I don't want my parents to die...?

Question

I dread the day my parents will die. I've even cried about it a few times, they aren't that old yet, but my dad smokes a lot and I always fear the worst. I don't want to lose my parents! I love them to bits I couldn't imagine life without them..any words of encouragement to help me get over this fear?im so scared..I never want it to happen..

Answer 1

I know how you feel. I'm 20 years old, my beliefs in my religion are really strong. I convinced myself to so many things, pondered on so many countless thoughts that I am practically immune to fear. But unfortunately it was never enough to stop worrying about my parents. Now, my parents aren't smokers. They hardly smoke at all. But I still worry about them. I always say to myself "God forbid that something happens to my dad at work! God forbid God forbid!". My mom is always home, so I don't have that much worry for her. But my dad is an electrician. I always think about his work, and what could happen to him at any moment, even though he is outstanding at his job. So, I call him every day, talk to him for a few minutes, just making sure he's OK. I ask him about his work, how he's doing, and tell him how my day was. The worry just fades away then.



But should anything ever happen to my parents, I'm training myself, from time to time, to think, and say: "It was just the time for him/her to leave... God bless you, mom/dad."

My point is, eventually, your parents will die, but you will die someday as well. Just know that, even when they die, they'll be in a better place, and will always be proud of you.

It's just the way it is. No one can change it.

Also, just accept your feelings, cry away sometimes if you must, but don't let it take over. All your emotions are normal. Always keep a bit of strength with you to manage that emotion. Eventually it will fade away. Trust me. It's what I am doing everyday :)

Answer 2

im in the same boat as you i have thought about my parents dying and i cry to when i think about it and think of how can i prepare or is there anyway i can stall this long enough where i will die first but there is no way to overcome the fear. no matter how prepared you think you can be the day it happens you can never be prepared. The thing i try to do is spend more time with them in maybe treating them like kids and use your money to maybe get things they have always wanted. just spend more time with them in helping them out or just talking about things or ask them how there day was.

Answer 3

Not many people DO want their parents to die. Its a horrible thought. But, that day WILL come and unfortunately, and there is no way to avoid it. What you can do is cherish each day as a blessing with them, honour them, and do what u can to make them proud. the best thing to always remember is that its NEVER goodbye forever! u will see them again someday, and when you do, each of u will be happy and healthy again. count yourself lucky that you have parents u love so much and feel so close to.

Answer 4

Dying isn't so scary. We all are going to die sooner or later. The trick to life is to never take one second of living for granted. Focus on their life instead of death. Enjoy all the times you spend together and this fear will disappear. Promise.

Answer 5

I am crying right now,my mom has fatty liver and she says she will die if we misbehave and I believe her.She said she won't,she will leave at some point in many many years from now.And she says we will meet in heaven and be happy forever.My dad works 16 hours almost everyday in a kitchen and he has a foot problem.But he is happy and pretty healthy,Remeber,They will die at some point in a long time,And when they do,You will find your way and when you die you will see them in Heaven and be happy forever :)

Answer 6

In third grade that was allll I worried about so when my dad was at work I would lay with my mom and cry there is nothing to do but see a therapist or just wait until ur not affraid anymore witch I had to do

Answer 7

(: all men are created equal

Answer 8

Walk your dad though the process of quiting tobacco. That will let you have more time with him.

Answer 9

No need to worry!