Does my mom hate me?

Question

I think my mom really hates me. Everytime i make plans with my friends she says no that i cant go. I also thinks she favors my sister cuz everytime she does something wrong i get in trouble for it. She also says im her biggest dissapointment. What should i do??

Answer 1

I can't fathom a parent ever hating his/her child. And for her to say you are her biggest disappointment is wrong. Granted there maybe issues that need to be resolved in the family, but a parent should never make a child feel less then the gift they are to each parent God blesses with one.

Answer 2

You used the term "everytime" twice. I wonder....does this really and truly happen EVERY single time? Perhaps she said the last comment once after a horrible, frustrating day when you were not on your best behavior? I'm not putting you down, hon, but you must take an honest look at how you are evaluating this issue. Is there a big difference between your behavior/age and your sister? that should be a factor. If you feel she hates you, it's likely that you might behave angrily and that creates a cycle of where you and your mom continue to grind the axe with each other. If none of this is accurate, then try to get the truth from mom. Ask her when you are NOT angry, when she is NOT busy, and tell her how you feel without becoming emotional. You might find the answer to your question. You do need to know. You are a child who deserves to be loved.

Answer 3

Confront Her Every single time she tries to oppress you. Tell her what the *** Her problem is with you, make things very clear with your mother, and she should give you a clear answer. and if it turns out that she does really hate you. Then Dont Speak To that Person because shell only make ur confidence go down.. Dont Let Nobody Bring U down even if its ur own mother, Just Keep Ur Head Up And keep Doing What U think Is Right even if ur mom makes u feel like sht, *** That, Take It From Me live ur life and forget the Bull Sht. And Always Do Whats right That Way Ull Be on Top Of Everything be an example to ur mother and show her how to be a good person and maybe then she'll stop antagonizing you

Answer 4

well, first off if a mother would hate a child, i think that the mother is seriously messed up. She brought you into this world and should love you like you were a goddess. No mother in a right mind should ever use "biggest disappointment" with children. She has no right to say that. I really think that she's overprotective. my mom's the same way, and you just need to earn your mothers trust and stay out of trouble (if there ever is any)..... i'm sure sometimes between sisters there is stuff that can go on that the other person gets blamed for. but you just gotta let it roll off your shoulder because you don't wanna let that stuff get you down. just work your hardest to please your mother. do what she asks you to, stay out of trouble. and like everyone says "communication is the key" i think it would be best for you to go and talk about this with your mother, and see how she feels about the situation,, you never know how its gonna turn out.

Answer 5

I don't think your mother really hates you. But if you get in trouble for you sisters mistakes and is also call the biggest disappointment, than you need to get out of there and get you some help. Maybe go talk to an aunt/uncle, a grandparent, family member or someone you trust.

Answer 6

I don't know what is going on at your house.

I don't know your sister and if your sister is doing things that she should not be and hurting your mom, then chancess are your mom feels that you also are going to go down the same path.

Why would your mom say you are her biggest disappointment? What's up with that. Did you do something to make her say that? Did she say that in a moment of anger?

I don't live with you. So I have no clue what is going on at your home. But sometimes parents get hurt by their kids and get disrespected and frankly it hurts. If one kid is screwing up and doing bad things then Parents think I'm not going through this twice. Sometimes you have to see what all your mom is going through and you may have to tell your sister to get it together because she is making your life miserable.

Answer 7

You mom does NOT hate you! She only says your her biggest disappointment because she wants you to try harder. Also you probably can't go out with your friends because you've got homework or chores or something. A treat for your mom would probably be to give her a nice present such as some chocolates, or some bubble bath. And maybe a big hug too!

Answer 8

I am not sure how old you are but when you are a teen ager we are always a disappointment to our parents. I don't think she means anything by it. It's more like she has taught you or rather brought you up better than what you are acting sometimes.



As far as getting blamed for things that your sister does. It's a sibling thing. No matter the age, one always gets blamed for the what the other thing does.



Hope this helps. If you still aren't sure, go talk to someone about it.

Answer 9

Your mom LOVES you! The oldest ALWAYS gets the blames for everything, that's just way things are. She is speaking out of anger- she doesn't mean that you her biggest disappointment. You NEED to talk to her and tell her how awful she makes you feel.



I hope you find room in your heart to forgive her. Be in the bigger person, and walk away from her when she is saying hurtful things. Things will get better!

