Do I have to help My sister??

Question

I have always been an A+ student, and my little sister isnt. I am in grade 10, and she is in grade 6. My sister is at best a B student, but my mom cant deal with that. She always makes me help my sister with her homework and her projects. She lets my sister use the computer before me, which pretty much means I wont get to use it until it's really late. I have tried to explain over and over that my grade 10 work is more important than grade 6 work, and I need more time for my work. She just tells me a i'm a ***** and a terrible sister. I help my sister out until late, and dont get to go to sleep till about 12:00 - 1:00 on an average night because I stilll have all my work to do after my sisters. I told my mom that helping my sister is making me do worse, but she doesnt believe me because my grades havent dropped. This is only because I stay up the extra hours nearly killing myself because I dont want my grades to drop. Soon, i'm just going ot be too tired. What can I do?

Answer 1

get her a tudor. some schools alow kids to go during lunch to tudoring. somettimes they even had kid todors to help them out even more.

Answer 2

Sit down with your mom quietly when this is not a big drama. First, remember that your work isn't more important, you're equal in Mom's eyes.



"Mom, I'm feeling overwhelmed here and I'm not sure how to deal with it."



From what you've told us, you are:



1. Feeling pressure

2. Not getting enough sleep

3. Losing study time from tutoring.

4. Starting to resent your sister for all of the above, and it's going to hurt your relationship with her.



Ask if there's any possible way you could only be made responsible for your own work, because right now you're "enrolled" in both 6th and 10th grade at the same time and there's simply not enough hours in your night.

Answer 3

Boy sweetie, I feel for you! Could you do your homework at a friends or at a public library with internet access? Keep on as best as you can and continue to try to get through to your Mom about the situation. Let me tell you this, I am a Mom and I have two children. One is "gifted" the other is challenged. I spend so much more time with the challenged one just because it's the way it must be if we want a passing grade. My other child gets overlooked and believe me, I feel guilt about that. There is only so much we can do!! You have helped your sister and that's commendable, but in order to give yourself the best shot at life you must do right by yourself as well. This may mean setting limits. Help your sister for one hour each night. That's it. After that, it's your time to complete your studies. If Mom doesn't understand, ask HER to help your sister. She is, after all, the parent. Stand your ground on this. You have every right to, your future is at stake. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

What a shame your mom isn't listening to you about this, and calls you names! It is good to help your sister, but not at the expense of your health and goals. (you will be looking into college soon). Can your mother help your sister, or can she hire a tutor? Can you do some of your computer work at a library or a friend's house? Can you get a laptop for christmas?



Sit down with your mother to have a serious talk. Tell her it is very important to you. Don't say that your work is more important than your sister's, but that your work is going to suffer from all the focus and time you currently give to your sister. That you love her and want her to do well, but that you need help too. You are working for grades that will help you get into a good college and that this will hurt your chances of getting into a good one, or getting a scholorship. Give her options of how to help your sister (tutor, 2 computers, etc...) without hurting you.



If this doesn't work, you need to look into doing your work elsewhere than your home. You need to protect yourself if your mother won't. Talk to your school guidance counselor. Work on solutions. Don't take it lying down. Be a juvenile delinquent when it comes to your schoolwork. Good luck

Answer 5

First off ur being selfish, u should help ur sister in a way where it won't affect u, second your mother needs to purchase another computer and stop forcing more work on your sister that's to much pressure and she'll never improve and if you ask me I think she should accept the B average becuz alot of us parent may never see grades that good, tell her that everyone learns different and maybe should look into a tutor ur not an educator and you still need adquate sleep so u can prepare for the next day. and if I may ask what is your MOTHER help her with.

Answer 6

ok i am in grade 8 and my bro. is in grade 5. i get from A+-B+ and school comes naturally easy to me. i mean like to get an a+ on a big test i need to study at most an hour. on the other hand my brother is geting bs with a tutor and my help. as you can see i know how you feel and my main advice is to just do your homework right after school because if you start at the same time as your sister you will see a bigger conflict of time.

