Question:
How can I let my parents know that I want to be a nudist?
LiquidChicken
2012-12-30 09:52:19 UTC
I'm a 13 year old boy. I love being naked and i am pretty much every chance I get. But I'm not sure how comfortable my parents would be with this. I walk around the house nude when nobody's home, and go to and from the shower naked. I want to let my family know I'm an at-home-nudist, but I don't want to just flat out tell them, as it may be awkward. How can I let them know without just telling them?
Thank you for any helpful responses.
Seven answers:
Caleb
2012-12-30 09:55:08 UTC
Dude, you may as well get it over and done with. Just tell em straight. It'll save all the hassle of dropping hints and it would be far less awkward doing it like that.
Alishan
2012-12-30 09:56:42 UTC
13 is not an age at which you can decide to become a nudist and roll around your house naked. Chances are that your family will never permit it. You can do what you like when your alone but wait till your older before making such a move. Trust me.
Rick407
2012-12-30 12:09:46 UTC
First of all, don't just walk up and tell them that you want to become a nudist. You might as well say "Buddhist", since either way they're not going to understand what that means or how it affects them. Instead, just tell them that you've found that you enjoy being free of your clothes when you're home and that you'd like to know if it's OK with them if you continued to enjoy that freedom when they're around. Be prepared to offer limiting it to just in your bedroom with the door closed. They might be willing to tolerate short forays to the bathroom and to the fridge and back. Maybe over time, they might be OK with it in the rest of the house as long as you're dressed anytime you or they have quests, and as long as you can't be seen from outside.



If you have other siblings in the house, don't expect them to tolerate it as easily, or for your parents to tolerate it as easily for them. Adults tend to tolerate nudity a lot easier than the kids they taught to be adverse to it are. Strange, but true.
Dakota
2012-12-30 09:54:39 UTC
On your computer pull up a website about nudists ways and the benefits it brings this will help your parents know what your into, your parents definitely will read if they see a nude pic anywhere.
okuno gb
2012-12-30 10:01:34 UTC
i didnt tell my parents anything.... by 10 i was wearing only panties in around the house;by 12 i had the occasional naked stroll when everybody was home....by 15 i was full frontal and they all got used to it.....yea they wer concerned at first,but they got used to it....and am 20 now and life's been good.
Sky
2012-12-31 06:08:46 UTC
First of all, as you figure out how to tell them about your interest, read up about naturists/nudism so you're prepared for their questions/comments about it. A good place to start is "205 Arguments and Observations in Support of Nudism", written by The Naturist Society and easily found on Google. Also, think about yourself and your own motives and reasons for why you enjoy nudity and want to openly be a nudist. (You're already a nudist even if you have to keep it private.)



I understand your dilemma, wanting to freely be open about something so innocent, harmless, natural, comfortable, and beneficial while being afraid of punishment or humiliation for having such an interest. I was about 14 when I discovered nudism for myself after a lifetime of being taught body shame and embarrassment about nudity until I had a terrible phobia of it. There was no way I could talk to my parents about it because it was their close-minded, immature attitudes about nudity that caused me to have those phobias in the first place. I tried talking to them about it once and the topic was met with hostility and bad jokes. In your case you will have to determine of what sort of mentality your parents have towards nudity or "taboo" topics of conversation because you know better than anyone else here what they're like.



Think back about when you've heard them talking about various things. Have you ever heard them make specific comments about nudity, nudists, nude beaches, or the nudist/naturist lifestyle? How do they react when there is nudity in a movie? How do they handle times when you're naked such as in the shower; do they knock before entering the bathroom or do they just come in and say "I've seen it all already"? Is there ever an occasion where they see you naked even briefly (changing, running from the shower to your bedroom, locker room at a pool, etc.), and if so, do they say anything or express any kind of reaction? In addition to past things, pay attention to anything new from them. Any answers to questions like these will provide you clues about how they think about nudity.



There are a few different methods you can try to introduce them to the idea (all your choice depending on your situation). An indirect approach would be going nude in your bedroom and leaving yourself vulnerable to someone walking in and finding you nude. If they ask why you're naked, just say you like it better that way because it's more comfortable. If you have pajamas, stop using them and start sleeping nude; if anyone asks, say you don't like wearing clothes to sleep and nude is more comfortable. If you're in a situation like a pool locker room or something (probably with your dad), strip nude and change without a care in the world to show it's perfectly natural for you.



A slightly more direct approach would be to look for the topic of nudism or nudity in TV shows or newspaper articles, and use that as a way to introduce the subject to ask them what they think about it. That would allow you to state your thoughts and feelings about it without directly saying you're a nudist, and the conversation could go from there however you feel is best.



Even more direct, which I know you're reluctant to try, is to specifically tell them you're a nudist, love wearing nothing, prefer to be nude at home, and want to know how they would feel about you openly going nude at home. That's where your knowledge of naturism and its benefits would come in because you'd have to convince them your interest is harmless and innocent and they would get used to it. Even if you can't openly go nude, maybe they’ll agree that you're free to be nude in your room and around the house when nobody else is home so that if they ever do find you nude there won't be any shock about it.



And last, most direct but maybe not the best method, is to just start pushing your boundaries and go nude in front of them. Always treat it as no big deal, however they might find it so shocking or upsetting that they would go even more negative about it, refusing to let you go nude at all or talk about the subject.



One major bit of advice, though: no matter what their reaction, especially if it's negative or derogatory, always show pride and enthusiasm about nudism and your interest in it. Never show them any response of embarrassment or shame or they will perceive it as something to be embarrassed and ashamed about. Ultimately you'll have to follow their rules but if you handle the matter well enough and if they're open minded enough, they may compromise and bend their rules to help you be more comfortable and happy in your home. If not, you'll just have to enjoy nudism in privacy when you get the chance and wait a few more years until you're able to move out to your own place, gain independence, and set your own house rules.
M
2012-12-30 10:07:17 UTC
Maybe you should wait until your older to tell them..


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