Not really a question.. just need someone for advice ?

Question

it seems that im like the least favorite out of my 3 siblings. My parents found cigarettes & a condom in my oldest sister's purse and she got grounded, but only for like.. 2 days.. and she is like so free now, and when my parents found out i got a C's in my grades, my mum was hitting my head and pulling my hair and asking me to leave the house, wich i did.. then they were asking me to come back, and after the next day.. i went home, and when i did, my parents were so nice. After a week has passed, my parents dont even give a dam about me. and they are so nice to my 2nd sister cuz she is so smart.. i mean, i cant be their perfect child. and my mum tells me, "i wish i cud have aborted you, without u in my life, it wud be perfect."
What kind of mom wud say that ??
well this isnt really a question.. so yeh.

Its kinda weird cuz im like crying my eyes out.
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Answer 1

You're going to turn out better than your siblings.

Answer 2

Unfortunately you don't have to pass a test to become a parent, only be fertile. What kind of of mother would say these things? A mental ill person, no doubt about it. The problem is with her not you. Your siblings are not perfect. You will never be perfect. Lucky for you that you will grow up and be able to move away from this sick person. Please try to bond with an aunt or grandmother. So sorry your mom is mentally ill.

Answer 3

Your parents are verbally abusing you and it's not okay. You have not done anything to deserve the way they treat you. Remember that. Tell your school counselor and keep telling trusted adults until they do something to help it stop. Another option might be to live with a relative or friend's family but only if they are are caring and supportive. The good news is you will be an adult one day and can make your own decisions and you can choose to keep abuse out of your life.

Answer 4

i am sorry you are having to go throught this. Yea no mom should ever say that to her child. somethings obv wrong with your mom. Noone is perfect everyone is going to make mistakes and that is just wrong how she treats you over a grade, and your sister only got grounded for 2 days for finding a condom i mean she should have gotten in more trouble. Just remember everything you go throught will only make you stronger. Try living with another relative to get away from her. Talk to her and let her know how it makes you feel when she says that kind of stuff to you. Sweetie i hope the best for you and that things get better. You are in my prayers God bless you.

Answer 5

Your parents my be jealous of your childhood life. You seem to have a sweet soul and they may think that you are an easy target. They want your sister with good grades stay focus if they decide to punish her it might take focus away. Your oldest sister they might feel that they have no hope for her that she is to far off the road to help get back on track and hopes that she learns on her own. Live your life but be structured don'tgo out of your way to show them up.

Answer 6

i understand where you are coming from, to say "been there, done that." is not an emphatical response but the truth for me. my said the same thing to me in middleschool when argued, right smack out of nowhere she said that. and i have become such a successful person now, finished two courses, one in college and one related to medicine, it made me a goal minded and stubborn individual. i fight when i know i am right and made me a stronger person. i suggest that all the painful things people say to you, most especially people you love, use it to your advantage. just think of it as character molding process, that you are on the verge of greatness. and what you do to prove them wrong is totally up to you. anytime you feel like you have been put down, look in the mirror, see if you like what you see, look for something good in you, your strengths and your potential. once you see those, bank on that and do whatever it is in your power to make yourself the best that you can be. never give up on yourself no matter what other people say or do to put you down. what happens to your future, is not their fault, it is your responsibility to yourself to make the most of what you have. yes, what your mom said is painful and it can cause wounds in your heart that can't be erased by time, i know, i have been there. but what happens to you, if you let it ruin your life, that will be your own mistake and you can't blame anyone except yourself. so be strong and keep praying. take it one day at a time, soon enough you will be old enough to move out of the house and live your life to the fullest. make no room for any regrets. to be unhappy is your own choice. so find other things or people that make you feel good about yourself and life in general. i sincerely wish you the best child. take care and Godbless always!

Answer 7

o god honey...you are like my counterpart!!!



your life is almost exactly like mine...



my oldest sister is a slut bag whore...she never gets punished or anything!!! i mean, deep down i love her, but its always "tiffany do this, tiffany do that..." they never once ask for anyone else to help!!!



my younger sister (only by 1 year) is a "perfect" child. she's great at ballet and good in school and loves happiness, rainbows, butterflies, little puppies, and dancing flowers...such a fake act. but she's never punished!!! and she's a little devil on the inside.



im the one thrown outta the house once every 3 months for losing my moms sweater by accident or getting a C on a test...ya my hair is pulled a lot too!!! and she broke my necklace!!



i know it sucks. sucks more than you think. but awwwwwww honey you have to stick it out. i dreamed of living with my aunt or my grandparents or my friend and how wonderful it would be, but in reality it will never happen...no matter how perfect it sounds.



i know ppl say "ur parents love you" and they do, they just might not like you. some parents werent fit to be parents, like my mom for example who hates kids and crap.



honey if you have to try to stick it out. im sorry i cant say more than that and give you feedback in my life.



im so sorry your mom is like mine, but in reality, when ur 18, you'll be outta there (only 3 more years for me!!!) and itll all be better. if something drastuc happens, email me!!! we'll chat, okay?



cry if you need to and i hope u feel better!!!

