No happy mother's day?

Question

I have been with my Live-in Boyfriend for almost 2yrs, I also have a 4yr old daughter.
On Mother's day, my boyfriend did not even acknowledge to me that it was mother's day, and when I told him that he didnt even tell me Happy Mother's day, he told me that I was not his mother....
I did not want a present, or a card or anything...just a "Happy mother's day" would have been greatly appreciated.
Am I wrong?
Even if I am not his mother, I am still a mother.

Answer 1

I know how you are feeling. My boyfriend moved in last August. We have been together for two years and got engaged on Valentines day. My children are 15 and 13 and I also got nothing for Mother's day.



I told my fiance that he has a obligation as the man who wants to spend the rest of his life with me to drive the kids to the store at least so they can buy a card. No, I'm not his mother, but he is supposed to love me and wish for my happiness. I even got a gift for his son to give to his ex-wife. (his son is only 6) I agree, you are a mother and the woman he loves. I don't think it is worth leaving them, but it is worth making a point to them. We deserve your respect and part of that is making sure our children give us at least a card on Mother's day. I am sorry, I know how much it hurts.

Answer 2

Happy Mother's day to all the mother's out there - have a good one

Answer 3

This guy is a real piece of work. You are the mother to his child. He should have done something to help your daughter make this day special. What he has done it give an indication to both of you that the women in his life do not deserve any recognition at all. He couldn't even be bothered with helping his daughter out. She is too young to know what day it is, but not too young to learn. Do you really want a man in both of your lifes that is teaching her that she is not worth it? That you are not worth it?

Answer 4

Some guys are just like that... I'm convinced they either:



1.) Weren't taught by their mom/dad that Mother's Day is in honor of mothers, in general, and if you care about a mom, it's nice to wish her a 'Happy Mom's Day.'



2.) Are a cheapskate, and don't want to buy anything... They don't even need to; they could do something that's free!



3.) Are annoyed with their girlfriend/fiancee/wife, and are bitter, in thinking that he's supposed to help give her a special day.



You have to ask yourself how important it is, to you, that he acknowlege you as a mom, on this day... He may do better, if you ask him to, but then, you know his true feelings about it, and I doubt it will mean as much, at this point... And, as you know, he was insensitive, when you brought it up.

Answer 5

u know all men see it things differently here is a man who knows ur a mother to a child and yet doesnt even cares enough to wish u a happy mothers day... on the other side years ago.. when i wasnt a mom yet.. my husband would give me a rose.. while he gave his daugther a dozen roses and my mother as well... one day i asked him.. why did he always gave me a rose.. if i wasnt a mother yet... his answer was.. ur a woman and everyone is a mother weather u have ur own kids or not.. ur appreciated and valued... i was suprised with his answer and the way he showed me love and appreciation... 10 yrs later we had our first son together... what i am sayin is.. i feel for u .. having a bf with no appreciation or respect or feelings towards you... happy belated mothers day to u....

Answer 6

Some guys are just stupid! I even sent my Aunt a present on Mother's Day and she isn't my Mother. I had something similar happen on my birthday last year. On his birthday I got him a card from myself and one from the kids as well as gifts. On my birthday I got nothing not even a happy birthday. That's okay though what goes around comes around.

Answer 7

OK so your BF Sucky Monkeys but it happens and I would know as for my birthday my BF gave me a ring like 3 weeks ahead of time and then on my birthday we talked for like 2 hours and we went to the movie theater with my family and my Birthday was mentioned several times but not once did he say HB to me.

But at least say hey I wish you would have told me HMD or something to acknowledge that I am still a mother if not your Mother. Tell him Lexi calls him a jerk for me please.:D

Answer 8

At the least he should have said Happy Mother's Day to you!! If he didn't want to go buy a card for you from your daughter he could have helped her make one for you. Well Happy Belated Mother's Day to you!!!

Answer 9

You're right, you're still a mother though you're not his mother, and this is a day to appreciate ALL mothers. He's being thoughtless. Don't do anything on Father's Day. Just sit at home and watch tv all day. He'll get upset, trust me.

Answer 10

He sounds like a complete @$$ hole! You are not wrong he is. He should have acknowledged you being a Mother. So therefore don't acknowledge his @$$ next time he wants you to cook or give him some sex. Simply tell him "You are not his WIFE"!

Answer 11

No you are not wrong! You are the mother of his child! Happy late mother's day!

Answer 12

You aren't wrong. he should have said Happy Mother's Day.



Well, Happy late Mother's Day :)

Answer 13

It would have been nice of him to say it, but really, you are neither his mother nor the mother of his child.

He sounds very insensitive by saying that you are not his mother, what he should have said was, "I'm sorry, I hope you are having a good day."

No, you're not wrong.

Answer 14

he should have taken the kid out to buy you something, or helped the kid make a home-made present. shame on him for not recognizing you on mother's day. you should rethink your relationship with him, if you were that important to him - he would have done something.

Answer 15

he should of got you a card a put the daughters name and on it and have her to say happy mother's day to you. and he should of said happy mother's day you to because you both have a child together

Answer 16

i agree w/ you. just the gesture would have been nice. it's not about being "your" mother. it's about being a mother in general. :/ ... but Happy Mother's Day! :)

Answer 17

Nah i dont think you are wrong. i am pregnant and i wanted flowers for mother's day.

Answer 18

he should have helped your 4 yr old in doing something special for you. He sounds like a real jerk

Answer 19

Yes, definitely. He...your boyfriend needs to get it together!

Answer 20

You probably arent wrong about your complaint however youre the one who picked this guy so you do have choices.

Answer 21

As much as it sucks, he shouldnt be expected to. Especially if its not his kid. My hubby didnt either, so dont feel too bad. Kinda burns tho doesnt it...

Answer 22

he is being selfish but men tend to "wave " off such events as unimportant , leave him be !

Go celebrate with your daughter , even if it is your day !

Answer 23

the boyfriend sounds like a [douche]

:l.

Answer 24

maybe you should have gotten married before have kid out of wedlock.

Answer 25

Too bad, he wasn't brought up right. Do you think you can fix that?

Answer 26

he doesn't sound very thoughtful.