Is it really my fault?

Question

So my mom called me and asked me if I could do a favor and I said yes. The favor was to go into the room and get the deposit slips, I am 17 and have no idea what any banking stuff is I never used or have sealed with the banking system yet, so I wasn't sure what they were. But I asked her what they look like but then she just started yelling at me and not telling me what they loo like but rather saying "they are the deposit slips!!" so then I had no idea what to do or anything and she just started yelling horrible things at me and calling me a stupid son of a b**** and stuff like that. But I'm sorry I have no idea how to do these things. Then she hangs up and calls me few minutes later and blames me and says you just cost me 450 dollars and now your not going school shopping. So is it really my fault? Plus those things she said hurt me bad, it's bad enough I'm home alone 85% of the time. Is it my fault?

Answer 1

No

Answer 2

Of course not, If you don't know what those things look like and your mom doesn't have the decency to explain it to you, how can you know? She just cost herself 450 dollars because of her impatience and anger. If she's at home you could ask her to sit down with you and try to voice your problems in a quiet manner. Don't raise your voice though and refrain from getting angry.. if she interrupts you, you respectfully tell her - in normal volume, without anger - that you really needed to get these frustrations off your chest. That you're lonely way too often and feel like you're blamed and yelled at for things that aren't your fault. A mother should know that if a child doesn't know something it needs to be taught not insulted.



I hope this helps, good luck.



BTW; try to Google what the deposit slips look like ;) or better yet ask HER to show them to you!

Answer 3

Well, at 17 you should know some form of banking and what deposit slips look like, but that definitely isn't your fault what happened. You simply asked her for a description of what you needed to find for her so that you got the correct thing. It sounds like maybe your mom was frustrated and in a rush and maybe she was just expecting the phone call to be a little easier than it turned out to be.



She definitely shouldn't have called you names or said anything about you being stupid. If she had taught you about banking and things, you would know what to look for. If this is anyone's fault, it is your mom's.

Answer 4

well, your mom may be under a lot of stress and took it out on you and you actually had nothing to do with the $ 450.00 dollars she mention to you.



give mom a break and leave it alone for now and i bet later in the future she will realise her mistake by her way of thinking crazy that you cost her $ 450.00over a deposit slip.



be patience and look up things like how to open up a bank accounts and what is needed to deposit and withdrew money.



this would be some thing you will need later in your future



do not pay any attention to your mom when she acts out that you and says things she really does not mean.

Answer 5

What is wrong with the school that you go to? Most schools do teach how to handle a bank account and how to write checks and make deposits. Since your mother did not teach it either it certainly was not your fault but I would have thought you would have been interested enough to have found out those things by now! She does need to apologise!

Answer 6

If it were so important that she have the deposit slips at that second then she should have gotten them before she left. She lost $450 and she had to have someone to blame it on. Not ur fault!

Answer 7

no it is not your fault. she has to be responsible for her stuff. But maybe next time she can show you what the slips look like.

Answer 8

Tell your mom she's a good for nothing 2 bit angry psychotic c*nt. doesn't seem like it's your fault for not knowing these things and her not being able to tell you what they look like or where they are so forget it man. she leaves you to fend for yourself and do your own thing so just go about your own thing man.

Answer 9

no its not your fault, your mother is the one at fault for expecting a 17yr old to be responsible for her financial situation. she should take responsibility for her own finances.

Answer 10

You have a horrible mom... :(