Should I be upset or should I let it go?

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This is a little back story to my question so you can have a better understanding. Here is the thing, my sister loves to be the center of attention. She will tell you otherwise, but I know that she does.
My sister got married in 2007, I was engaged at this time. A friend of hers saw my ring and asked me about it. I told her what it was, end of story it didn't go any further than that, well her friend told my sister and no one else mind you. My sister flew off the handle yelling at me about how I was trying to steal her thunder, when I only told one person that had asked me about it.
In 2008 I got married, my sister was still bitter about what had happened at her wedding so she got pregnant. She went around at my wedding telling everyone how she was pregnant. I didn't mind really, I was excited for her but at the same time I knew she was being a b*tch about it.
Found out I was pregnant in April of this year, total accident, used condoms none of them broke, used spermicide, (TMI I know just bare with me), ect. I got pregnant anyway, I told my mom first, then I told my sister. I cried and told her about how I wasn't trying to steal her thunder, it was an accident, and that I was sorry. She said she didn't care. I was in the delivery room for my nephew and all seemed well.
She has been giving me her old maternity clothes, baby stuff that she isn't going to use, diapers her baby has grown out of, and a lot of other stuff.
I have a myspace page, and I wanted to decorate it with baby stuff. Like a countdown development calender, a baby background, stuff like that. I asked her for her opinion on some of it, and never got a response.
A couple of minuets ago I noticed her status "Jenna Honey-Need Ideas on how to steal back the Thunder from the prego lil'sis.. Hmmm? Divorce, bankruptcy, arson, blackmail. Give me some suggestions.47 minutes ago
Mood:skeemin "

I cried when I saw this. I'm not trying to steal the thunder away from her! I don't know if I have the right to be upset by this or if I should let it go. I'm not sure if its my hormones or if this is really really hurting me. What would you do, what would you say?
I know my sister will say something along the lines of "I'm just playing around, what are you hormonal?"

Answer 1

"Be kind to your enemies, they hate it"

That the best advise to give in a situation like this. Over look her childishness. Never scoop to her level. She loves playing mind games too much. You shouldn't be stressed at this time in your life. Your Prego. . . . ignore her dumbness.

Answer 2

Oh for Heavens Sake!

The reason your sister continues to act this way is because it's worrying you and your family so much, and you always give in. Your sister needs to grow up and get over herself, and you need to stop worrying about how you (keyword here: YOU) being pregnant is going to affect HER. Try this: the next time she starts "acting out" just imagine her as a 3 year old throwing a tantrum. Chances are, it will make you giggle, and you will see it for what it really is. Just like a 3 year old, if you ignore the bad behavior, it will eventually stop because it will no longer MAKE her the center of attention. You picking up what i'm throwing down?

Really Hon, just enjoy your pregnancy, don't stress, and have a healthy, happy, baby.

Your sister will learn as soon as people stop making her fits matter. Good Luck!

Answer 3

I think you should just try your hardest to ignore it and pretend that nothing ever happened. I'm assuming this is your older sister? She's probably just used to having the attention all the time. But if it bothers you that much, you should definitely sit down and have a conversation about the problems and worries that you have. From what you said, I think you both have a lot of misunderstanding. To me, she seems to be really jealous of you. Maybe in her eyes, you're the one that gets all the attention that she wants.

Answer 4

do what is right for you and your family you have to let her get on with it and stop being jealous and insecure. tell her while you are at loggerheads you are keeping out of her way as you cannot afford the stress it is causing you, there is no way you would take anything away from her she is your sister and you love her. and this silly behaviour is more like schoolkids not grown women.

Answer 5

let her know this is bugging you, shes just acting like an attention whore, i mean its human nature and i guess she not quite strong enough to fight that urge. I think that you should talk to her husband maybe, maybe he will see an underlying problem that could be eating away at her self-esteem.



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Answer 6

tell her you think im stealing your thunder now just wait then do every thing you can to try