im not being selfish. but i'm i being a little mean here?

Question

my aunt is going through some really hard times now. and today i just found out that she's going to be moving in with us. but not just her but her two kids as well. i have enough trouble living in my house as it is my mama just told me that her sister and her two kids are going to stay with us. now we had them at our house over the summer for the weekend the girls i mean and they made my life living hell. i don't want to seem like a whiner or that i'm being selfish but my aunts kids are bad and one is special needs. she recently got me yelled at by a person who has never yelled at me ever. if they move in i'm thinking of everything that will be out of whack and how crazy things will get.my mama said not to go out of my way to be mean to them but i'm mean to almost everyone in my house. she also said not to ignore them but i have no patience for children at all. what do i do. i feel that i'm being mean here and it hasn't even started yet. it won't start till tonight when they get here. i am also 14 years of age.

Answer 1

I think that is very hard and I wouldn't like it if people moved in my house when I wasn't happy with it. It will be tempting to be mean, but it will make the adults less likely to hear your point of view. I suggest you do what adults do - be polite and respectful, but campaign to have your voice heard and the circumstances changed.

Answer 2

I know how you feel. My mum always springs surprises on me like that. Here's what I do. I find something that I like, find easy and best of all relaxing. Put up with them for as long as you can, but when it gets to much go off to your relaxing place, stay there until you feel you are ready to come out and when your ready come out. Trust me it helps. Tell your mum you are 14 and that you need some me time. She will understand she was 14 once herself. If that doesn't work then just go for a short walk to clear your head. If that doesn't help I don't know what will. Be strong you will get through it. Let me know if it goes ok

Answer 3

Sometimes we have to make sacrifices for family. The best thing to do is try to act toward your cousins the way you want them to act towards you. Try to imagine how this move must feel for them. For you, it's still your house-- more people are just moving in. For them, they are going to a strange place because their mother is having "hard times" Double whammy. Try to be kind, and if you can't manage that, just stay away from them as much as you can. Keep communication open with your mom. If your cousins are misbehaving, she is more likely to be able to address it.

Answer 4

Just try to stay away from her 2 kids and talk with your mom about making sure that you get some space and time to yourself.



Good luck!

Answer 5

You are 14? Has it ever occurred to you that it's your mom's house ? The way I see it, is this: her house, her rules although I would speak to your aunt and her children about "your room"!