Question:
What, if anything should I tell my son about his biological maniac father?
Teri
2009-05-04 11:31:17 UTC
I have a 7 year old son with ADHD. He is an energetic, loving, yet very sensitive child. He currently know nothing about his biological father. His father has borderline personality disorder, is very controlling, manipulating, and abusive. My son's father has only limited court ordered supervised visits with his other two kids by his ex-wife. He has no legal rights to my son. The last time I saw him he forced his way into my apartment, physicaly assualted me and threatened to kill my son. Ever since I have had a criminal no contact order on him. The question(s) are should I tell my son about his father? If so, what should I tell him and how. I need honest answers. I feel like I am doing the right thing currently, but I worry as my son gets older. Thanks.
Four answers:
DM
2009-05-04 12:06:10 UTC
My sister had to go through the same thing with my niece. My niece is now 8 and is happy.

I would suggest you ask your son what he thinks about his father and ask him why he thinks things are they way they are. Meaning why he thinks you are not together with his father then work off of that. Kid's have a sense of things that we as adults forget about. I am sure he knows something is up. After you get his perspective you should ask him if he has any questions about the situation. This way you are not treading on sensitive feelings that he may have on the subject.



Good Luck!
Krista
2009-05-04 18:41:57 UTC
I would tell him that his dad is sick and can't be around right now. As your son gets older, give him the documentation you have. Don't bash his dad. He will be able to come to the conclusion on his own.
csi_speedchick
2009-05-04 18:36:17 UTC
You could wait until he's a teenager and if he asks tell him, but don't let it hang over your head like a raincloud. If he doesn't ask then don't tell him. If he asks today, however, just say that he's on a really long vacation.
Precious Gem
2009-05-04 18:40:38 UTC
For right now just tell your son his dad is sick and won't get better for a while. When he becomes older and can

understand better then tell him more.


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