okay. i forgot my dad's birthday..... so what? why is he so pissed off?

Question

i totally forgot it was my dad's birthday. so i didnt buy him a gift or anything. i only remembered because after dinner, he said "So.... aren't you goign to wish me a happy birthday?" with which i replied with "it's your birthday?" i know it was selfish of me to forget his birthday but why is he making such a big deal out of it?!?!!!? it's not my fault i forgot. i'm the only child and my mom died when i was young so nobody reminded me.
i still feel kinda bad though even though i dont think its such a big deal. its just a birthday! i went to the movies with my friends and just hung out with them the whole day while my dad was at home alone. so i guess i do feel bad.
what should i do? i dont want to apologize because then he might start crying even harder or something. he's reallly upset and i think he's making a big deal out of nothing.
what should i do? do you think he's making a big deal out of nothing?
im a 14 year old girl by the way. thanks

Answer 1

I know you're only 14 but believe it or not- birthdays are a big deal to a lot of people - even when you get older. Maybe he got so upset because you went out with your friends and didn't spend time with your dad. You only have one dad - remember that. Apologize anyway - maybe get a belated gift for him. Let him know you love him - spend a little time with him. Being alone on your birthday isn't any fun. Since your mom isn't there (rest her soul) I really think he felt even more alone - tell him you're sorry & you love him - he'll forgive you. Are you a Daddy's girl? If you are that could have something to do with him being so upset.

Answer 2

:( Aaaw, im sorry about your situation... I'd say "dont let it bother you" but it's easier said than done. I can only imagine how much you must be hurting right now, especially because it's not just anyone..it's your DAD!! He's made it clear that his girlfriend's more important...it's time you moved on with your life! You deserve better and honestly, he probably doesn't deserve to be in it! If he doesnt make the effort, than why should you? All the best of luck with everything!

Answer 3

I think he has a bit of right to be mad.



Wouldn't you get pissed off if he forgot your birthday?

You're his family, his daughter. It's possible he doesn't a lot of people in his life. If no one else wished him a happy birthday, he probably feels like he doesn't matter at all. That his birthday is nothing special to the people he cares a lot about.

Answer 4

Ok, let him forget your birthday next year and then look at your question. You sound very selfish and a spoiled rotten little girl. Your dad should come first in your life. Just think if you loose him, then who do you have -- your so-called friends? Yea, right.

Answer 5

it is sad that you did forget but its not that horrible it is easy to forget. tomarrow make him breakfast and make the day really special for him -make him a card and get him a gift if you can or bake a cake. tell him that your sorry and hope he has a great be-lated birthday. Im sure he'll smile and forget you forgot! -(put it on your calendar for next year ahead of time or on your cell)

Answer 6

Whoa. Really? Belittling his feelings will only make him angrier, so if you're looking to alienate your dad, congratulations. You did it. Pretty heartless of you. After all, you've only got one parent left.



And you're probably the only one who really reminds him of your mother. Your hair, your face. Must grieve him every time he looks at you and be reminded of the wife he loved and lost.



So your neglect hurts him. And, yes, neglect is a form of abuse.



"Not your fault"? Well, then, I guess it's his fault you forgot, then, eh? After all, you're just a kid, right? Just a kid.



Remember, if you want to be treated like an adult, you've got to behave like one first.

Answer 7

wow....i guess i do not see how you can do that, unless you are a selfish person who only thinks about themselves. id go buy him a a belated b-day card and a gift and apologize. you wouldn't like it if he forgot your birthday and didn't get u a card or a gift

Answer 8

maybe because he gave you the gift of life.

how can you forget your dad's birthday.

i feel sorry for your dad.

he's a single parent, and he gives you so much, the least you can do is make it up to him. in a big way.

no, he deserves to be angry.

Answer 9

Think of how you'd react if he forgot your birthday, then go from there.

Answer 10

He probably thinks you don't care about him.. Or maybe it made him think of stuff him and your mom did on his bday before she passed away.

Answer 11

YOU are the reason this country has gone to hell. you are the ME generation, and you don't give a damn, EVEN FOR YOUR PARENTS, but, what you better remember kid is, WHAT YOU SEW , SO SHALL YOU REAP.