Answer 7

Get someone to help you talk to your mom matbe a friends mom or ur moms friend explain whats going on and let her know u dont mind helping sometimes but you'd like to get yours done first...at the very least and as a last measure let your grades drop slightly so that maybe she'll get the point good luck

Answer 8

That's a tough question. I can relate to you though. I'm in the 9th grade and have a 6th grade little brother, and whenever he has a question I usually have to help him because I can "relate to him" yeah, whatever. Try to convince your parents that they should get in the action with her, your parents are there to help to. If your mother wants your little sister to get better grades she should be pushing her onto getting her grades up and not making you look like the enemy. Also, you can say to your parents a contract like thing, say that you could help your sister when your done with yours, school is important, but don't let it rule your life.



Hope it helps

Answer 9

Not a very reasonable Mother. Ask that a computer time schedule be set. Help your sister AFTER your own work is done. It is your MOTHERS responsibility to help your sister before it is yours. Your sister could get a tutor if needed. She may just be doing her best. I as a mom am Happy with a B if my child is doing her best. If you are doing her work she will never get ahead. Talk to your mom honey.

Answer 10

Why doesn't your mom step up to the plate and help her?

It isn't your responsibility to help your sister. I can't help but wonder if perhaps there isn't a bit more going on here.

If need be, talk to your school guidance counselor about the situation. Perhaps she can get a tutor for your sister, or chat with your mom.

Good Luck!

Answer 11

There is nothing wrong with being a b student....i think your mother is driving you both to hard for perfection.Yes you should try hard but don't kill yourself that can lead to problems like stress and stress is a killer...it's always good to help your family but there is a time when they have to learn to work on it there own.

Answer 12

Homework is very very important

Helping your sister is about love for family, love for your parents, and something that will last you a lifetime

Your a sucess now and will grow from this point no matter what

You have to learn to to share your gifts, to reach back and help your sister come behind you.

Make a decision that the person in the mirror knows is right

Answer 13

It's a beautiful ide thatyou should help your sister, but it's not fair to you that you should use that much time on her. She ought to have supervision from someone outside of the family who is paid for their help and you should have your own computer.

If that's impossible for financial reasons then you should help your mother with your sister, but so should she. It shouldn't be your responsibility.

Answer 14

Well its a difficult situation your in, of course you should help your sister but not at the expense of your own education. The best suggestion I can offer is to maybe try teaching your sister your study habits so that she can become more self sufficient.



Good luck.

Answer 15

dont help her u dont have 2 be a better person u can be nice and mean at the same time!!!! I have a friend her sister is like that 2 but 2 tell u the truth she doesnt do anything about it! try getting your sister to tell your mom about your probs your mom might belive her!

Answer 16

Instead of helping her directly with her homework try teaching her good study habits and how to keep her grades up even after you are gone. Teach her how to think and how to research and where to go for help when she needs it.

Answer 17

Clearly explain your self to mom And your sister.. If no one can come to agreements then try family counseling ..Good Luck!



P.S. Life is too short

for anyone to fight or any disagreements

I have been through it all for several years

But Christ keeps my head up! God Bless You!

Answer 18

I think it is time for MOM to help your sister.You should be able to do your homework and then with your extra time then you can help.Tell MOM you want to keep your grades up but you can't if you don't have time to do your own homework.

Answer 19

Use the puter at the library, earlier in the day, then you can help sissy in the evening, your a good person to help your sis.

Answer 20

get a new computer



or talk to your sister about it



if a 6th grader takes that long to do homework, its a lost cause

Answer 21

still living with your parents, do what your parents want as if you were paying them rent. the second you have your own place, and own money , then you can say FU to moms requests. Its is NOT an easy step, and i would milk free rent and food for as long as possible.

Answer 22

maybe your mother should help her instead of you.... but at the same tI'me maybe your mom wants you to help her because she knows how smart you are and wants your sis to learn from you.... talk to your mom about it and let her know how you feel, im sure she will understand

Answer 23

stand up for yourself. Ok, help her out but only for an hour or so get you rown stuff done.

Your mum needs to get off your case

Answer 24

well 6th 10th college there equal for each of you u just have teach the younger one responsibility is tough but ur getting there help her out

Answer 25

Ck w your sister's school/teachers and see if she can get a "school tutor" to help her.



Good Luck!! : )

Answer 26

ASK YOUR MOM IF SHE HAS TIME FOR YOU! THAT YOU NEED HELP ALSO! SHES THE MOM NOT YOU! BUT IT S SWEET THAT YOU CAN HELP YOUR SIS!

Answer 27

yes you must help your sister if she ask for help

Answer 28

well keep helping her until u kill yourself u big baby