My sentimental mother in law wants to buy our babys crib but my BF is giving me hers for free. What do I do?

Question

My MIL is extremely sentimental. She bought a crib for each of her grandchildren and now she wants to buy ours for our upcoming baby. I appreciate the gesture, but I had planned on buying a used set anyway and using the saved money or future gifts for smaller items. Now my best friend is offering me her used crib only, no other pieces. I love her crib and would gladly buy the matching pieces. Would I upset my MIL to suggest she buys the dresser instead? My husband says that she has a "thing" for buying the crib. Or should I just suck it up and let her buy it. Either way I'm not spending money on a crib, but we both can save if we take the used crib. Plus I'd rather spend 2-3 hundred dollars on an entire high quality used set than have her and I both pay full price for a cheaper set.

Answer 1

I'd say let your mother-in-law buy the crib. It obviously means a lot to her, and the gesture on your part will keep the peace. As you said, you're getting a free crib either way. Accept her kind gesture and express your thanks. You won't be sorry.

Answer 2

Tell her your friend is giving you her crib for free & you like it, so if she wanted to, she could instead buy you a bedding set. That way you're not spending any money & she's still a part of the crib, because she's buying the bedding set for it.

Or you could ask her if she would be willing to buy the dresser instead.

If she doesn't seem happy about either of these options, than give in & let her buy the crib. If it's her thing, let her do it, it's not costing you any money, it will make her happy, & you'll still get a crib. Just ask if you two could go pick it out together, that way you'll get something you like.

Answer 3

I think you answered your own question. You Mil can get the bedding and other things that will give her a lot of joy also. I don't think that I would mention more than bedding thought. lol You know your friends crib is secure etc. If you start letting people run you around you will resent it. This will allow you to be gracious about other things when you might not feel like it. Anything done lovingly can work.

Answer 4

just tell her nicely that you already have a crib available to you and that there are so many other things that you would love to be given by her.

Answer 5

just tell them