Father hates tattoos!! help!?

Question

I dont want a tattoo, nor do i like them, but how do i convince my dad not to be so predjudace agaisnt people with tattoos! its really annoying! hes always like they are stupid the ppl who get them are idiots they are ugly and show poor judgement! ill never let you marry somebody with a tattoo!
I tried to convince him not too judge ppl as bad people just because they have a tattoo! its NO BIG DEAL!
what can i say to him because people at our church have tattoos and even small ones and he think they are bad ppl! it sooooo annoying it makes me sad and mad that my dad is so arrogant! helpp!

Answer 1

I agree with you on one end but disagree on another. Maybe he shouldn't be soooo judgemental but I had a CFO of a huge company answer that same question for me. His answer was "How many highly successfull people in business have tatoos or earrings?" Now that I'm in a long, steady job...he is right. Should a person want to look the best and be the best? Your chances of real success will go up. Also, ask most people who have tatoos for a couple of years...if they could change their decision...they would.

Answer 2

My brother is a tattoo artist and i hang out in his shop a lot and just about every person that has walked in was really nice. Except for this one guy that wanted a tear drop and "Hate" written on his arm in Kanji. Im 15 and my mom doesnt want me getting a tattoo till im 22 (dumbest rule in the world) so im driving out to my brothers shop on my 18th birthday and getting the first part of my sleeve done. But maybe if your dad would actually talk to some of these people and get to know them maybe he can change is views. my 72 yr. old grandma got a tattoo last summer by my brother haha and shes the nicest person you'll ever meet.

Answer 3

Ignore him...stand by what you believe in. You know that people make decisions and mistakes but it dont make them bad people and its your dad's loss that he could be so shallow. Can't teach an old dog though so let him wallow in his ways and you just make sure you dont grow up to be just like him



I say that because I know if he act that way towards people with tattoos, he's not tolerant of other habits people have and is probably a very standoffish guy...poor guy

Answer 4

hes set in his old school ways dear. there is nothing that you can do to change his way of thinking.

when your 18 (best to be older) and your ready to settle down and get married never mind what your dad thinks about your hubby to be it only matters how you two feel about each other.

but

don't get together with someone with a tattoo out of spite as this would hurt your dad and you too.

cheers

mystic

Answer 5

Get a tattoo. I have 3 tattoos, soon 4, and I am not a bad person. As a matter of fact, I work my *** off at school.

Answer 6

When I was younger I used to think that tattoos looked repulsive on females but always liked most of the tattoos on men except for evil ones or things like skulls. My best friend had some tattoos and I really loved her tattoos. I went for my first tattoo when I was nearly 40 years old and I am a woman and don't see anything wrong with them at all. It doesn't mean that people are cheap or bad people just because they have tattoos. I love butterflies and I have a tattoo going up each one of my legs from a little ways up my ankles to about 4 inches away from my knees with butterflies, flowers, and doves. I even had a tattoo done around my right ankle of a broken heart that has some small flowers like a bracelet. But my first tattoo was one of my nicknames which is Tigger and I have it tattooed on my left shoulder. My last tattoo is a huge Guardian Angel with a cross and banner that has my parents names and when they was born and when they passed away and it also has a dove that looks like it is coming from Heaven above it and that tattoo is on my left thigh on the top. My Parents was alot older than all of my friends parents because I was a late child and of course I am the baby and my Dad didn't get to see my tattoos since he passed away in 1993. My parents was very old fashioned too but my Mom didn't say that much when I showed her. She just said it was my body but she had to admit that they was really pretty. I consider my tattoos as my way of showing art where other people draw or paint. I don't know how old your Dad is but he needs to quit judging people by tattoos because it doesn't mean like I said that the people are bad, cheap or have poor judgement at all. I don't care for evil things or skulls and I do consider those kind of tattoos bad judgement but not all people are wrong. He shouldn't judge anyone especially if he is a true supposed to be Christian. I am a full pledged counselor and have a wonderful family and wonderful friends. They didn't think I was cheap or whatever just because I had gotten tattoos and as I said, I didn't get my first one until I was nearly 40 years old. I want to get another one of my Parents. It is a picture of them when they got engaged right before they married. I don't know if I will ever do it or not though. I don't want to put it on my shoulder or back or anywhere like that. I like to see my tattoos and not have to look in a mirror. Just tell your Dad that not all people are idiots and he shouldn't judge people that he doesn't even know. One of my best friends was pregnant with twins and the babies died at nearly 6 months old. They both wasn't developed enough and died from heart complications. She and her husband both got tattoos of their babies and where we go to have our tattoos, this lady can draw something just like it was a picture taken and put on your skin. She is amazing. Tell your Dad that some people get them so they can have someone or something from their past with them forever. Tell him maybe it doesn't make sense to him but there are good reasons in some cases. Tell him this story that I just told you and see if he thinks they are stupid for getting tattoos of their twins that passed away because they can't ever have kids again. Maybe he will think about it again before he goes off and mouths bad things about us people that does have tattoos. As far as I am concerned, he is the one that is showing poor judgement. Sorry my answer was so long. I was trying to think of anything I could to try to help you in what you could say to your Dad. He needs to quit worrying so much about what other people do and look in the mirror because he isn't perfect either. Sometimes I wish I hadn't gotten a tattoo because they are there for life unless you have the money for laser surgery but that leaves scars and I rather have my tattoos than scars but I won't ever remove mine for anyone or anything. And everyone that has seen my tattoos has said they are absolutely georgeous. Even old people have made compliments on mine. Your Dad needs to get a little more open and quit being so closed and downing people he knows nothing about. Good luck.

Answer 7

i wanna get many and my dad thinks their the ugliest thing

on earth



.....try giving him examples of succesful people who have tatoos

ex.kat von d



or any other person



this will make him see that theri not losers and to not

judge a book from its cover :DDD

Answer 8

You have to take it as his personal and individual comments.

Stop listening and reacting to such comments.

Either take him as he is till you stay with him (as a dependant) and until you become independent economically and ready to stay away from him.

Till such time, stop sharing your views with him. In that way you can avoid argument.

(As it is said: Argument is the worst sort of conversation)

Answer 9

Judge not less ye shall be judged? doesnt christianity preach acceptance and forgiveness for mistakes.



I guess everything is always different in practice..

Answer 10

yeah tattoos are cool form of expression. I know people that have tattoos that I would never think would have them.



These days everyone has one.

Answer 11

Tell him GEORGE BUSH had a tattoo .

and also tell him that in some cultures its normal .





"ONLY GOD SHALL JUDGE ME"

Answer 12

tell him that you know and that he's made that point millions of times. you can also tell him that god says not to judge others.

Answer 13

Your father is right

Answer 14

Wow...