I just need to rant about my mom?

Question

I just honestly feel like my mom is a horrible mom. She's always on me about something or other. For example today we were going to go to my aunts house because I really wanted to see her new puppies. She said we could go and I go upstairs to get ready. she tells me to hurry up and i do. When I come downstairs she's sitting on the couch looking pretty pissed and I only took 4 minutes. I don't want to get her angry so I go outside to wait for her. I wait for like 6 minutes and she still hasn't come so I go insde to see what's up. I open the front door and she starts screaming about how I took like a half hour to get ready and when I came downstairs I didn't even ask her if we could leave. I only waited outside bc I know if I tried talking to her she woul just flip. So I go upstairs and yet another day wasted. Ive had spring break this whole week and I haven't hung out with my friends once. Every day she whines about how I never even help around the house even though I collect and take out the trash twice a week, set up and clear the table, do the dishes and laundry, and still manage to finish 4 hours of hw every night. She has never once complimented me on my hard work even though she sees me stay up til one or two every day doing homework. She never lets me hang out with friends, not because she's worried about me but because she simply just doesn't want me to have fun. She's called me a whore before and never even apologized or noticed how much it hurt me. And another thing she does is she says I should pay her to cook and drive me to school because it's not her resposibility and she doesn't have to do it. Yeah well you're my mom. That actually is your resposibility. I'm just so sick of always having to deal with her crap. Sorry this was just a really long rant.

Answer 1

Yes it was, but you were honest and told us before-hand. It's a known fact that simply writing down your problems or 'venting' to others has the strange effect of putting those problems in perspective and making them seem a little less life-altering. Just curious, but does your mom have a YA user name so we can see what she has to say about you? :-)

Answer 2

It's okay to rant sometimes. It helps let out all the tension when you feel angry.



You should talk to your mother when both of you are alone and not doing anything. Don't yell. Speak calmly and firmly. Tell her how you feel. In fact, tell her everything that you've posted here. Ask her why she's acting this way. This can help you understand her, and her understand you.



Conflicts like these don't just go away. You said that you're sick of it. So resolve the problem! You need to take the first step. Move out and live with a relative if the situation is so serious.

Answer 3

Ouch... I'd say that does make her a pretty quick-tempered mom... Maybe she had an abusive childhood? There could be tons of reasons why she's like that. (No offence but,) Maybe she never wanted kids and one day found out she's pregnant. Where does she work, and is it a horrible job? Possibly she realizes she's getting old and is just pissed off all the time. Could be her husband/bf cheated on her. Maybe it's none of the above and she's just a *****, you'll never really know.

Answer 4

So call 911 and report her for emotional abuse, go to family therapy and actually make the situation better, or sit there and whine some more.

Answer 5

Trust me my mom did the same exact thing, but talk to her. My mom might even be worse but i've learned to appreciate her because i always thought i'd end up hating my mom. but i found out sunday my dad cheated on my mom and he moved out. so appreciate what you have.