One thing you have to understand is your step father is in a relationship with your mother and that he's trying to make it work out with him and your family. Its hard to cross the line of communication when it's between you and him. I mean this because he's just getting to know you and maybe he doesn't know how. Did he have kids before? Has he been married before? Maybe this is all new. A change in everyones environment will make you feel uncomfortable. It does with eveyone. About him sitting on the couch and asking you such questions is because he is trying to know where you stand. He wants to know what you've done and the way you think about things. He's trying to reach out to you and your pulling away...because you get the thought he is "creepy" or "perverted"....Im not saying that your all in the wrong. But if you think of him that way, the longer you think of him like that, the more uncomfortable it will be. The key point is, you should respect his honesty because he is reaching out. Most step fathers, will clue you out and not speak at all. Some are even abusive, and some are just not capable to have step kids. Your step fathers point of view is to undertand you better, and show you that even though he could never be considered your actual father, or replace him, he just wants you to be happy, and he wants to show you that you are loved unconditionally, no matter the circumstances before in the past or in the future. He's in a more uncomfortable postion than you- because it takes more responsibility to be a father than a child.
You seem like a concerned child and I totally understand. (Im a kid too (14) so I know how you could feel- though Im not in your situation)
Based on the fact that you are frustrated, before you approach your new dad, think about his position, in his shoes. Then think how it could be- if you let this work. If it helps, talk with your mom after you consider all that. Then you should calmly approach him and say that you and him need to talk. Start off saying that it's nice to have a new dad (wether you think of it that way or not) and that you understand it might be hard in his position, and that you understand he is trying to reach out to you and get to know you more. Then you can tell him that maybe you need your space a little more. And that sometimes the questions make you a little more uncomfortable. Explain that you want things to work and that you don't want him upset or mad and your trying to open up to him, and its hard...(that way too, you can relate with your feelngs about making things work) Then you should tell him that you guys should do things together fun- all of you as a family, and then sometimes you and him. Find a common ground. Find something you both would like to do. Try to build your relationship as father daughter. Your sister should do the same.
But you have to stop resisting and after talking with him- think of everything as a new begining- and him as a friend at least. Every girl needs a father. Plus you should give him credit that he is trying. Think of him as your father....no matter if he's blood or not. Understand that he loves you- and your mom, and that he wants whats best for you and your family. As the father, and the man on the house, he has to have a feeling of dominance and that he has support. So show your step dad that he is supported and your willing to let it work and give it a try. You should respect his willingness to be your father, and that he is not all in the wrong.
I hope all goes well. I will be praying for you, and I hope I helped! God Bless You Always,
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ps~ IF and ONLY if it gets worse- then you should talk with your mom more and if she does not listen, only then get help- but listen to me.....you should TRY to make things work- ASIDE the fact that others on answers think he is weird. You cant judge someone that soon and things take time. Don't let them freak you out.