Parents mad because of grades?

Question

My parents are really mad at me because I got 3 C's 2 B's and 1 A on my semester report card. I tried my best, and my high school is one of the top 20 high schools in the country, so its very hard. I talked to them and told them i tried very hard, but they'd just ground me and told me that i need to do better or else i am not allow to go anywhere. I don't think its fair, i am a teenager, and should be allow some "life". I even studied for 10 hours + for my finals! I also go to math tutoring after school every Monday and wednsday for 1.5 hours. And last week I told my mom to stop "bitching" me about my grades, and she got so mad. She took away all my stuff (ipod, computer, car...). I paid for all those stuff myself too. What should i do to get them back and actually can have a life? Really need help from all the parents out there and people who shared the same experience as me.

Answer 1

you need to tell your parents that you tried really hard and it is just hard for you and when you think about it those are still good grades i couldn't do any better. you did mess up when you told your mom to stop bitching. i can understand why she took your stuff away. you need to handle the way you talk to your parents better and maybe then they'll understand. tell her you're trying as hard as you can and you can't get the grades they want but you need to find a way to tell them without catching an attitude thats why they don't listen to you.

Answer 2

Well first of all, I would like to know do you really try hard? Because if you did, the work/ study you've put in hasn't really reflected your 2 Fs. If you really and truly have tried, maybe look at the way you're studying? Do you only read over notes? Do you write? Do you make cue/ flash cards? Do you draw out mind maps? What's your technique with studying? Maybe if you make changes to that, you'll get better grades. And another question, do you actually talk in class? Cos if you don't, I don't know why you would be worried about getting a note from your teacher regarding that if you actually don't talk. If you do, maybe change that, talk less, and focus on your work and what the teacher is saying. If you have gotten Fs because you haven't actually tried, and if you have talked in class, be honest to your parents and tell them you will make changes in the way you study or just actually try harder to get good marks, and that you will try and be less distracted in class. Hope I helped in some way.

Answer 3

If you honestly tried your best and those are the grades you got, then it's very sad because you are being punished for putting your best effort forward. It may be hard for your parents to understand that you did your best because they cannot see all the hard work you do at school in class.



Sadly, I think your parents are overreacting, too. I think that taking away things like your iPod and car is not appropriate for someone your age, especially for a reason like this! That kind of punishment would be appropriate for an 11 or 12 year old. I know this doesn't work because when I was a teenager, my father punished me the same way until I was 18. It did absolutely no good, except that without a car or anything to entertain myself all I did was sit on my butt and watch TV (if that wasn't taken away), which lead to being slightly overweight and socially unpopular with no extracurricular activities. That IS a punishment.



I'm very sorry that I can't give a definitive solution. Your parents are in a position of power and seem to be very stubborn on the subject, even though I think it's very unfair. They need to consider how many parents have to deal with children on drugs, drinking, having sex and getting pregnant, and kids who bring home Ds and Fs! I made a D in high school, heaven forbid, and I still got into a great college. The way kids behave now, you sound to me like the son everybody WISHES they had.



You could try having them look at this page, whether on purpose or "by accident", and perhaps seeing other peoples' opinions will change their minds.



Or, you could try getting them to help you with your homework. Half the parents now couldn't do what their kids do in school. My parents couldn't help me with my homework after 7th grade! Maybe if they see how hard it really is, they will back off of you.

Answer 4

Parents are known to over re-act. It's obvious you've tried to see it from their point of view and I think it's very mature of you cutting your gaming time etc.

Tip #1. Don't use foul laguage, it will obviously make them more mad.

Tip #2 make sure you always try your best



If you try your best that's all the counts. Try to ignore what they say as long as your doing your best and trying your hardest, there is nothing more you can if you already trying your hardest,

The best thing to do is just put up with them for a few more years and move out when your 18 because it doens't sound like it's gonna get any better and if you've tried talking it out with them and they won't listen just learn from this experiance and move on with your life. Also i don't know what to tell you about getting your stuff back. Sorry

Answer 5

Study study more. Switch schools ?