They harm the kids, and STILL regain custody,Why??

Question

My husband wants custody of his two small kids. The mother tried to run him over with a car then slammed/crashed the car several times into his building. She was arreseted made bail with out him knowing thus regained custody of the two babies. He called child protective services and they just said he has to take her to court. She has even said she will "take the kids with her when she dies" People say even if he does get temporary sole custody that she will just regain it because she is a women. As a child of abuse myself who was removed from my bio-moms care several times I want to know why do women who harm or try to harm their kids can just get them back after they take a few classes and say their sorry?
2nd question: How can we prevent the same thing from happening to these two children?
(Will they wait till the mom kills them or like my mom did to my brother, beat him so bad she shreded his shirt while beating his back bloody?)

Answer 1

She's only out on bail, she has to go to court yet, and hopefully they will sentence her, and then your husband will get custody. I think there's just a lot of red tape and crap and that's why this type of thing happens, very sad.

Answer 2

If there is repeated abuse of the children (and proof) she will not be allowed to keep them. It is true women are more likely to get children in the case of a custody battle, but when abuse is involved, it seems silly to think that she would get them back.



Even if they just make her take a class, if it happens again, I doubt they'd let her have them again.



And I hope they don't wait till it's as bad as it was for you and your brother. Hurry and get into court. If you ever find bruises or anything on the kids, call the police immediately, so you have proof later on in court.



How old are these children??

Answer 3

You need to separate your past and your emotions from this situation. The mother hasn't harmed the children, it was her ex that she tried to run down. Your husband needs to get a lawyer for custody and he needs a restraining order if she's homicidal. You need to stay out of it.

Answer 4

Yeah it really sucks that women like that can just get their kids back. It all boils down to proof, good solid proof. They won't believe the husband because they think he is just trying to take the kids from her. Unfortunately what you said is the proof that was needed. It really sucks.