Answer 10

I don't think she hates you but it sounds like she definitely likes your sister more. I wouldn't do anything in terms of revenge or else it would give your mom more ammunition against you. Just ignore her when she puts you down. If you feel like you can't take her attitude, the best thing to do would be to just talk to her and tell her what's on your mind. That way, she'll know exactly how you feel and won't throw it back in your face 20 years later by saying "Why didn't you tell me how you felt? How was I supposed to know?" and all that crazy crap.

Answer 11

I don't think that she really MEANS you are her biggest dissapointment. MAybe your mom is really stressed out and frustrated and has trouble expressing her feelings in a healthier way, when in fact all she probably wants is to encourage you to do better.

Answer 12

If you mom hated you, she wouldn't feed you or take care of you.



I think she's concerned about your safety, not because she wants you to be out of your friends. It's not that she trusts you, it's because she doesn't trust others.



I think you're mom's just exaggerating about the "dissapointment" statement. Your mom loves you and she's just concerned about you and just wants you to know what to do when things turn upside-down. I don't think that means that she absolutely hates you.



Just talk to your mom and ask her. Just explain everything. I bet your mom will understand your feelings and maybe consider some things as long as your responsible and trustworthy enough. :)

Answer 13

she doesn't hate you.

she`s probably worried about you going out with friends and no adult.



also is ur sister younger? all adults blame you if a younger sibling does something wrong. they think ur responsible for what they do. but next time just tell her it wasn't ur fault and you had nothing to do with it.



and she doesn't mean it that way or seriously when she calls u her biggest dissapointment. it's just one of their parent languages.



say ilove you to ur mom and see if she says that back to you. i`m sure she doesn't hate you.

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Answer 14

I would like to say there aren't parents who are maladjusted adults, but it wouldn't be true, hopefully your mom is just moody. Try convincing her with kindness that she is wrong about you. Be responsible, get home on time, do chores around the house without being asked, offer to help when she is doing something, finish your homework if you are in school, be respectful and polite. I bet she will come around.

Answer 15

No, she doesn't hate you!!! No mum can hate her own child. She might like you a little less than your sister, but that doesn't mean she hates you. I reall, really think you should go and talk to her. Tell her quietly how you feel. Ask her if she hates you. Then she'll explain everything, and all will be fine.

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Answer 16

Do you have good grades? do you behave in school? do you have good friends? I think you need to ask yourself that before judging your mother, your mother will always have the best interest. Try to analize your life and put yourself in your mother's shoes for once so you can understand her better. Ask her why you dissapoint her, and also tell her that it hurts you when she tells you that, and that you want to make her feel proud of you. Good luck!

Answer 17

I'm really sorry your mother acts that way towards you and you need to talk to her about your feelings, maybe she doesn't realize that she is doing that and i'm sure she loves you but has some issues she needs to deal with. TALK TO HER!! It's the only way to resolve your problems with her otherwise, there will be alot of bitterness and unresolved issues as you grow up.

Answer 18

Since we don't know all the circumstances around your situation, I would suggest trying to have a serious conversation with your Mom. Is your other parent around to talk to him? Parental guidance is huge with your future, so if you truly feel that badly about it, maybe you should seek another relative to live with.

Answer 19

Her telling you that you're 'her biggest disappointment' isn't appropriate, and skirts the realm of verbal abuse. However, before you assume that she hates you, consider the company you keep. She may fear that you're associating with an unsavory crowd, and her stopping you would be the result.



Cheers

Answer 20

i always felt like that with my mom and than i told her how i felt and how neglected i felt and how she always blamed me. she got so sad that i thought she hated me and how i felt and i started to understand that she does her best with all of us..maybe you just focus on the negativess..try talking to her...or if it just gets really bad tahn you may want to consider conseling.

but im srue she does not hate you.

Answer 21

Be sweet, good and show her who you are. There has to be more to the story than just this.....there are always 2 sides to every story.

Answer 22

oh finally.

another one exactly like mum.



i don't know about yours,

but my mum has seriously thought about giving me away.

shes says shes an idiot for bringing me up.

Answer 23

it sounds like (no offense) that you guys might need to go to counseling or somthing.. your mom really has no right to say that at all.

Answer 24

Your mom has issues if she is telling you that you are her biggest disappointment.



Find somewhere else to live. Don't run away but get away from her.

Answer 25

she is your mom . not your mother in law...

no mom can ever hate her kid.. she might just not be to confident in your action.. have you done anything to lose her trust?

Answer 26

no parent will eve hate their own child, ever

Answer 27

Of course she doesn't hate you.

Answer 28

I don't think you're telling the whole story ....

Answer 29

maybe you have got crappy friends!!!