My mom read my diary! What do I do now?

Question

My life has nose-dived since I started keeping a diary. I only had one for THREE DAYS. I left it lay out when I left the house about five days ago, because I thought everybody would respect my privacy, and, later, my mom comes into my room and reveals to me that she READ IT! She gave me this lame-*** excuse that "when I come and tidy up in rooms, I just open things to see what they are." But she never cleans my room or anything!

I wrote all of my darkest secrets in there because I felt like I couldn't trust my mom with them. My mom, whether she admits or not, is prejudiced and homophobic, and I just so happen to be bisexual. I'm also in love with my best friend (we're both girls) and how I feel immensely attracted to her (please no hate on this, just answer the question).

I don't know how to deal with this. I haven't been able to look her in the eye since, and I've felt completely numb. I think I might be becoming depressed, because the only person who can still make me smile is my little brother. To everybody else, I've been a complete b*tch to, even my best friend, because it feels like everybody's going to do this to me.

I can't keep a diary anymore and it feels like all of my emotions are becoming bottled up inside again. That was the reason I started a diary in the first place. I feel so betrayed and like I can't trust anybody. I can tell that my sister, my dad, and ESPECIALLY my mom don't look at me the same anymore, and it kills me. What do I do? Will I ever be able to trust her again?

Answer 1

You need to sit down with your mother. Honestly at the minute I'm angry at her. She had absolutely no right to read something she knew was private.



You need to tell her to wise up and tell her to apologise. Tell her you deserve some respect. Tell her you had secrets that you weren't prepared to admit, and you wrote in the diary with confidence. And to look in your diary shows how bad and disrespectful your mother is.



Make a point that your bisexual, and if she can't accept that, that's fine cause people will support you. Tell her you can't trust her, and if you cared, you would make an effort to make it up.



And don't forget the reason you started the diary. You had so many emotions bottled up you had to do it, just cause you feel you would be judged. Looked down on.



And tell her, her lame excuse of 'looking at things' doesn't work because if she had common sense, it's a diary! Your not meant to open it! Or look in it. And by the cover it should obviously be a diary or an untouched book.



I wouldn't blame you if you never talked to your mom again. It may only be a diary, but it's not that. She humiliated you, embarresed you, hurt you, disrespected you but most of all, broke that bond of trust a mother is supposed to have in her daughter.



You have been treated unfairly. Try and move on from this annoying block and ignore it. Just don't think of it. Oh well. Your mother knows now. She has broken the trust and you don't need to talk to her. She couldve had a friendship with you but she read something private and close to you.



Honestly, mothers should know better. It actually makes me furious when I hear stuff like that. Mothers have been teens so why can't they understand? Ugh -__-



Anyways, I hope the trust may sometime builds again between you and your mom, and I truly believe she has violated you. Don't lose sleep or worry over it, accept that she knows and leave her too it.



Honestly, if your family can't accept YOU, then don't fret over it. If they give you glances or stare give them one back. Your mother betrayed you and secrets out. Find someone who accepts you (your little brother) and thank him for it.



This world is full of people with no wit. Thanks for listening to my rant this took me ages to write! I hope you can get past this and think optimistic <3. I hope I helped you! From now on, write your feelings on paper then shread them. Hope it works out!



Love Georgia :o)

Answer 2

All the ideas to sucessfully hiding ur diary =) 1. Ask her what she was watching for 2. I say keep ur diary on a laptop with a password to entry the report three. Make the password some thing nobody would anticipate four. By no means EVER inform or write down the password EVER 5. Best write in it when no person is residence or on the identical floor as you 6. Always X it out when u go away even for a 2nd. It is easy to omit about it. 7. Hide it under plenty of folders 8. Do ur nice to no longer let humans know it is on the computer excellent good fortune, did not fairly answer the query, nevertheless it's pretty hard for humans to find it this way =D

Answer 3

In a way, its a good thing. in that sense that your mom will finally know the true you and maybe realize the pressure you are facing with. on the other hand you should utilize this diary as a message log between your mom and you, anything you wanted to tell her but couldn't, you could just write it down in the diary. trust is to be earn over a long time.



PS: its a parent thingy when it comes to prying into their children secrets, they just do without realizing what harm it might caused, however they are not to blamed. you will understand why after you got your own family.

Answer 4

I really think you should talk to your mom about all this. Tell her about how yo can't trust her anymore and how you tried to keep a diary, but she read it. Tell her that you need privacy, but at the same time someone to talk to. Explain the situation to her, I'm sure she will understand.

Answer 5

You can't do anything dears, as the things has happened! Just chat with your mom please!