minutes of opening gifts, then my brother and his wife show up so we eat and are done.



Actual father's day I think my oldest (20) said "Happy Father's Day" in the morning - but nothing else the rest of the day - except to get told to help with the dishes. Wife and 4 kids (age 11-20) had no positive mention of Father's day on Sunday. Multiple "reminders" of how on Mother's day my wife/mother/sister had to do the cooking. No mention that I spent mothers day sanding 15 pieces of lawn furniture so that they could then be painted. Anyway, kinda bummed today as well. I guess time will heal all wounds.

Answer 2

What was she not thinking? You guys made the plans for her father's Father's day and the birthday, how could she forget her own husband?? Well, the only thing I can come up with here, is to say if she works in the ER, she is probably under more stress than many of us. And so she forgets to tell you Happy Father's day and yells about the back door instead.



I think she needs to make it up to you somehow, in any way she can....let's hope she does.



A belated HAPPY FATHER'S DAY TO YOU!!!!!

Answer 3

no youre not expecting too much. You are right, though. It sounds like your wife was busy with work and hosting dinner for her family and didnt consider the most important father in her life: the father of her baby! Wait until she's calm and not running around like a crazy lady and tell her how you feel. Tell her that you are sad and that you feel left out. Ask her if this weekend, or something, you can have a belated fathers day with her and your little one doing something fun as a family. Im sure she will be happy to take a break from daily stress to oblige!

Answer 4

You are definitely not expecting too much. I'm sorry you had such a rotten day.

You need to explain to your wife that your feelings were hurt. Surely she could have done something for you. Don't make a big issue, but explain that you are proud to be a father and would have liked to have been wished a happy father's day.

Answer 5

Sounds like it's a little hectic by your house. With your wife working and a young child I guess it's hard to find the time for you two to be umm, "intimate". I don't think you expect too much. It's certainly nice to be appreciated, you certainly do your share of the work. I know I've felt like I'm way down the list of priorities when it comes to needs, but we sacrifice for our families because that's what Dad's do.

Belated Happy Father's Day from one dad to another.

Answer 6

i think sometimes life gets in the way and im sorry had a bad one but she isn't your kid isn't the gift meant to come from the child? she 4 now right that's she can understand that she should pick u some flowers or do u a nice drawing at that age. you wife is just busy and tired cut her some slack. im not saying you shouldn't of got anything nice from your wife but im sure she feels bad, really tho its your kid that's meant to do it.i

Answer 7

a good "happy father's day" and a kiss and hug would have been great but i dont know how you guys are really like.

Answer 8

no I think she should have done SOMETHING special, even if it didnt cost anything...