Leaving household, suggestions on how to go about doing so??...?

Question

I am an adult who is leaving my household for various personal reasons. I do not wish for my legal "parents" nor "family" to ever find me. I have considered living off grid in a mobile home or leaving the country entirely. I am uncertain on what I should do. Is living in an apartment in another country better than living in a mobile park, or vice versa? Would my family ever be able to track me or would the authorities consider my new address and whereabouts confidential. My dad temporarily left my household a year ago, and my mom couldn't find his address. She even called the police but couldn't find him. It was only until he told her where he lived that she found out. Could the same situation happen for me? (I mean how not even the police could tell my family where I move)

Answer 1

Yeah it's probably possible. I mean, make sure you have the money. I would say the smartest thing to do is travel by car. Try to pay for gas and hotels and whatnot with cash, because I think your credit card transactions can be tracked. Although if you're an adult, I don't think the police would go looking for you because it's not like you're a runaway child. The only way you'd be found is if your family hired a private investigator, and that's why in the event they do that, you need to cover your tracks as much as possible. Of course, security cam footage of you could be found wherever you travel so I guess wear a hoodie or something til you get where you want to go lol. I mean, if you're looking for out of country though, plane is obviously smarter. I've never been on a plane so I don't know how the booking process is, but try to be discreet if you can. It wouldn't hurt to change your name either. Also, I wouldn't google trailer parks or out of country destinations that you plan to go to because your searches can be looked up and they'll obviously find you. And also, I think it'd be best to choose a more rural destination rather than a highly populated urban one, because high-security places are more likely to have security cams and tight profiles and records that could be tracked down by a PI. A small town would probably be best and so therefore, I think your mobile home idea is probably better than the apartment(because a place with apartments will definitely have you on file.) I don't know man, with technology nowadays there's really a lot of ways to be found, just do everything on the down low and move quickly. The more time you spend planning, the more vulnerable and susceptible you are to being found.

Answer 2

Your best option is talk to an attorney. The first consult is often free, and even if it isn't, it will be worth every penny. That's because you'll learn your options. There are ways people can keep all info about them private, but it can require a court order, where you'd have to prove your need for it. Also, you might ask them about a protection order. This can be sent to them without giving any info about you, and it might make them think twice about trying to contact you. If you reported it, they go to jail.



If I were you, I'd try to avoid leaving the country just yet. You'll have a lot going on, and that just adds more dimensions to it. One thing that will make things go easier for you is try to find a group home in your new city. People usually don't require a background or credit check (and you can certainly explain in vague terms why you don't want it). But what's good about these is you can avoid the typical things that get your name online -- utilities, wifi, even rent. Find a check cashing place for when you get your job and cash the check there if they don't pay you with a debit card . You don't need to go completely off the grid, but you just don't want your name out there.



Also, the cops aren't private investigators. They couldn't help your mom find your dad and they won't help her find you. This is another area where the attorney could help, because he'll know the types of things that PI's can access and how to avoid them.



If all else fails and you want to go extreme, just change your legal name. But you still want to talk to the attorney, because this, too, is public record unless you can get it hidden.

Answer 3

Unless you're underage or have committed a crime, there is no legal justification for any authority to reveal your whereabouts even if they knew them, which they wouldn't, because no governmental agency has any reason to be looking for you in the first place. You can even go to a nearby city and get an apartment, bank account, credit cards, cell phone, drivers license, pay taxes, rent etc and the likelihood of your family finding you without hiring a private detective is next to NOTHING. If you think they'd hire a private detective, you might have to do without a credit card for a while, because that's the only easy way a PI can track you. You're safe. Move wherever you want to. And good luck!

Answer 4

Hmmm. Interesting challenge. There are certain restrictions as to whom government agencies can give private info to. Like, the post office is not allowed to give out your address to anyone who wants it. Likewise the police are not allowed to do so. They don't want to contribute to possible stalking. But a private investigator could probably dig up info on you, and any snoopy person who has your social security number and your name can try to look you up on the internet. Much depends on how much personal info you have out there already. You can avoid some of the possible tracking by using cash only. Watching some of those police/FBI criminal minds programs on TV can educate you in how authorities might hunt you down. You can get a post office box so no one but the post office would know where your actual physical apartment/house was. I even use a po box for my credit card billing address. You'd not want to have a land line at your new place, because it automatically gets published in the phone book. You might get the phone company to have your phone number filed as "unlisted" but you have to request this. Living in a foreign country won't cure your problems. You'd have to have a passport to travel, and it gets scanned and logged every time you cross country lines or need to show some official id. You'd want to avoid getting a car, so your license plate won't show up in the DMV records. That means you'd have to use public transportation, but it's usually cash only. Just moving to another state might be enough to discourage your relatives from trying to hunt you down. Don't tell them you are leaving, and don't tell them where you are going. Avoid dropping a letter in the mail from your destination, since the postmark tells what city it came from.

Answer 5

I cant choose best answer because all answers are amazing and so helpful :)