I'm not supposed to look through my mail?

Question

ok so long story short: Moved to my bf's parents house with him, WAS living with him at my parents house. We are ALL ADULTS. We have lived here a little more than a month.
So when we moved here, my bf told me not to look through the mail which is weird to me, because if I happen to have mail how am I supposed to know? So a few days later I asked the mother when she was getting the mail since I hadn't been getting any mail which is unusual (and yes I had done a change of address) she had the mail in her hands and there is a table where she puts the mail. She was like "Non of this is yours you don't need to go through it I'll tell you when there's mail" so sometimes I sneek when no one is home and get my mail from the pile 'caz my bf FLIPPED out at me the one time I told him he had mail that his mom didn't tell him about. Now my parents are getting their mail here, and my bf's parents never said anything to me about it, but I saw it on the table, so I grabbed it. My bf has told me twice that his parents are PISSED about it. I've talked to my parents and they re did their change of address again yesterday. And then YESTERDAY as well, there was a huge ziplock bag of mail for my family on the mail table, and I KNOW it's from my bf's parents! One of the letters was from September 1st. So they've been hiding it? I told my bf who seemed annoyed that I said anything, and said "it must have been from the new owners of your old house" but it's the same bag his parents put his brothers mail, there was a piece of HER mail in it and the post office is forwarding our mail (we lived in a small town and the mail ppl. know us my sister used to work there) My bf didn't want to talk about it at all.
When I talked to his parents about the mail issue they were like "oh don't even worry about it! We just want to make sure they get their mail we wouldn't be upset with anything like that!" but then my bf's saying they are freaking out on him about it!
... What is going on? I'm so confused!

Answer 1

they are control freaks hunn...you need to get out of that house im not saying to end the relationship just dnt live there and have your mail and i guess your parents sent to your house or theirs and then it shouldnt be an issue or get a box for mail at your post office where everything should be sent.

Answer 2

it seems as if he is trying to hide something from you, be it a girlfriend or something else going on, but tell him that you want your mail. as if all else fails get your own personal post office mail box, and do not give him a key or even tell him you have a post office box. as this will be your own personal mail, which should be no business of his or even concern him. but as for his family to act in such a way about his mail, I do believe I would be suspicious about what is going on. there is something they do not want you to see that they are getting threw the mail. I do believe I would try and find out what the big mystery is, for the way they are acting. this is not normal, something is going on behind your back.

Answer 3

It seems to me that your boyfriend's parents might be a little controlling. Not allowing someone to read their own mail is suggestive that abuse might be present. Opening someone else's mail and reading it is a criminal offense. If the letters were open, his parents could even get fined

Answer 4

privacy issues on reading and looking at other ppl mail. best thing to is move out sum thing like that happened to me and when it did i moved out

Answer 5

move out as soon as possible.

I'm sorry you have to go through this but save up and MOVE!!!!



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