Is she just a bad teenager?

Question

My daughter, Jade is 13 years old and she is very difficult at school, I am forever being called in to take her home or have parent-teacher meetings and it is very tiresome.

She doesn't turn up to lessons and when she does she's usually very late (15mins+) She swears at the teachers and doesn't do the classwork. When she is criticised or told off Jade shouts, swears, bangs her head and throws things pens, books, calculators ect. She often destroys her work and refuses to follow instruction. She refuses to take part in lessons or any group activity. She starts fights and in IT lessons she logs people off their account and shuts down their computers. She doesn't pay attention and listens to her Ipod or plays with her phone whilst the teacher is talking.

Jade's been suspended and excluded from schools and the teachers are getting fed up of her. She's seen councellors ect. but won't talk to them.

Jade is very aggressive and she's been in trouble with the school and police for fighting, carrying knives, stabbing a student with scissors and destroying school property.

I punish her very severely when she is in any kind of trouble but it doesn't seem to make a difference.

I'm not making excuses for her but I am wondering if Jade might have some sort of behaviour condition/disorder that could be treated?

Has Anyone experience this kind of behaviour? If so how did you manage it and was it ever resolved?

Many Thanks,

Kathryn

Answer 1

It sounds like she has severe BESD.



My sister has it and she does some of the things you described.



"Behavioural, Emotional and Social Difficulty covers a continuum of severity and the full range of ability. It describes pupils whose difficulties present a barrier to learning and persist despite an effective school behaviour and policy curriculum.



At the milder end of the continuum, pupils have difficulties with social interaction and find it difficult to work in a group or cope in unstructured time. They may have poor concentration, temper outbursts and be verbally and/or physically aggressive to peers.



Some pupils display similar signs of low self-esteem, underachievement and inappropriate social interaction, but do not have behavioural outbursts. They will be withdrawn, quiet and difficult to communicate with.



Other pupils provoke peers and are confrontational or openly defiant and sometimes physically aggressive towards adults. They are often off-task and have a very short concentration span. Their self-esteem is low and they find it hard or impossible to accept praise or to take responsibility for their behaviour.



Some pupils cannot function at all in group situations and exhibit persistent and frequent violent behaviour which requires physical restraint."

Answer 2

Wow when did you start noticing this behavior? Has anything happened in the last few years that caused a makor turnover point? Maybe a divorce, a death in the family?

Answer 3

I am very sorry to hear yopur daughter is like that

well I can't help much but have u tried having a psychologist looking at her?



Maybe counsel her yourself and try to find out her problem

Answer 4

Ring parent line plus,or check out there website.

Answer 5

adolescent/child psychiatrist

i figure it's some sort of BD

maybe she's got another learning issue and doesn't know how to cope with it, gets frustrated, and doesn't try, you know?

Answer 6

she needs a good ole a** wooping lol

Answer 7

cough cough...belt cough.... extension cord...to the *** cough cough