Answer 8

Sounds like your mother has some issues. I'd certainly let her know how much those words hurt you and I'd wait until she's not angry to tell her.

Do you have another grownup that you can confide in? I would do my best to try and talk to someone else and not bury your hurt.



It also sounds like you are an intelligent and sensitive person and I think you'll do well. Hang in! And when you need to talk to anyone we're all right here!

Answer 9

You will be stronger because of what you are going through however talking down to you like that is Mental Abuse. You do not have to take it. You can report them, if you are up to it. I am a former foster parent and I have dealt with many types of children. Abuse to children physical or mental is devastating to the child, then and in years to come. You do not want to follow in their path when you have a child.

Answer 10

I'm so sorry for you that your parents are crazy. I wouldn't know what to do if my parents mistreated me like that. I hope you have someone you can confide to because you need it. Your parents could get into seriouns trouble for things like that,That is verbal abuse . You may have a hard time proving it but if you get put out again or they get so bad you leave get the DFS in there.

Answer 11

My parents divorced when I was five and my mom insisted on having custody of the kids. She fed us little most of the time (close to starving) while she would pig out and get fat. She would beat us severely just because she was in a foul mood and not because we had done something wrong. All of us worked since we were young but we had to turn our money over to our mom, who spent it mostly on herself. We usually got very good grades, but she would tell us what worthless little sh*ts we were.



I hated all of that when it was happening to me, but realized that she was just one person and what mattered was what I thought of myself and just getting through it all. Parents are people and some of them are so much more fallible than others. I don't know what they are going through in their own lives that is making them this way, but they should never treat their children in such a manner despite any problems they might be having. Please be good to yourself and try not to let this get in the way of thinking that you aren't good enough.

Answer 12

Even though it's a fairy tale keep Cinderella in mind. Don't wait for prince charming but depend on yourself. I know you can do it. You are obviously stronger then you believe you are. Do your best don't worry about what anyone else thinks and try to find your place in this world and not worry about your place in that family. One day once you get the job you were made for you will realize THEY have problems and issues not you. Stay strong and go on. I know you can do it. Good Luck

Answer 13

wow ur mom sucks, but u moved out before and if whoever u were staying with will let u come back go for it it's not healthy for u to stay in a bad home life... if ur of age get ur own place if not see if a family member can help u out



good luck hun

Answer 14

That wasn't very nice of your parents to say and do those things to you. Your parents should not favor one sibling over another. You should all be loved and treated equally.

No offense, but I'm glad my parents didn't treat me or my siblings like you are treated.

Answer 15

on the real, im livinng w/ my grandparents cuz of that ****. my parents divorsed my dad kicked me out and my mom tells me that she wishes that she could c me carried of in a coffin. dnt stresss it. what u need to do is get out of that enviornment and prove to ur parents but mostly urself that u can achieve things on ur own. be the strongeer and better person.

Answer 16

It's understandable your mom's comments hurt you. She probably don't mean it and just said it in anger.



Have you ever read The Diary of Anne Frank, she felt the same way but at times she really didn't believe what she felt.



Hope you feel better soon.

Answer 17

omg that is so sad...after reading your message my eyes became watery.

Try not to think too much....and don't make the wrong choice in life.

When parents do these things....and when you are gone they will regret everything they have done......Your mom is so mean!!!

How can a mom dislike their child!!



I HATE IT WHEN THESE STUPID PARENTS DO THAT!!!

how old are you anyways?I'm 13.

Answer 18

I am sorry your life it like that.



Hang in there, things get better or you get old enough to move out and make your own life better.



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Answer 19

According to my councilor my Mom is "whacked" and I'd say yours fits right in there with mine.

Answer 20

dont wory its normal all the parents do these type of things for the betterment of their child. they dont really mean it for their bad acts. all parents love their kids dont take it seriously.

Answer 21

Finish school, move out, get rich, and laugh in their faces.

Answer 22

OMG, i feel so bad for u, if ur old enough i would move out

Answer 23

People do and say stupid things sometimes. Don't know what else to say!

Answer 24

i kinda like go thru the harsh words comin from a mother. but wat i learnt to deal wit it n i can teach u im me if u interested at [e-mail]